Cancer and dehydration

Is she opposed to feeding tubes ?

If nausea is the problem ,there are many medicines for that.

And last ,some patients are helped by medicalmarijuana.

So very sorry to hear of your mother's condition. When my mother was terminally ill and getting very poorly near the end, she also stop wanting to eat or drink - she said nothing tasted right and she just wasnt interested. We brought her little portions of her favourite foods, ones that were easy to swallow - some really odd combinations but who cares as long as she liked it and was able to eat a little. In my mum's case that was jellied eels, prawn cocktail sandwiches and rice pudding. Try thinking of things your mother would consider a real treat and offer little amounts. Sharp flavours work well if her taste buds are affected, eg lemon meringue etc. I hope she remains comfortable and my best wishes to you during a difficult time.

thank you so much for your kind answer we will try that x

Both my parents had cancer. Dad Prostate and Dementia, about the last week ate virtually nothing, tried mousses, yoghurts, jelly, trifle, fruit like nectarine, banana. The odd choccy, a biscuit, if it looked as though I was eating them. Ma had Pancreatic and so did my partner, neither ate barely even drank. My step daughter made him carrot & coriander smoothies which he tipped in to my rubber plant soon as she went out the room. He did have warm milk and brandy two or three times. Ma was in California and I flew out not knowing I had just missed her. she did not speak to anyone for 3 weeks, barely drank and ate basically nothing. I think food and drink go out the window but try cocoa, ovaltine,bovril. Junket, jellies, milk jelly, rice pudding made with cream, egg custard or custard tarts, gooseberry fools, black or redcurrant, any thing that would be eaten as a girl. Rice custard.Bill ate spotted dick. In morrisons they have a lemon posset, small syrup sponges, Marks do a lovely custard or Vanilla sauce. I remember having junkets when ill as a child. Fruits were grown, berries, milk puddings. I hope you find something to tempt, savoury daft things like blinis (Marks) cream cheese & smoked salmon, caviar. Things you can sit and pick at so it is not a big deal, like a minute picnic, innocently eat asking "I am having a spot of something, if you don't mind... I have ... here fancy a bite. Napkins, not plates, looks less of a fuss and keep the innocent look, we Mothers know every look. If the family are there let them play their part, not scoffing the lot like a giant tuck shop. Be prepared not to get anywhere but Mothers always like to see their own eating so regardless you can create a jolly atmosphere, put old Black & Whites on tv, look through old albums, sing old songs, struck me with Daddy those days were what he wanted to talk about, people and places. Good luck, at least you know you will have done your best and won't later think you wish you had done, said. My heart goes out to you, keep talking about her, to her why not. God bless, chin up xx