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sicksals
sicksals

does anyone know they boundaries a 100 percent?

​am still struggling

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  • Beverley_01
    Beverley_01 sicksals

    Posted

    Hi sicksal,

    100% no, I'm not certain of my boundaries, unfortunately. I still do too much.

    Beverley

  • bronwyn97278
    bronwyn97278 sicksals

    Posted

    Morning sicksals; I feel I know my boundaries (that is, how much I can do without suffering the consequences); but sadly, always somehow, let others dictate to me what they need/want, and I don't follow my own boundaries, and hence "let myself down that way".  maybe this for most of us, Hey?  We do know when "something" will set us back, but we havn't learn't to say "NO"  ???                                       Bron

  • dee53012
    dee53012 sicksals

    Posted

    Good queastion and good answer Bron.

    It took me to get diseases to finally so no to people. i burned the candle at both ends for so long, it nearly killed me. Setting boundaries is essencial for health and well being. Each of us have to figure out what boundaries we have to make to be well.  

    For me, I don't make apointments before 11:00AM. Ive learned that if i push myself too hard, I get flares. When I make plans with friends, there is a caviot; if I am flaring, I won't be able to go.  Sometimes I overdo it just because I am so sick of not doing things!  Today was one of them, but I had fun cheesygrin I hope I will think it was worth it tomorrow!

    I think I know my boundries pretty well, it is I who pushes my me, not anyone else rolleyes its my fault!   

  • Thanda
    Thanda sicksals

    Posted

    I dont have a good understand with my boundries

    But it can be very hard managing other people and even your own expectations of yourself

    I find it hard juggling friendships and them wanting to go out and me feeling awful

    I am in my young 20s and i guess from being sick maybe my values are a bit different. Eg: wanting to sit and have some quiet time, not into clubbing, would rather sit on the beach. But that could also be down to having very different energy levels to others

    As for saying no i end up with quite a bit of guild from my friends and 'why has it been so long since ive seen you'

    But i think its important to listern to your body and keep working out what works for you. And to really try to put yourself first even if it can be difficult.

    Writing your energy levels, how your feeling and what you have been doing in the journal is what im trying to do to learn my boundries because otherwise i just keep ending up so exhausted

    Wishin you lots of luck and health xx

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