Confused
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Hey everyone
Well guess I should start off by telling you my story
I'm 22 and recently had stupid unprotected sex with someone I'd only known for a couple days , any how I ended up getting multiple things from him, he gave me Trichomoniasis , chlamydia and unfortunately herpes :,( I'm broken coz he told me he was clean and everything I believed him ( I'm still asking myself why ) i know I got this stuff from him as I had my check ups a week before I stayed with him and I hadn't slept with anyone but him after my checks, I texted him ( out of anger ) said some nasty things too him and then thanked him for giving me herpes ( sarcastically thanks ) I'm more upset about the herpes as I'm stuck with them for the rest of my life! I've read some information about them but I just start crying coz of it, I'm honestly scared that I'll keep having OBs as I suffer from bad depression and anxiety, I have no idea how too tell my next parter I have them ( still single ) but I'm honestly so broken about having them I know there's heaps of people out there that have them and have only had 1 or 2 out brakes in the 20 years they've had them , I haven't even told my family I have herpes I'm scared about it and I just wish I wasn't so stupid for trusting some silly male who promised me he was clean, so my question is will my depression keep giving me OBs? Or if and when I get a new partner can we have unprotected sex and he won't get them ? Will the 2nd 3rd ect .... brake outs be as bad as the first ? I had a lot of pain from the 1st outbrake ( currently still going thru 1st outbrake ) I just need some answers too put my mind at ease so I can stop worrying about it all.
Thanks everyone
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john71455 Justcoz4
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Did you do any test?
Did your doc confirm you have herpes
Justcoz4 john71455
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Yup I did
Yes doctor done tests
And yes doctor confirmed
I'm currently taking medication for the 3 infections
Justcoz4
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john71455 Justcoz4
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If your on medication and no sores then its safer to have sex without passing
And yes first outbreak is hardest. Following will be easy and less frequent. Things like stress, depression etc trigger more outbreak so that's why u have them. Eat healthy and stay happy to reduce OB
There is no cure but treatments r available so must manage it it properly.
Justcoz4 john71455
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I'm on the medication for a week ( think it's only too clear it up )
Awesome that helps me but will definitely be using protection everytime now.
I'm slowly getting my depression under control but getting the call from my doctor about being positive too herpes just knocked me down again 😫, but thank you kinda put at ease now suppose I should stop worrying about it n let the medication do its thing and hope I don't have an OB for a while
FelizCastus Justcoz4
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That's terrible he gave you so many things! He sounds like a walking STD nightmare. Gross.
As for herpes, it's important to know which type you have. Do you know? Hopefully they typed your swab. Genital HSV1 rarely causes recurring problems for most people and is less infectious, while genital HSV2 tends to recur more often and is quite a bit more infectious in comparison. Given the big difference, it's important to know whichh you have.
Stress does not always trigger outbreaks. It varies from person to person, as do other triggers, and the stress that does tend to bring on outbreaks is not your everyday stress but significant prolonged stress. If you have lots of recurrences, there are medications you can take to help control outbreaks.
Unprotected sex, even whilst on daily suppressive meds, is not advisable, especially if you have HSV2, unless your partner knows and understands the risk. Although the risk is reduced whilst on the meds and not having an outbreak, it is never zero.
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Justcoz4 FelizCastus
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I did and I feel so stupid I texted him and I told him everything he gave me and he didn't even text me back too say he's sorry or he's sorry for lying ,I'm unsure if it's 1 or 2 I will call and ask my doctor shortly, I definitely won't be having unprotected sex until I'm in a settled relationship and he knows. This out brake I'm currently having has been horrible I'm glad it's nearly over, but thank you so much for your information puts my mind more at ease.
carol58382 Justcoz4
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Im so sorry. I know the pain you are going through. My out break lasted forever. I get outbreaks every three months it seems. This site helps very much when it comes to talking about it, advice, and its comforting in a way.
When it comes to telling a new partner its not as bad as you imagine. Most men are surprisingly accepting. I know its terrifying.
I have really bad anxiety and suffer from depression along with terrible self esteem. Im past chunky and í thought with having herpes no one would ever want to be with me for sure.
I told the guy Im talking to in a text. In my mind it wouldn't be as humiliating and the rejection wouldn't hurt as much as in person. He took it very well.
People are more accepting. Never loose hope, things will get better. If you need someone to talk with you can message me.
Justcoz4 carol58382
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You don't have too be sorry it was my stupid fault. 🙁 Aw really that's horrible I really hope I don't get that, it actually does so many understanding people.
Yeah I've been talking too a guy for ages now and I stupidly chose this other guy over him , he's forgiven me for chosing the std guy, but I'm scared too tell him about the herpes , I'm worried he won't wanna talk too me anymore,
I will try n tell him tho he does have a right too know if we take it too the next step
I'm even scared too tell my family , I'm scared too speak out about it like people will look at me different now because I have this
But thank you I will