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bikerjools55
bikerjools55

hi here again been a while, really struggling with the whole xmas thing as well really getting me down, apart from the food im so lonely and fed up. no friends or family around dreading it just dont want to be here anymore

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  • mariafitzc
    mariafitzc bikerjools55

    Posted

    sorry to hear you're feeling down bikerjools - I appreciate you being honest tho, its a struggle to get thru this time of year for me too - and for a lot of people - theres an expectation to feel joy etc but life is not so simple - people are bereaved, abused, dealing with addictions & those troubles dint take time off for the "holiday season" x sending you hugs, you're not alone in feeling that way xx M

  • katlouise1989
    katlouise1989 bikerjools55

    Posted

    Hi,

    Really sorry to hear that you're struggling. Eating disorders don't stop at Christmas and it can be incredibly challenging for sufferers.

    There are some really helpful blogs and articles on Beat's website (UK's eating disorder charity). Their helplines are also open all over Christmas and New Year, and they are also running online support groups too, so this might be a good place to 'chat' to other people experiencing the same thing right now. I'd pop a link in, but I don't think we're allowed to include hyperlinks on here, just search for beat eating disorders and support services when you get on their website. It usually comes up first or near the top in search engines.

    Thinking ahead, I know from personal experience that January is also tough with all the diet talk, so again, Beat may be a good place to talk through concerns you're experiencing then too.

    Some things which have worked for me are:

    • Planning meals beforehand so I know what to expect
    • Portioning my own meals out/discussing portion sizes with whoever is organising the meals
    • Avoiding a buffet style meal. For example we often have snacks like onion bajis or a cheese board. You don't have to have things like this, but if you do, it's worth portioning out rather than grazing
    • Take breaks, whether it's for a walk (thankfully my family live in a small village and the dog needs walking), or some quiet time in a different room.
    • If you are able to, set some ground rules about food and diet talk. In IP units, the words "I'm feeling fat", "I've put on so much weight" are banned at the dinner table.

    Stay strong, it'll be over before you know it.

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