Confused about HSV 1
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Okay so I had unprotected sex over two weeks ago. A week after, I had bumps on my mons pubis, I believe they were just horrid ingrown hairs gone wrong. I got tested anyways and the Genital Herpes (HSV 2) came back Negative but my HSV 1 test came back Positive. I am so confused since my partner had no sore on his mouth & I never got a herpe sore on my mouth after sex with him. As a matter of fact, i've never had a herpe sore on my mouth in my life. So confused as to why this HSV 1 test came back positive? Could it have been a false positive ?
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sue50146
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BTW: they took samples of my bumps. I did not get tested via blood.
denya7397 sue50146
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Even without a cold sore present there's still shedding. Also, i have not heard of false positive swabs but i do hear of false negatives. They would not diagnose you with something that was actually negative especially since the swab specifically showed whether you had HSV1 or 2.
sue50146
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Yeah im just pretty beside myself at this point I cannot believe this happened. I was indenial at first but I guess I just have to accept it. I was just so confused as to why I did not have it on my mouth since I kissed him too. Its so scary knowing this is still contagious without symptoms. Wish there was a cure and I hope one day there is a cure for all of us who have it.
denya7397 sue50146
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I was the same, only got diagnosed last month a couple days after i turned 21. Whilst i was waiting for my results all week id be on this forum comparing my self to others who had been diagnosed convincing myself it isnt HSV because mine were sores and most i was seeing had blisters until they called me and told me. To be honest i still do now but it does get easier i remember crying and wanting everything to end and now i'm at peace with myself. I'm also sure there's a vaccine for HSV that's being worked on right now.
sue50146
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We all just have to learn not to beat ourselves up over it. I ALWAYS thought I was being proactive I would look at my partners mouth and genitals to see if there was any foreign stuff going on but never really knew it was possible to get something WITHOUT an outbreak. Its all about the luck of the draw. I almost didnt go to this kids house, my old fling has been begging me for 8 months to see him and I kept saying no but this month I caved and went to see him. I shouldve held my ground and never went since I had a bad feeling about it anyways. If i never went, I wouldve been better off and without this HSV 1! Good Grief. Life sucks
denya7397 sue50146
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your situation seems like your telling me my own story because i held off for months from mine and then i caved in and saw him whole time i was saying no to seeing him aswell i remember at one point i got out of his car because i had a bad feeling then obviously last month i caved in. Even when he came round i had a bad feeling i wish i held off and its the worst thing because he was asymptomatic. The only reason i now know it was him was because a girl came back to him that he slept with way before me with her results which were positive. And honestly! i wish i could go back in time and told him not to come round.
sue50146 denya7397
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Ugh I wish everyday we can turn back time! I'm sorry about your situation as well, its crazy how we are so similar. I blocked this kid's number all of 2020 and January 2021 i unblocked him cuz I just thought he'd not reach out ever again knowing hes blocked or delete my number but nope! I got a text from him out of no where in January like three weeks after unblocking him and from January-July i told him I want nothing to do with him again but August came, i got lonely and bored, and caved! and it sucks we cant be mad at these guys cuz they dont know they even had it. I just am still so in awe we can get it WITHOUT an outbreak. That is the scariest damn part of it all. Wish I knew that before! I just feel very unclean and ugly about myself I guess since this is permanent but hopefully time will heal my thoughts about this.
denya7397 sue50146
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what's crazy is i used to block him too LOOOOL and then i unblocked him and added him (snapchat) and then yeah this happened lool ffs like i cant lie i felt so lonely so i thought ill just invite him round well look at me now looool. And honestly!! i wish the asymptomatics had outbreaks so then atleast that would drive them to get tested instead of spreading it unknowingly. And me too im even having a little outbreak right now not bad as before just 1 tiny sore. I feel so unclean too and ugly and im dreading the day i ever have to disclose to a partner so im holding off. But im in a H group on fb and some people who are genital HSV positive and have been with their partners for years have never transmitted it so in a way i guess it gives me hope if i ever get into a relationship of course ill have to disclose but im so scared omg.
