Intimacy

It is a very tricky subject. When I am having flare up the last thing I want is to be intimate with my hubby! Luckily he is very understanding.

I dont think it is the tablets more the extreme fatigue that comes along with lupus.

A tip that I have found is maybe try spending time in bed first thing in a morning rather than waiting until the evening! This when I find it is the last thing I feel like!

I also tend to have an afternoon nap at  weekend and my hubby is more than happy to join me!

Hope this helps a little and hopefully you will find your mojo!!!

x

Hi,

Some of the side effects of the meds could be to blame, but as Katieo says feeling like crap puts you off sex anyway!!

I always put my lack of libido down to menopausal symptoms and then post-Hysterectomy pre-HRT dryness (OMG so sore, like glass cutting!!) but even with HRT I get sore and really don't feel like engaging in sex most of the time. I now use a non-hormonal moisturising gel in addition to the HRT which has helped. I take Hydroxychloroquine and Amitriptyline both of which have dryness as a side effect so may be they have contributed but I also have had episodes of gritty dry eyes and mouth long before being diagnosed with UCTD, so as you can see it's a bit of a conundrum!

Honestly I think it's a bit of everything and now just smile, fantasise about Keanu Reeves and lubricate!

Best of luck!

I agree with katieo, I is difficult. I usually lie on the bed in the afternoon, and again, we do lie in  on a morning. It does usually work.. Good luck..

Hi tanya it probley is just the lupus flares really that put me off intimacy but im not old enough yet for menapause so i just assume its my illness that i have odd off days ... Never thought about meds being the couse which is likey too ..... But me n hubby try get breaks away just two of u just gives you that exiting feeling of fun ...