Confused sexuality, please help

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Hi

I was wondering if Citalopram can confuse a person sexuality, heres my story.

My wife has been taking 10mg of Citalopram daily for several years to help her anxiety problems.

In jan 08 she met a lady with similar interests and anxiety disorders as her self on a Internet forum.

She has made good friends with this person by sharing experinces of there anxietys and there hobbys.

She recently invited the lady and her son to visit us for a weekend, which was fine. She then decided to vist her (we live 550miles away) for a week.

Bearing in mind both women have difficulty in driving/crowded spaces, but traveled by train for 6 hours.

When my Wife returned home she informed me she has slept with this women and is in love with her. My world has fallen apart!

In the space of 2 weeks she has setup home with this women who has now moved down here away from her family.

Both women have been married and with the same partner for 18 years, both have children.

My wife has never been interested in women before until now.

We have had a very good relationship and Ive been so supportive to her throu' her dark times with her anxiety's.

This year I managed to get her to see the pschotherapist which has really helped her.

She seems confused.

I was wondering if Citalopram could have this effect on her as she dosn't seem the same person she was a week before her holiday, her person allity is complety different even towards our 3 young children.

Please help i need answers.

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  • Posted

    Firstly.....I'm so sorry this has happened to you and your children.

    Sorry to say Citalopram does not effect your sexuality sad Maybe she has liked women all along but not acted on it before now.Maybe her depression is confusing her or maybe she feels close to this woman as she has the same difficultys.

    Obviously im not sure though :?

    hope things get sorted out for you

  • Posted

    \"maybe she feels close to this woman as she has the same difficultys.\"

    Think u may have hit the nail on the head Clare.

    Its whats referred to as \"commonality of problem\".

    What to do about it? I only wish I had some words of wisdom for you. Truly I do.

    Unfortunately, u can`t make a person WANT to be with u . Her head is obviously somewhere else at the moment and u and the kids don`t seem to have an impact on her thinking.

    If I had a magic wand....Id wave it for u.

    Take Care and Good Luck

  • Posted

    Thanks for the replies. Im feeling so down.

    I feel beareaved, as the wife I had has gone she is somebody else now , just taken away from me in a week.

    Thanks for the support.

  • Posted

    It is like a bereavement when something like this happens.

    I was left too..........for different reasons....but the outcome was the same. The way it made me feel was the same.

    If I can offer u hope in as much as saying it does get better with time. I know that is not consilation at all for how you are feeling at the moment...but there`s not alot else I can say to make u feel better. No quick fix unfortunately.

    At the moment, u`ll feel as if ur whole world has been turned upside down.....it rights itself, I promise u... smile

  • Posted

    Skye's right smile

    It will get easier for you.Like a bereavement as you say,that gets easier.Hopefully things will turn out okay for you smile

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