Confused about my herpes

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Hi, I was diagnosed with genital herpes last week and had an agonising outbreak; eventually it's subsided but I still feel sore, this week I had an outbreak in my throat; which I know is rare but I know it was herpes because I had had oral sex with my partner on the sunday, and on the monday I had the same fever, dizziness and nausea as I had on my first outbreak. Also the sores in my throat gave off the same pus and after being prescribed acyclovir they've diminished greatly.

The thing is my partner hasn't been able to get a herpes test as of yet (sexual health clinics don't distribute them and he's recently moved city and doesn't have a GP) but considering I was completely exempt from almost any male contact bfore I met him (went to a private girls school and am 17) and he had had sexual contact before he met me (he's 22) I assumed he'd given the genital herpes to me and is asymptomatic; I'm just paranoid about it being my fault I just don't know what to think sad is it me that's caused all this?

The worst part is we're long distance and I'm estranged from my parents and in full time education in my last year; which means I'm always under a lot of stress, having this disease has just ruined me completely I'm trying to come to terms with it but it's so freaking difficult when I keep having outbreaks :'/ I've managed to convince my GP to give me a month's worth of acyclovir as a suppressant over christmas but to be honest I barely know what genital herpes or herpes is; my school had no sex education and tbh there doesn't seem to be much out there in the education system for this at all, I'm just lost and confused sad

Please answer,

Thank you

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    Just to note I'm criticially underweight with an awful immune system which means I get ill alot, I also have a tendency to faint and suffer from vomiting; I've never been in the best of health which is why i think it's hit me so hard
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      Why are you underweight? You really need to address your other underlying health conditions or you're going to have a miserable time w herpes. If your immune system is that poor, you need to inform your doctor of this and request daily therapy. However, you stated after your initial outbreak genitally, you healed in a week and that is very quick for a primary outbreak. It took almost 3 weeks for me on medication even and I had severe nerve pain down my buttock and legs. So I'm taken back by how quickly you healed, but getting it in your throat is a sign of someone w a compromised immune system. 

      It is likely you got this from your bf and it sounds like hsv 1, which is normally known as oral herpes. As that's the one that causes herpes esophagalitis. There is a chance your partner is asymptomatic genitally, but likely that he has cold sores on his mouth. If he doesn't have it genitally, then he could of passed it to you through oral sex and kissing. 

      One major concern of mine is that, what is a 22yr old doing w a 17yr old child? This is not something a child should be doing w and a great example why an adult has no business being w a girl your age.  I'm assuming you live in the UK and the reason behind why he seems to be having a hard time getting himself tested. 

      Have you had yourself tested for all other STDs?

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      I've been underweight all my life but it's started to worsen now I live alone, my GP was supposed to assign me a dietician but the NHS in the UK is awfully disorganised. I'll definitely bring it up as soon as I run out of acyclovir, my genital outbreak hasn't healed it's still in the process of healing, by subsided I mean the pain not the actual outbreak.

      He does get cold sores around his mouth; I was never sure if they were or not but I think it's safe to establish now that they definitely are, in the UK our relationship is completely legal and am 18 next month. I can understand your shock perhaps as a US citizen but I can assure you our relationship dynamic is not improper. Yes; it's almost impossible to get a herpes test with UK doctors if you're asymptomatic rolleyes

      We both had full STD screenings at the beginning of our relationship which is why having this happen has been so startling :'/

    • Posted

      Well even if legal, it's a tad disturbing w the age difference, especially cause you were w him while you were 16 or younger too. 

      Well sounds like he passed it to you through oral sex and kissing.  During outbreaks take 3000mlgs of lysine daily, eat pineapple daily, take 3xs the daily amount of vitamin C daily and 1000mlgs of lysine daily when not broken out.  During obs or feeling it done on, take asany warm baths w Epsom salt and gargle w warm eoaom salt water as well. It is safebto drink small amounts in order to get all of your throat, but it can act as a laxative and is used as a natural laxative.

      Although you guys got full std workups, unless specifically asked for a herpes test, it is jot included. It is the same way in the states.. You have to ask.I think it's disgusting that countries don't do this and even worse how they are in the UK w testing. This is the reason herpes is an epidemic. It is proven that the ones doing the spreading for the vast majority of cases, are the ones unaware of their infections. The  eolke who are aware of their status are safer and less likely to spread it.

      Even if he gets tested, if he hasn't contracted it genitally, he's likely yo come up negative on the test although he has it orally. Myself and everyone I know who has hsv 1 orally test negative for hsv 1. People who have hsv 1 genitally come up positive on tests, but I think orally your antibody count isn't high enough to test positive. That's my theory, since it is based on a number.

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      I was 16 and almost 17 before we started our relationship but only had a sexual relationship afer I turned 17, I really don't percieve the age gap as immense and neither do either of our families :'/

      Thank you so much for the advice it's really nice to hear some straight guidelines at the moment, thank you smile

      It's absurd as to how disregarded the virus is, I just really wish there was more awareness and more tests for it rolleyes It's stupid that it's got to this state.

      Really?? Oh god sad urgh that really sucks I'm just hoping he's contracted it genitally then I was counting on the test to sort of prove it to his parents that I hadn't cheated or anything, nevermind I guess, thank you so much for all your help smile

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      Why in gods name does his parents know about your status?that's so far beyond inappropriate and crossing your personal and private boundaries. You can ask what strain it was, 1 or 2. I'm willing to bet you test positive for one, as that's really the only one that will cause esophagitis, which means he gave it to you through oral sex and kissing.

      O think the government doesn't enforce it I'm the medical community and neither do medical personnel, because big pharma makes loads off of antiviral medication. Why would they want the spread of the disease slowed down or even find a cute or vaccination for it? Guess who funds  trials for drugs and vaccines and gives money to medica schools? You guessed it, big pharma. There are scientists who have been for yrs trying to get funding for vaccine trials that would prevent and cure, buy can't get funding.. Shocker... It behooves of big pharma to influence the medical community fiscally, that's who they need to keep them rich and getting richer. 

  • Posted

    Did you find out if it is hsv 1 or 2 on your genitals?
    • Posted

      Despite wanting a swab test my GP didn't bother rolleyes I'm not sure what type I have on my genitals but assuming that it's the same virus I had in my throat it's probably HSV 1?
    • Posted

      Yes... You also don't need a swab test to tell what strain it is. It can be told by a blood test as well. You need to call and ask.

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