Social Phobia
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I have Social Phobia re: asking people into my home, this includes extended family and friends. I have managed to avoid home situations and my family and friends kindly make allowances and work around meeting me rather than visiting me.
I have had CBH but was unable to get to the point of inviting people to my home, I guess you would say this was unsuccessful.
I am celebrating 50 years of wedded bliss next March and would love to celebrate with my nearest and dearest but already I am having sleeplesnights at the very though? Can anybody help?
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julie1111 phyllis4
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lor793 phyllis4
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denise35212 phyllis4
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I've had panic attacks/anxiety for 4 years now. I avoided work meetings, everything that involved social gatherings, I even avoided my daughters school plays etc.,.
What helps me is this, daft I know. Sit on your own, close your eyes, relax, imagine a busy social gathering, see how you feel. I felt sweats, shaking, felt sick, I said to myself "bring it on", nothing serious happened. When you go out with your nearest and dearest, keep busy, think busy, laugh, joke, talk, this takes your mind off social phobia.
phyllis4
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denise35212 phyllis4
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Hope all the comments to you have helped!!. I'm so glad i'm not the only one who suffers like this. I was at an appointment today, the lady asked if I still have anxiety/panic attacks (with the patronising look and voice), she then asked if I carry a brown paper bag in case I hyperventilate!!! - how very ignorant.
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victoria55453 phyllis4
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Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary.
I suffer with GAD and social situations are one of my triggers too. I do sympathise with you. I had a panic attack recently in a car park just before a social event and unfortunately, I couldn't go in on that occasion. I also suffer with sleepless nights every night. they're a bit naff, aren't they?!
Anyway, I've been thinking about your post. Your party is in March, you say. Well, is it possible you might be able to do baby steps, working up to walking and then the run in March? By that, I mean, perhaps have 1 person over for a cup of tea for half hour and then 2 people over for lunch and then a group of 4 over for dinner.... For example? Do you think that would be less intimidating that jumping in at the deep end with a big party and no practice? What do you think?
phyllis4
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I know it's down to me to try and conquer this problem but when the anxiety kicks in I am powerless.
I have just proof read this post and I sound really disabled by my phobia when really, I have a fabulous life with my friends and adorable family.
It is just this one high jump That I cannot seem to get over and consequently make me feel sad that I am such a wuss.
Once again thank you for your valuable support and your congratulations. I must be doing something right to be happily married for 50 years.
Also good luck with your anxiety as you say it is really naff! Phyl
victoria55453 phyllis4
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Try not to give yourself such a hard time about it. we all have our things which make us apprehensive. It's very common and perhaps trying to accept that it makes you feel uncomfortable rather than telling yourself you're not conquering it immediately would be the first step. If your husband confided in you that having people over made him anxious, I'm pretty sure you wouldn't tell him to just fix it immediately and give him a hard time if he didn't, would you? What would you say to him if the roles were reversed?
christine60192 phyllis4
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Christine xx
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