Cant stop crying, I feel so helpless

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I've just got back from the doctors and burst in to tears. I feel so helpless I don't think I'm ever going to feel better. My doctor said I need to get anxiety management and there's nothing more he can do because all my tests have been normal. I said why do I feel so unwell daily even when I'm not anxious but he said it's all in my subconscious. I feel so alone even more now because I feel like this is it I've got to get on with life and suffer. I have no life because I can't do much on my own because I'm always so unwell ie dizzy and spaced out. How can I ever be independant again with out having to rely on others to get me through the day or drive and accompany me places. I'm 26 and life at this moment feels like its over like this is as good as it's going to get :-( I just cant believe this is all anxiety I'm still convinced its not all to blame to me feeling like this.

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    Anxiety can effect us all in different ways, so if the doctor has done tests and nothing has shown up, it sounds like it is anxiety based! It's funny how our minds work! Did doctor suggest any medication for you? Or just therapy based treatment? Try to keep calm and positive! There are a lot of people in your position! So don't feel like you're on your own! And there is help, things will get better!

    Dannielle

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    Oh Moo,

    I so feel for you having been where you are exactly now and them telling me exactly the same thing and I mean exactly.

    But I wouldn't settle for what they were telling me as knew it to be untrue.  As I was having a horrendous time with my hormones and knew it was them due to my training.

    So I did extensive research, more training and then found the answers.

    I am under a professor in endocrinology and there aren't many that specialise in this area.  Found him through an endocrinologist nurse at the pituitary organisation.

    Don't know whether you have had an implant or coil fitted or on the pill, but all of this does imbalance our hormones.  You can goolge merina coil and anxiety or five year implants and bipolar symptoms etc. etc.  My hormones have just been hyper for years and if I took the pill would be bouncing off the ceiling.

    I have helped so many people over this.

    But like you I couldn't drive due to the fact that our hormones control over 400 of our bodily functions and are our bodies building blocks.  They have such an impact on our neuro chemistry which I trained on in a drug rehab - hence the dizzy feeling - know exactly what you are talking about.

    But have had my hormones balanced back out and got my full independancy back.

    Good luck and always here if need advice.

    Big hugs Mel Xx

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    sad i feel the same way. im 22 and the past week has been the worst i have ever been. I cant eat or sleep unless im relaxed and work makes me worse. I have a bad phoiba of sickness and my family have been ill and it made me a wreck. im goin doctors tomorrow to see if he can help but i have tried most things. Anxiety can show itself in physical symptoms such as: dizziness, sickness and nausea, loss of appetite, headaches, tiredness, tummy problems/ ibs etc. its weird how the body reacts to stress. stay strong you can get through this. if your tests are clear then it defo is anxiety. i have many tests for certain things and i know that the way i feel is my anxiety, you just have to go about life as normal. dont stop doing what your doing as once you give up you will sprial. keep busy! smile
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      Hi Beth smile I am 22 and suffering with anxiety and low mood. Just wondering whether you are on mediation? Or whether you find any therapy helpful at all! I've only been getting help for my anxiety the last month, and I'm still not really sure what to try!

      Dannielle

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      hey dannielle sad do you mind me asking what axiety you suffer with like hwat are you afraid of? I have had cbt before and that didnt help, im looking in to seeing a phycotherapist that i have been reccomended as apprently shes very good. I have avoided mediction for a long time but recently started taking something called amytryptaline in a low dose which helped as i ran out last week and my anxiety has been horrendous since. 
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      Hi, not at all, I have general anxiety, waking up with feeling of dread in my stomach, convincing myself that it's because something bad is going to happen.. (Sounds crazy I know)! I've always had anxiety in certain situations like the doctors surgery... But in the last few months it's almost all the time, even when I'm just sat with friends! I am taking sertraline, which is an ssri, but still early days on this medication. Using diazepam small doses when I need it, and considering trying CBT, do you think it is worth a try?

