Chickened out, chickened out of everything....
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A few of you may remember my last post from last weekend, most of you won’t. I had a GP appointment yesterday which I cancelled 15 min before I was due to be there (because I just got so nervous) and then I cancelled today’s and all subsequent “guided self-help” sessions (which, had I not quit, might have led to me getting some CBT), and then 3 hours later when I calmed down a bit and thought it all through I felt like a complete idiot for sabotaging the only treatment besides meds my GP offered.
And then to top it all off I’ve gotten really, really ill (universe trying to tell me I should go see doc?), so now I’m in bed with a fever. The only good thing about getting ill during a heatwave is I’m not feeling chilly. *silver linings*
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Davesoapbox anya.rose
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Loves and hugs
😃🙏❤️
anya.rose Davesoapbox
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You better get through yours tomorrow! I don’t think you’re in a position where not showing up or cancelling is a viable option anyway – they’d probably need to check up on you if you did that and then there’s no going back to work for you anytime soon. So don’t do what I did, not a good idea.
Be a good role model ; )
Davesoapbox anya.rose
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jean87936 anya.rose
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anya.rose jean87936
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Yeah I pretty bad at going to see doctors and I’m really bad at talking to them (make me nervous – don’t even know why) I am getting better with my GP tho, as I’ve seem him a few times now – I think I’d be fairly comfortable seeing him about a physical ailment, just get quite self-conscious about this sort of thing. I think I also just became very aware of the fact that there will be nothing he can really do, I just wanted to see him for, I don’t even know, advice, his opinion? I should have talked to the therapist but just felt so uncomfortable with her so in a moment of panic over just decided I was better of cancelling everything. Oh well, don’t think I would have liked CBT anyway and if I want to I can always still attempt to get back into treatment. At the moment it says I quite therapy because I “no longer require it” making it sound like it helped and I’m all better now (lol) so maybe I should just let me GP know about the real reason? That is, me being really uncomfortable with the therapy and therapist?
Have you told your therapist that the goals you set aren’t reachable for you at the moment? He should know about that, the goals could be made smaller or you two can “brake them down into smaller steps to make them more manageable” (using my therapists’ language here) : )
It shouldn’t feel like he’s setting goals for you, by the way, it really should feel like a collaborative effort. If you feel comfortable with him, bring this up. I’m sure he doesn’t want you to feel like he’s setting goals for you, it should be you setting goals for you but with his guidance and support.
Keep at it and let me know how you get on : )
All the best,
Anya X
jean87936 anya.rose
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How have you been
Jean
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anya.rose jean87936
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So sorry to hear you’re struggling : ( When I’m not feeling great and don’t really like where my mind’s going I’ll listen to music a lot, it really help me quite my thoughts (if that makes sense). It’s like listening to music helps me not thinks about negative stuff so much, it feels like putting up the volume on my iPod put the volume down in my head (lol I sound crazy!). How you ever tried that? Just lying in bed, doing nothing else but having some music (that you enjoy) playing in the background. Do you have any other thing you like to do which helps you to escape your worrying a little?
I’m feeling much better today, sun’s still out and I’m out of bed : ) I hope to have a productive day today and this weekend.
Really hope you feel better soon,
Anya x
jean87936 anya.rose
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Sorry for sounding so negative when you are feeling a bit up beat.
Have a grand weekend and speak to you soon x
william85041 anya.rose
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anya.rose william85041
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Yeah I’m not sure CBT is right for me either, in fact I’m pretty sure it’s not. I had one session of ‘guided self-help’ which is “based on the CBT model” aka a watered down version with a therapist who requires less training. It was painfully uncomfortable and patronizing.
I don’t really regret quitting the guided self-help with that specific therapist so much I just wish I would have done it in a smarter way, a way that wouldn’t left my GP informed as to what’s going on and why I’ve quit or a way in which I would have enquired about seeing a different therapist. Because at the moment officially I ‘no longer require treatment’ which considering anxiety prevented me from going to see me GP is a bunch of BS. But anyway I’ll sort it out : )
Thanks for your kind words ❤️
All the best,
Anya