Dad - 83 just got diagnosis - what do we do now?
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I just got the call from my brother that my 83 year old dad got his biopsy results back and it is prostate cancer. They have an appointment on Wednesday with the dr. and I guess I want to know, what do we do now? What questions do we ask the dr? The dr. made the remark prior to the biopsy that even if it is cancer a stroke or my dad's COPD will kill him before the cancer does so at his age he doesn't recommend any treatment. My thought on that was well, if you aren't going to do anything then why even do the biopsy? I'm scared and frustrated. A few friends have said if you're going to get cancer this is the "good" cancer to get. Sorry I'm venting. I moved away 4 months ago and have always been the one to handle everything for my folks. Now, I'm not there, I'm not in control and I'm freaking out a little and my eyes are leaking alot. Any advice would be helpful
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There is a lot of information that your post does not include -- how many of the cores ( tissues sampled -- usually 12) show cancer, what percent of each sample is cancerous and what is the Gleason score.
Every treatment has side effects -- sometimes not a big deal, but depending on the treatment for some men the side effects pose greater challenges. One big advantage of not treating the cancer is your dad will not face ANY of those side effects. Many (most?) prostate cancers are slow growing and "watchful waiting" or "active surveillance" may be a reasonable option for you dad.
The most important thing I have to say is don't be hasty! Your dad has weeks / months to make any firm decisions. Second most important thing I have to say -- get a second or third or even fourth opinion. Best doctor to see is an oncologist. He has no vested interest is pushing your dad toward surgery or radiation. Good luck!
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