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Dating with RA

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Eska2019
Eska2019

I have had RA for a little over 6 years now, with symptoms starting over 12 years ago.

As a chronically ill 30 I find it incredibly difficult to date !

As soon as I mention the disease I instantly scare them away ... how do you guys do it ?

( this is more or less addressed to the single people , for all of you lucky souls that have found your twin flames - bless your hearts and union )

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  • lisawilly
    lisawilly Eska2019

    Posted

    Hi Eska.. I've been following people doing the carnivore diet on facebook that are getting their health back and reversing RA. Just thought I'd share that.. don't give up hope of regaining your health, despite what the docs say about diet having no influence on the disease.. They don't know because they're not looking at or studying this phenomenon (no money in it?)

    • gary_05
      gary_05 lisawilly

      Posted

      Can you help by talking more about the diet to reverse RA or point me to the page.

      Thanks

  • AlexandriaGizmo
    AlexandriaGizmo Eska2019

    Posted

    Probably sounds like something you don't want to hear but unless your riddled with it and unable to walk etc, showing obvious disabilities then why mention it at the start of your relationship

    How do you know that the new relationship will work out and maybe telling them straight off makes them think your RA defines you and it shouldn't, lots of people with much worse disabilities than RA find love

    • Eska2019
      Eska2019 AlexandriaGizmo

      Posted

      RA does define who i am .

      the person i was before is long gone, and as much as i dont want to admit it the disease affects my day to day life greatly .

      not to mention there are days where i appear far more disabled than others ... so hiding it isnt the best option

      plus what am i supposed to answer him when he asks why im unable to walk ? or when im in bed sick from the treatement ? or when he asks about all the meds in my medicine cabinet ?

      . i am a firm believer that honesty is the best policy , plus - what does it say about my values and morals if 2 months in i suddenly drop this massive health bomb on my partner ? if i am going to lie / hide that what else an i not being truthful about ?

      do you have RA?

    • AlexandriaGizmo
      AlexandriaGizmo Eska2019

      Posted

      Yes I have quite aggressive RA plus UC and a couple of other possibly debilitating diseases and I'm on crutches full time, I'm a half full type of person so I just deal with it.

      As for having to tell my partner of quite a few years at the beginning about all my ailments I didn't because we fell in love and he excepts me for everything I am and will be and vice versa

      Everyone deals with their health issues in different ways and you have to do it your way not mine, thankfully my RA does not define me.

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