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Dating with the HVS

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brittany65756
brittany65756

I'm a 23 year old female with HVS type 2 I just wanna know how do you go about dating or telling a new partner about this virus

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  • Alphamale
    Alphamale brittany65756

    Posted

    Try the herpes events if you are in the US

    People with hrpes they meet within the city and also there is national events.

    For instance there is a group called Hoston friends in Houston and bay area friends in san francisco. You can google to find them.

  • louise123456
    louise123456 brittany65756

    Posted

    In short... I don't! I was diagnosed almost 4 months ago...for the first while I honestly couldn't even look a man in the eye. I felt repulsed by the thought of sex because the last time I was intimate was when I slept with my lying prick of an ex and I caught the virus. Now I've gotten past that but still have the feeling "who would go near me" ... The thought of having to tell someone all about it - I'm not ready for that yet!

    • brittany65756
      brittany65756 louise123456

      Posted

      I actually understand that and I just told the guy that I really care about that I tested positive for it and he told me it didn't matter to him that made me realize that I had to accpet it and this virus doesn't define me it just gonna show me the people I should and shouldn't have around me I've made peace with it and the more I learn about it and come here and talk to other people makes it much easier for me

  • carol30699
    carol30699 brittany65756

    Posted

    I just got back into the dating world again. It was a little scary but I did tell the man that I met and we talked about getting to really know each other I told him. My heart was racing I was scared he said ok so when we get to that point we will work it out.

    I hadon't decided having hsv does not define me. And if someone wants to walk away from me for that then goodbye

  • 1992BL
    1992BL brittany65756

    Posted

     Im a 23 year old male with hsv2. I have only recently been diagnosed and the thought of having to tell someone i have herpes scares the sh*t out of me! I havent told anyone that I have it, I have been dating a girl that i really like but I dont know how to break it to her that i have herpes I stress about it every day and worry that I will never have another girlfreind again. I imagine most people are put off straight away. When should you tell someone your dating that you have it? and how do you do it? sad 

    • Alphamale
      Alphamale 1992BL

      Posted

      I have at least 4 women who want to have serious relation with me from dating sites. I have been texting them using whatsapp we exchanged photos . The only thing remaind is that I tell them . Each at a time 😂 that I have herpes and therfore loose her or move to the next step.

      The question what if we had sex then we decided we do not match.

      Which hapened to me once. The last date ended into marrage. she new exactly what she was getting into but I had a serious fight with her son who is a registered criminal so we divorced. She got nothing from me but herpes and abroken heart.

      Sad

    • Heathersit
      Heathersit 1992BL

      Posted

      Im 21 with it and i have told a few people but i definitely need some liquid courage beforehand. Its definitely when we are almost at a relationship stage. Just because i dont want to waste my time if they are going to judge me for it. I havent had any guy be rude or anything about it. I would say tell them a few dates before you get all hot and heavy because blue balls is real for girls too. Haha. But a lot of puerile have it and if they are going to be grossed out about it then they arent mature enough to be with you anyway. Thats what i think about it.
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