Concerned that I may have erectile dysfuntion....
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Before I start, I'd like to make two points:
Firstly, I'm not proud of my lifestyle but I haven't come on here to be judged. I'm writing this for advice on erectile dysfunction. I'm not interested in judgemental opinions.
Secondly, I'm no wordsmith. It's not my intention to be deliberately vulgar, but I'm just writing the facts honestly and bluntly. If you consider yourself easily offended, then it might be better to stop reading.
Anyway, about me... I'm a 38 year old straight male. I don't believe I have any health issues. I don't watch what I eat but I eat a relatively balanced diet and I'm not overweight. I do not smoke or do drugs. I usually drink a glass of whisky before bed, but that's usually the only alcohol that I drink. I do not exercise, but daily I probably walk a lot more than most people do. For the past month I have been taking an undecylenic acid dietary supplement for a candida issue that I convinced myself I had.
I travel a lot, so I find it difficult to start or maintain serious relationships. I haven't had a serious partner for around ten years. In that time, I have had numerous short "flings" and numerous one-night stands and until now I have never suspected that I may be suffering erectile dysfunction. I have recently been out of the country and I met a girl through a dating app. Upon meeting her for real, it became apparent that her pictures had been heavily touched up and she was at least ten years older than she was claiming. It had been six months and I was so desperate for sex that it was affecting my concentration at work. She was up for it, so I tried to make it happen. Despite starting with a healthy erection, I simply wasn't attracted to her at all. I could sense myself getting more and more flaccid. In my defence, I wasn't getting much assistance from the girl, who did nothing except lie on her back. I wasn't enjoying the sex and I felt sure that I wasn't going to be able to finish so I asked her to finish me off by hand, which she did.
Two days later, I was still feeling unsatisfied, and I managed to snag myself another hook up via the same app. This time the girl looked even better than her pictures. She had exactly the sort of body that turns me on and was also very pretty. I felt sure that I was going to have a great time with her. Again, I started with a healthy erection and I was enjoying the first few minutes of intercourse but, after a change of position, it quickly became apparent that she stank. To be completely blunt about it, her arse stank of s**t. It turned me off completely and despite trying to continue, I rapidly lost my erection. It didn't help that the girl was giggling while I struggled to continue (she seemed oblivious to the cause of my sudden flaccidity.) On this occasion, I couldn’t even finish myself off by hand until she'd left.
Now, even though I can easily attribute my loss of erection on both these occasions to the girls I was with, I can't lose the lingering feeling that maybe it's something more. I keep wondering whether I am suffering from some form of erectile dysfunction? I don't know how long it'll be until I next "get lucky" but I know my ability to maintain my erection is going to be worrying me.
I guess I should also point out that I usually masturbate at least once a day, and I don't have any trouble bringing myself to orgasm within a minute or two... but I am usually a lot more vigorous with myself than I ever could be during penetrative sex.
Sorry for the essay. Any opinions?
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anon97616 dan39232
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ive had the same happen, lost mine when we switched and her arse stank. To be honest i think its just the things that turned you off.
andy30670 dan39232
Posted
You need to go to the doctors see if you can get any treatments like Viagra or something to help it can happen to anyone as i have few friends as it has happened there only 30 there on Viagra
mike18928 dan39232
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you really shouldnt worry too much as there are trigfers like this for men that are soemtimes hard to come back from.
id rest easy in your case as REAL ED wouldnt let you be able to masturabte whenever you feel.
this has happened to me too, a girl sat on my face once and i got a wiff of sometbing i didnt want to, went soft and she had to blow me for a good 10 minutes till i reached fill erection, i thkught i was done for but she kept insisting and i popped right back up.
its very important how you handle your next encounter as you can put yourself into this psychological loop which will trigger performance anxity and may leave you dissaponted.
in your case i wouldnt worry, try to go into your next encounter with a different mindset, if you go in focusing on staying hard it will most likely turn out bad, jusy enjoy yourself and dont be smelling no more booty holes man
Wee_Dugie dan39232
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I fully agree with Mike18928 - the only things I would mention to look to if this does not sort itself out long-term is that not long-after I turned 30 YOA that I needed to start using C*** Rings for a 'helping hand' in staying hard. Much later than this I started using a Penis Developer, purely for a more all-round healthy penis - and yes, I can confirm for other readers that Developers and Pumps do very little for size!
The issue I would highlight is that I used to masturbate frequently and make myself ejaculate within a minute or two, also. Then, I slowed the whole process down, and took the approach of seeing how long I could actually gain pleasure from masturbation without making myself ejaculate. Eventually I managed to hang-on for an hour, then comfortably for 2 hours, with brief periods of no stimulation during these times. I do not sleep straight through at night, so this is the period in which I use these typical time periods for self-pleasuring.
One other thing I did at the time I developed this 'skill' of hanging-on, and more relevantly, really enjoying these sessions, is that I learnt about core-muscle control - and, perhaps the more essential one, of doing what are commonly described as Kegels exercises for men. Look this up on line at a future date - and as I also say, these exercises sure help with bladder control, so when you hit 50 plus years-of-age, you can prevent accidental urine leaks and so on ... much more hygienic too!
I hope this gives you some more things to ponder, as to what you may feel like trying in future years - in the mean time I would certainly follow everything Mike has suggested ....