Dampened feeling in penis glans, glans tissue not smooth any longer, persistent problem over a year

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Hello, I'm 22 and uncircumcised, and I've got a problem with my penis that has persisted for well over a year now, not getting better even slightly. This has made my depression so much worse.

This might make you laugh, but it's making me suicidal.

Before this problem appeared, I used to masturbate daily, and was starting to get kind of bored.. so I decided to make a fleshlight out of items I had at home following an internet tutorial out of a glove, some sponges and a can of pringles. Yes, pathetic. Anyway, I didn't think much of it since I've done it a few times before without any consequences and it felt pretty good. But this last time I believe I've made it too tight, and have used it a few times in a row, and I think I damaged my glans for good. Anyway, my penis used to be smooth before this experience, but after it got what seems like a million tiny papercuts over the top of the glans. The bottom looks smooth still. Anyway, the next time I had an orgasm, it felt painful in the glans, instead of the usual pleasurable feeling, it was somewhere between pleasure and pain. The next time it felt okay, but ever the glans has been extremely dry and masturbating just painful, since it feels like peeing off, and glans feels extremely sensitive to touch, almost painful to touch. Sometimes it is. It became red/inflamed, and has been this way ever since. Used to have a healthy purple color.

Last month it has been getting worse, I've been losing sensation, orgasms don't feel good anymore, a few times I didn't even feel anything. I have been using shea butter but without any success, and have tried not masturbating for a week, but the next time I masturbated after it, the orgasm was painful just like that first time I described after the trauma.

Now, I believe I might've desentisized the nerves and the reason it hurt after a week of abstaining is perhaps have started to heal. But the longest I ever went without it was a week. So maybe I hadn't given it enough time. I have been to a urologist and have described the problem, but he said he doesn't see anything wrong with it.

Please help, this has been a source of much distress for me, I just want to heal again.

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    Hi Timmyboy

    We note from a recent post which you have made to our forum that you may be experiencing thoughts around self-harm. If we have misinterpreted your comments then we apologies for contacting you directly. But if you are having such thoughts then please note that you are not alone in this, and there are people out there that can help.

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    Hi, I am sad these circumstances have created this level of trauma for you and have led you to feel the way you do. I have been dealing with my own penis issues since I was around 16 years of age and I am now 62 YOA. The issues I have dealt with have included Phimosis (a severely tight foreskin) which I then cured myself through stretching my foreskin with the aid of several tins of Germolene. I did not seek medical help as when you are younger you just do not think of going to a Doctor with a penis problem.

    I am also someone who has experienced Generalised Anxiety Disorder all of my life, and believe me I can empathise with the way you feel now. In my 40's and early 50's I experienced a great deal of stress in my place of work and at this time I developed a severe skin condition of the penis. Again I set about sorting it myself and I tried all kinds of different skin creams and lotions but the problem just became worse.

    I had a period of about 6 months where I simply could not masturbate as the skin on my penis was scarred, distressed and extremely unhealthy. I did eventually go to the Doctor this time and he thought I may have penile cancer so I was sent to Dermatology Department at a local hospital.

    I was given a steroid ointment and this quickly started to heal the skin. Unfortunately as I then had been unable to masturbate for around 8 months my penis had shrunk to the size it was when I was a little boy of around 6 or 8 years old. Eventually my skin did become much better and after 9 months I was able to masturbate again - but my penis was still quite small. I then got a penis developer in a bid to regain size, but I was too enthusiastic and kept damaging and injuring my penis, and again, I had to abstain from masturbation for between 2 and 5 months at a time depending on the severity of the injury.

    From my early 40's so that I could maintain an erection I used to wear a C* K Ring - and unfortunately a main artery at the base of my penis became damaged and it felt like it had almost solidified. Eventually, through using the medication I already had and a great deal of time and gentle massage motions I was again able to sort this myself. This took many months of persistence and being gentle and kind to my penis.

    Long story short: I have a permanent penile skin disorder but can control this most of the time where I can once again enjoy masturbation, I have stopped creating my own injuries of the penis through not using the penis developer, but my penis regained most of it's adult size eventually and the blood vessel at the base of my penis is completely normal again. However, I still have to wear the Ring to have a good erection that simply does not flop after a matter of minutes.

    What I learned through all of these separate escapades and traumas is that even when you seem to have severely damaged your penis you can heal it. However, this is never a short-term thing, and in basic terms if you want to achieve basic healing you need to be thinking of at least 3 to 6 months of abstaining from masturbation to help your penis to recover.

    I have been on here now for over a year helping other men to overcome distressful issues that have occurred through a variety of different ways, from injuring themselves, through sexual activity and sexual infections, and to skin problems that have been made worse through the way most of us lead our lives.

    The later point is simply we apply too many things like soap and shower gel to wash ourselves with, including our penises. For many men the sensitive penile skin cannot deal with this and the skin of the foreskin and head of the penis develops a completely intolerance to anything that it has contact with including the soaps and shower gels and everyday skin creams and baby oils that are used as a lube for masturbation. As a result of all these kinds of issues I have learned that you should only ever wash your penis with water and never apply anything else to it at all.

