Crippling depression

When I was in my mid teens I was suffocated by Grandparents and Uncles passing over and it was never easy although in your case you Mother at fifty has a good chance to live well into Her eighties, I am over sixty seven and still around so your Mam has a long way to go yet, in fact I know when I was sixteen I was frightened that may Father would leave this world. He lived until He was eighty five years old

All I can say none of us know when we will be called, some people die before parents, when we have to go we go and that is it. This is the Contract we all sign before we are born.

Enjoy the time you have with family and live your life with memories you can remember as you get older and older. Every now and then give Her a great big hug and just live for the day that is all we can do

BOB

Hi Elise - have you talked to your mum about this? Death is the price of life and no-one escapes. Death is not an end - it's a transition. I would suggest you explore the subject - there is so much info out there. You may be surprised what answers you find and how comforting they are for you. Meanwhile, try and enjoy the moment rather than worry about tomorrow. Today will be the memories you will treasure.

I am sorry you feel that way & I hope you can manage to overcome it to enjoy the time you have with your mother & your life in general. Don't waste all that time worrying - she might still be around for a long time anyway. Or does she have any condition that fuels your worries? I am not trying to be mean but you seem overly focused on her & I can't imagine that to be healthy for someone your age - I am sure you love her & it is great that you two have a good relationship, but you should also live your own life & eventually become an adult. She will be gone eventually & you will need to be able to deal with it - that is how life goes whether we like it or not. I lost my father in my early 20s - I still miss him but life goes on. What good does it do to spend your days worrying about it now? Remember all those days you cried & worried already & yet she is still there - you could have done so many nicer things with your time & energy. Have you talked to her about it - if she is the only one that can comfort you I am sure she can help you feel better. (I am just curious, do you have any friends or is she the only person in your universe, so to speak?)

Hey elise,

Let me share a story of mine with you and hopefully it will make you feel better.

I once ran into my parents bedroom full of tears when I was around 6 y.o, after my parents confronted me I told them I was crying because I never want them to die. They smiled backed at me and said "We wont". So I was really relieved back then, but as I became an adult I asked why they said that given the fact that everyone dies eventually, they told me but good memories never die and thats how we live (as in through people good memories). Everytime my mother recall her grandmother she smiles because she had the best time ever with her, even though she is no longer with us.

So my advice to you is enjoy every second with your mom and build the best memories out there with her so they last forever, this is how you never lose your parents even if they are no longer with you. I am pretty sure your mother doesnt want you to be thinking about that at all.

Stay safe and always remember that we live through good memories.

Hi elsie

bless you,

 I can really feel for you on this one as when I was younger I worried that my mum was going to die all the time!I am  emagined all sorts of scenarios in my head but guess what my mum is 70 now and still with me and is a breast cancer survivor!!I think it’s natural to worry about the loss of a parent of course the when and where how ect and what will you do without them that’s what I feel now but I have had 40 wonderful year so far With my mum.She is been a rock and an inspiration for me.

 Look  enjoy your time with your mum make memories have fun with her.Like you and me mum is my best friend and the thought of losing her does scare me.

I’m older and so she but I will look back and think of all the good times but of course I don’t know how I will feel at the time.You are right it is the inevitable but it’s not today tomorrow the next day so nobody knows hey my dear have you discussed this with your mum and how you feel and  has she been poorly at all?

you are young and all this worry is not good, maybe have a chat with her.

i am sure your mum will say she not going anywhere,! Like my mum.

you are welcome to pm me.. if you would like.

take care now

Vicky🌈