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katie2705
katie2705

I just wondered how other people feel when they leave there comfort zone and leave people who they feel comftable around and have to socialise with different people and also how you deal with it?? Just want a few tips and advice really smile

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  • judy67286
    judy67286 katie2705

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    I don't like to leave my comfort zone at all. But we must work and pay bills and go for groceries. I have a lot of anxiety while driving. So I try to focus on the raideo or road signs. Sometimes it helps but not always. What does work for me is thinking about home and the feeling I have when I'm there. I've taken up crocheting and I'll think about that. I'll count things. The number of ppl that walk past my desk at work or road signs I see. How many steps it takes to get to the door leaving from work.
    • katie2705
      katie2705 judy67286

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      Yes, usually im at my boyfriends with him and his family but today I'm at home on my own... 2 things I'm not comftable with, being alone and being at home, but I suppose everytime you leave your comfort zone it gets easier and easier. I get scared If I leave my comfort zone for too long my 'comfort zone' will not longer feel comftable? if that makes any sense, may sound stupid
    • judy67286
      judy67286 katie2705

      Posted

      I understand. Does not sound stupid at all. Try and play some music that relaxes you. Burn a few candles. Watch a good movie one that takes you away. Cook a good dinner. Try and keep busy so your mind won't race. I know, eaiser said than done.
    • katie2705
      katie2705 judy67286

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      I'll defaintly try them things. Boyfriend thought better I should have a night at home to try get some distance and get used to it but I don't know If I'll feel too anxious and panicky. Just have to take it slow and I won't rush myself or put myself in a position where I will feel anxious 
    • judy67286
      judy67286 katie2705

      Posted

      It's a good idea. You should feel good and safe in your own home. So I agree with him on that. Take it slow. And remember that it's only anxiety and the attack will pass.
    • katie2705
      katie2705 judy67286

      Posted

      Yes thats true, It's more when it gets dark and I'm at home I feel anxious like im trapped? Can't explain it, its strange
    • judy67286
      judy67286 katie2705

      Posted

      But you are not trapped you can walk out your door anytime. But I can understand why you feel like that. Just try and get involved with a good book or movie. Take a hot bath. Eat some yummy food and relax.
    • lattifa7777
      lattifa7777 katie2705

      Posted

      wow I know exactly how you are feeling, I hate being alone too, it's soo strange I never was like this before I got ill with anxiety. I used to live my own company.

      now I get nervous panicky . I'm getting better at it, I am forcing my self to do it more. but it is hard.

  • punk
    punk katie2705

    Posted

    katie, I struggle going out of my comform zone but we all have to and it kind of sucks initially.

    I discussed this with my therapist and I really like few tips she gave me. She advised me not to please anyone just for the sake of it. Afterall, we can't please every person on the planet. 

    Second, she advised me to be myself and not doing any efforts that put me in distress. If people like your its good and if they don't not a big deal!

     

    • katie2705
      katie2705 punk

      Posted

      Thanks for the tips! They are good. Just want to be able to feel comftable in many places especially at home, just going to watch tv and make myself some food and try not to over think things. Don't know why it feels worse for me when it's dark.
    • judy67286
      judy67286 katie2705

      Posted

      Everything gets worse at night. Even when we are sick hang in there. It will be okay. I'll be here if u need to chat. Send me a message.
    • punk
      punk katie2705

      Posted

      katie I too get scared at times for no apparent reason. I can understand and relate with your concern.

      Just think it's another night and you have passed many nights sleeping sound, haven't you? Point is if you have to think about something and you can't help it, better it be a positive self discussion rather than being harsh on your self.

      Listen to soft instrumental music or watch a movie or read a book, this night shall too pass like many others, alright smile

    • katie2705
      katie2705 punk

      Posted

      Thanks I'll try my best! My boyfriend finishes work in 3 hours so even if I do feel anxious I can always stay here. 3 hours isn't a long time. Thanks for the help! smile
  • elizabeth2244
    elizabeth2244 katie2705

    Posted

    My comfort zone is my apartment being around my dog and birds and when i have to go out my anxieties go up when i am out side and around other people too. 

    Its hard to deal with socializing, and i have a lot of fears when i am around a lot of people. It seems like i am calm around my dog and birds at home and when i am not around a lot of people this is my comfort zone being at home with my animals 

    • katie2705
      katie2705 elizabeth2244

      Posted

      Yes I feel anxious at night mostly especially when I'm at home I don't like being at home. I usually stay at my boyfriends but he's at work right now and I just feel like I'm gonna go crazy one day from feelin like this
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