Cant stop thinking about this
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I Had to ring my boss today. He was in a place that he couldnt hear me properly I think and I was trying to explain something all of a sudden I remember him saying that I was blabbering. I feel really offended now and cant stop thinking about it. I know sometimes i can muddle up my words when nervous. But when insulted i cant handle it. Im overthinking why he said it and trying to do empathy for him but i cant reassure myself. I didnt expect it from him and i was shocked i couldnt even answer back. How to stop being offended so easily or at least stop overthinking about it? Thanks guys
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sasical72 Sarah90828
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When I get stuck on a thought I say to myself...right, in the history of humanity how important is this?? or even, if I looked back on my whole life, how important is this?? and since the answer is generally not really, I then drop it.
Hope this helps!
bernipes Sarah90828
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I know how it feels! Once, in one of my first jobs, my boss told me to stop apologizing for a silly mistake (in an aggressive way) when I failed to make a bank deposit to the company. This also stuck in my mind for a while, but I soon got over it by following the advice of a colleague at the time.
She told me: Does what he told you define who you are? Besides, how many people in the world are going through much worse situations?
I repeated this to myself a few times and soon freed myself from this feeling of humiliation.
crispy76 Sarah90828
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Hi,
Your boss sounds like a bit of a bully, if he was in a place where reception was bad and he was having trouble trying to hear you then he should have used common sense and asked you to call him back when he was in a location where reception was better.
I also have an anxiety with using the telephone, it normally boils down to some people being arrogant / ignorant and at times down right rude. It sometimes feel that when I am making a call that I have to plan beforehand who to ask for and what to say, however other people (at the workplace this is) will just phone up and say whatever they are thinking with no consideration as to communicating their message.
jan34534 Sarah90828
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I was always easily offended also. but as I got older I realized that there are gonna be people out there who just blurt things out without really thinking.
They are truly not thinking about you when they do it. They are thinking about themselves. The next day those kind of people sometimes don’t even remember what they said.
I learned to stop taking things personally because nobody really cares.
In this world we have to toughen up a bit and realize we’re going to run into those kinds of people our whole lives. it’s best to just toughen up my mind and brush it off and MoveOn. These things happen all the time everywhere and the stronger you are the less it will affect you. I realized that my feelings don’t really matter it’s what I do with the situation that counts.