Crying for my mother who died 5yrs ago is this possibly related to the menopause?

Hi Taz

oh sweetie .. 

Sudden menopause can make you feel so emotional and lost.

hormones do crazy things to us ..

your going through a rough time hormone wise and emotionly, 

menopause does make us tearful and suddenly cry and feel alone, mixed up and hopeless.. It gets better ..

maybe your thinking of your Mum as you feel emotional and need comfort ..

oh hun..

i wish i knew what to say 

big hugs 

jay xx

Useful info ..

 Understanding 

Signs & Symptoms of Surgical Menopause

Surgical menopause is caused by the removal of both ovaries (oophorectomy), which stops the process of estrogen production.

Normally as ovaries age, less estrogen is produced and natural menopause begins. This process, called perimenopause, allows a woman's body to adjust to estrogen changes over time.

Women who have had surgical menopause can experience the same common symptoms caused by natural menopause; however, they may feel them more intensely due to the abrupt halt in estrogen production.

Hot Flashes

Hot flashes are the most common menopause symptom.

Hot flashes may start in the face with a warm, "flushed" feeling and can cause a sensation of extreme heat in the entire body.

Additionally, hot flashes may be accompanied by heavy perspiration and can occur frequently during the night. Though uncomfortable, hot flashes decrease over time without the need for medical treatment.

Vaginal Dryness

A lack of estrogen causes thinning of the vaginal wall and depletes natural vaginal moisture, causing vaginal dryness, burning and discomfort with intercourse.

Mood Changes

Though the exact reason for mood changes during menopause is not known, women can experience depression, anger, forgetfulness and crying spells--all of which can get better over time.

While occasional mood swings are normal, the North American Menopause Society encourages women to consider medical attention if feelings of depression persist or interfere with daily life.

Skin and Hair Changes

Skin naturally changes with age; however, the onset of surgical menopause can cause changes sooner than expected. Skin becomes less elastic as it loses collagen, which is important for keeping skin firm, and may become thin and dry. Additionally, hair on the scalp may become dry and brittle and can thin as lower estrogen levels change the way hair sheds and grows.

Libido Changes

A lack of sexual desire commonly occurs with menopause. However, a woman who has undergone surgical menopause may notice changes in her libido more potently due to the sudden drop in hormones after her surgery. Other menopause symptoms--night sweats, hot flashes and vaginal dryness--can combine to rob a woman of her desire for sexual intimacy as well.

Hi Taz,

Oh what can we sayto make you feel better. I have lost both parents and cry most days as I just miss them and I miss my mums thoughts and comforting words. i too am Peri, or peril as I call it. I take it one day at a time, take my vitamins that the lovely ladies on here have suggested and try not to be too hard on myself. 

as hard as it seems try to clear your mums belongings. Take a few cherished items of clothing and look for someone to make a blanket, quilt soft toy for you so that she is always with you but with a nicer reminder.

sending you loads of hugs. xx

Hello tazchurch, so sorry to hear you are feeling the way you describe. Grief for someone you have lost can lay dormant for some time even though you think you may have handled it,take comfort that you are able to speak of your feelings. Grief can be an emotional roller coaster especially when you are not 100% . Have you considered talking to a councellor. Even a call to Samaritans who can help you through the difficult worries you are experiencing. being able to talk about how you are feeling is so uplifting. They are non judgemental do not give advice and are very good listeners..Any help?  Take care Jackie.