      Dannielle

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      how are you finding the medication? my anxiety mainly is based on sickness. I am petfrified of being sick, fainting and getting an upset belly, so i often feel sick and dizzy and i have developed ibs through the stress its horrible isnt it! Yes try CBT it all depends on the person i think. some find it helpful and some dont but everythings worth a try. I wake up with a feeling of dread every work morning. i woke up this morning at lke 5 and though ughh i have to go to work today sad and then felt really sick.
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      It's very up and down tbh, I'm on week 4 of medication, and I've been told it takes 4-8 weeks to feel the benefits! I think I'm starting to feel small positives from it, but first two weeks were hard because of side effects! Diazepam is a god send, but only allowed it temporarily! I think I will try CBT, I find talking about it helps smile! Also my initial anxiety was because of a phobia of fainting, consequently I became terrified of any situations where I'd fainted, or felt faint before.. Doctors and dentists etc. it's a very difficult thing to deal with, anxiety can be so overwhelming! Stay positive smile

      Dannielle

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    p.s.  forgot to put Gp's or hospitals didn't or couldn't do right blood tests the professor did as they knew what looking for and what times to do them
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    You have to go back in time and ask yourself when this first started and also what events took place at that time too.  You will also probably find that there is a current trigger yofor your anxiety.  The doctor suggested Anxiety Management and has done so because all your tests come back negative.  This is good, it means that there are no major health problems causing your anxiety. I hate to say it but the doctor could be right and it could all be in your subconscious - i.e. hidden away in your mnd but subconsciously affecting your daily life. Be brave and say you'll do the Anxiety Managment Classes. Nothing ventured, nothing gained. He's not saying it's all your fault, you just believe it is! Good Luck. The way to anywhere needs a first step you need to take yours.
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    Hi Moo,

    I totally agree with what Gwen is saying the anxiety management will give you something under your belt.

    However tread carefully I am a trained counsellor and trained in a drug rehab with extensive knowledge of the subconscious which is known as the lymbic system and our neuro chemistry.

    If you tell yourself something more than four times your brain believes it that is how powerful the mind is - that is from other people as well, that is the subconscious.   Anxiety is a learnt response which covers up the feeling of fear.

    We all have triggers - myself included.  We all have fears - that is perfectly normal.  Our lymbic system stores these due to negative experiences and that is it's job.  Our feelings, emotions and flight, fight or freeze.  Any former shadow of those feelings will bring the experiences and those feelings right back.

    I would do your research however very carefully as I have picked up the peices from people who have had things instilled in to them by wrong advice.  A good recommendation is always best.

    Most of our fears are fuelled by false beliefs that others have instilled in to us. ie. you will never amount to much.  Yes there is also traumas that need resolving and challenging.

    I have worked alongside mental health, with people I have helped.

    I am not saying that people don't suffer from anxiety disorders, but I can tell by what certain people are saying whether they do or don't as they normally have to discuss what has brought them to now.

    Wishing you all the best.

    Mel Xx

     

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    Hello Moo, I'm sorry to hear that you are struggling.

    If it is any consolation to you please be assured that there are lots of people who have suffered the way you are, and they do get better in time, as you will.

    At 26 years of age the quality of life should be a lot better for you than you are describing in this post, so something needs to be done about it now to make it better for you.

    Anxiety can be a very real problem, and your doctor suggesting that you needed anxiety management must have seemed to you that you were being fobbed-off without any real progress being made, and I am quite surprised that your doctor did not offer you one of the many medications available to treat anxiety and/or depression disorders, because if he had you may be suffering less today than you are.

    Under the circumstance I would suggest that you return to your doctor as soon as possible and INSIST that you need more help, and quickly.

    Don't be fobbed-off.

     

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    Anxiety and low-mood can be debilitating. Has your Doctor suggested trying you on some anti-anxiety medication?

    Although i fought this to begin with, it can help to help you feel calmer and more rational. Then when you feel more calm, you can then hopefully tackle your anxiety issues easier.

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