sue50146 denya7397
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HAHA they shouldve stayed blocked! Shouldve stuck with our intuition! Now do you have HSV 1 or 2? Guess theyre right when they say "when youre thirsty do you drink poison then why when youre lonely would you go back to someone toxic?" but like i said down the line we couldve gotten it even if we never went back to these men! I know or i just wish only people with visible symptoms can spread it, that would make life so much easier and peaceful. Life aint fair! I feel you on that one, but the right one WONT run when you have to give full disclosure. Thats crazy how married couples have never transmitted their herpes to each other but we go back to someone ONE time and end up with this. ugh!
denya7397 sue50146
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i have HSV2 and honestly!! the whole time i was worried about catching chlamydia or ghonorrhea however you spell it meanwhile never thought about herpes looool would rather have that. Always thought if someone had herpes it'd always be visible, well i was wrong about that. Should've just kept him blocked. And literally its crazy how some don't transmit to their partners like looooool i wanna take whatever they take!
sue50146
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I jinxed myself too ! I was just telling someone back in June/July how herpes is my biggest fear. But what are you gonna do. If i never went to see my old fling & didnt end up getting it from him, then who knows I couldve gotten it in the future with a boyfriend or husband, thats how common this is. So petrifying.
denya7397 sue50146
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i always thought id never get this and i know i wouldve been the judgemental type if someone i knew had it and thats the stigma towards it and now i guess god kinda said " imma put you in your place today" looolll
sue50146 denya7397
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yup! if a man was ever interested in me and hit me with the "i have herpes" i wouldve ran for the hills! god truly hit us with the karma or whatever. My dad has cold sores on his mouth and i would always joke around about his herpes, some kid in a frat that I knew got herpes from a girl he had sex with and i was grossed out when i heard! so god slapped me in the face with my biggest fear for judging everyone else. yeah when having sex i IMMEDIATELY hope they dont have herpes or AIDS. crazy how life works. life goes on i guess! I have HSV 1 down there so im just waiting for one to destroy my mouth area at this point.
denya7397 sue50146
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i dont know why but i would've rather had 1 than number 2, 1 is supposed to be less aggressive than two but so far my ob's havent been as bad as my first outbreak i had about 13 sores down there reach to the anal area. Whereas now i only get 1 tiny sore. But honestly! and i guess thats just the stigma i guess yours you could just say " i have exactly the same strain that you have on your lip but down there so we both have it" incase anybody tried saying anything i guess thats why id rather of had number 1.
sue50146 denya7397
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yeah I guess the 1 is the lesser of two evils. oh my god that mustve been so painful. god the human body doesnt treat us the best at times! where do you get your one sore now? i thought mine were just ingrown hairs since my bumps were on my pubic bone and they weren't blisters or clusters but there were 4 scabs after a few days and thats when i felt depression wash over me. yeah thats prolly what I will be telling my future partners when I feel better enough about myself to have sex again. and i havent had sex in a year and a half so the kid i unblocked was the first sex session i had in a while since January 2020 and I end up with herpes in August 2021. ugh biggest nightmare of my life
denya7397 sue50146
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its crazy because i was being celibate for 22 months and then i got lonely so i contacted him its the worse because i felt like i did all that to be infected the first time i had sex all over again it felt like a slap in the face. And i get my sores anywhere but this time its just above the clit.
sue50146 denya7397
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OMG SAME. literally was celibate for 19 months which is the longest i've gone without sex and I was so proud of myself. then he contacted me and I drove 1.5 hours to contract the biggest fear of my life. Okay one sore isnt bad at all but the constant reminder of having what we have will always sting. stay strong!
denya7397 sue50146
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honestly, i think this was the longest i went without sex was hella proud of my self now im stuck like this lol will probably end up being celibate even longer now.
sue50146 denya7397
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yup same here, i am turned off from any sexual activity for the rest of my life. i'm just going to live my life and pretend i dont have it, mind over matter! gotta do what you gotta do to keep that head held high