    Essentially, as I say - given sufficient time, you can heal almost anything that the penis has experienced in terms of trauma. If you have any specific questions about what to do with specific issues then please hit the Reply button here - please do not Message / PM me as I do NOT respond to these ..........

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      Thanks for the reply, I appreciate it. Your response has given me a sliver of hope that my penis will once again be normal. All I'm looking right now is to regain sensitivity, I've had a problem with dryness for a longer time now, and even after not having applied soap to my penis again it still hasn't regained its natural moisture. Not sure how to counter that. Also, I'd really just like to be able to feel the pleasure like I used to, I suppose I'll abstain from masturbation for a very long time, in order to give it enough time for it to try and heal. Is there anything else I can do except that, any vitamins or meds I can use to help speed up the process of healing? My urologist didn't think I needed any meds, but my skin does look chaffed on the glans and it hasn't been this way before. I'll just give it time

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      How long have you not applied soap? Are you aware of the benefits of using plant-based extracts to help hydrate the skin? Both Aloe Vera Gel and liquid Coconut Oil have natural skin healing properties. The Aloe Vera can feel a little dry on the skin, the Coconut Oil feels better - you can try each for 2 or 3 months at a time, they are relatively inexpensive and last for ages.

      Of course there are many practitioners of a variety of disciplines that believe in healing, both from without and within the person. So we can think of the benefits of massage for example: in terms of the penis this is about experiencing touch in a whole different way to masturbation, but what you would also be doing is encouraging blood flow and this in-turn helps to restore the natural role of nerves in the penis and the feelings you therefore experience.

      Simple gentle massage is all that is required and the best time to do this is after a shower, again, the coconut oil would be a good massage agent, and a thin coating is all you need. This will help combat the chaffed skin too: = win, win!

      In terms of diet and vitamin and mineral supplements, obviously a balanced nutritious diet with regular and variety of fruit and veg everyday is a good starting point. Then there are essentials like Vitamin C and D3 and Zinc that many of us are deficient in - if you are in the UK go to somewhere like a Holland & Barratt and get a copy of their magazine, these often have articles on 'Men's Health' that you can take ideas from. You don't need to buy everything from them - there is better value if you shop around.

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    I believe I forgot to add the most informative part about my problem that appeared after the trauma, which is that is during masturbation the feeling isn't pleasurable, it's borderline painful and an irritating feeling in my glans, instead of the usual enjoyable feeling I used to have. Now masturbation doesn't feel good, feels like irritating my glans until I can ejaculate. It's not due to the skin on glans, but rather because of the nerves in glans, they have gotten traumatized or something and now even a light touch is painful. After beginning to masturbate the penis becomes a bit desentisized and I'm able to orgasm, but that orgasm varies from time to time, but usually it's either really lacking in feeling, or painful. A few times only has it felt okay. It has been this way for the past two months, before that even though I have suffered the trauma I described in my original post, at least my orgasms felt good even though masturbation itself didn't. I am also taking medications, namely xanax, paroxetine and neurobion, which is a b vitamin complex I'm taking for my vision issues. I believe I have noticed a change in orgasm quality after beginning to take neurobion, but after abstaining the usage the feeling hasn't returned to the previous state.

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      In terms of what you are saying here I think the only way to combat the complex, and interaction of different things going on for you is to find your own overall way of healing: - do not just consider your penis and the trauma experienced, you need to take a holistic view of getting everything to do with your health on the best footing possible.

      This means both physical and psychological. So, we have already mentioned about diet, vitamins and mineral supplements, and the crucial role these can play in our overall health status, but I wonder if you are active in any way? Being active does not need to cost much: a decent pair of trainers and the world outside the front door can be our free gym.

      Essentially, you need to move away from what stimulating the penis felt like and what your orgasms were like - you need a healing regime in place and once you are doing a whole range of things differently on a regular basis, then given time, things may return being somewhere near to what they used to be.

      But that won't be 9 days, 9 weeks or even 5 months down the line - 9 or 10 months maybe - but what you are likely to achieve is something that is different to what you had before anyway. Maybe in some ways as enjoyable, potentially even better - you may still hanker for the way things used to be - but that could well be gone for good. Simple equation: new and different does not = no good - only your state of mind can determine that, and if your mind is not in a good place, only you can change that, with the help of others.

      You mention about the medication you are on, I am not a doctor, nor do I understand the role that each of these individually may have - but what I would recommend is that whoever has prescribed these for you it would be a good time to review the role of the medication you are taking. You need to tell them about how you are actually currently feeling, and about the things you have, and continue to experience in your mind.

      Essentially what you need is to have as much of the good stuff in place for you to move forward in a manner that is as productive for you as possible - medical professionals can play a key role in this, and the medication you take needs to carefully match the actual health needs that you have. At the moment, the balance of this is not acting in your favour, what you need is people such as your regular doctor and other medical professionals you may be working with regularly to get you on a whole more stable footing to the one you are currently on ......

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