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Day 7 of first herpes outbreak, please help!!!

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alyssa_17553
alyssa_17553

Hey everyone, I hope everyone is doing well... as for me, I’m horrible. Yesterday I was diagnosed with herpes. I’ve been crying non stop. I still haven’t gotten my swab test results back yet but, I already know it is. I’m married, 32 and generally a very happy and healthy young girl. I just started taking the medication the dr prescribed - today being 2 full days of my medication.  I got my symtems last Thursday. It hurts a lot! But for the most part with a lot of time I am able to walk around. I am very very swollen, have sores on my clitorus, and I can’t pee without crying. I need this to go away and I need to be normal again. I’m so scared I will never be normal again and that this will be my life from now on. I just want to be able to make love to my husband again, go places and be a normal person without crying every second. Most importantly I need to be able to pee again. And because I have sores in my clitorus, no position or peeing in water or waything helps me. I’m ready to go and get a catheter put in. That’s how much it hurts me. I’m so scared... I don’t know what to do and I don’t think this will ever go away. I have numbing fell from the dr. But it doesn’t help at all when I have to pee, I tried desitin today.... it burned like crazy. I just can’t believe I have this. Also, the sores, some of them are sticking together and I’m worried if they stick together they won’t heal. I don’t laugh anymore, or cook or do anything. I hardly eat, and I try my hardest to drink the less that I can to avoid going to the washroom. My husband and I just bought a house and I’m not even able to be happy about it, I keep thinking that I will be like this forever and I won’t be able to enjoy life again, my poor dog knows something is wrong and I can’t even give him the attention he needs either. Please please help me. I’m begging 

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  • mary_lou60460
    mary_lou60460 alyssa_17553

    Posted

    Alyssa, 

    i am sorry you are having such a terrible outbreak. I also was diagnosed with Hvs2 in January. Continue to take your anti virals, drink lots of water, take baths in baking soda or epsom salt, it helps soothe the ulcers, try putting a barrier like vaseline on yourself before you pee, or try peeing in the bath, yes, your groin will be swollen, i had issues completely eliminating urine, and then became extremely constipated, Be prepared, it may happen, Try going without panties whenever possible, keep the area clean and dry. I also use coconut oil and its been amazing, Try and get rest, limit your stress, i take vitamins, d, c, magnesium, b12, some people have changed their diets, Wear loose clothing, the first outbreak is the worst, ive had another since the first and it was just a small annoyance. But the more water you drink the more diluted your urine becomes. Some people experience pain down their legs and in their tail bone, that happened to me, but ibuprofen helps. I'm sure more people will chime in with more advice, but even though you feel so bad you arent alone. i felt nasty and dirty when i found out i had herpes, Well as time passes, you come to accept it, and learn as much as you can, knowledge is power. If you develop constipation there is a wonderful tea to help called smooth move, better then any laxative and i learned out it here. My outbreak lasted almost a month, but they say it improves with time and some people have had another outbreak. Wishing you all the best, and you arent alone! 

    • mary_lou60460
      mary_lou60460

      Posted

      Sorry i meant people havent had another outbreak since the first, and i learned about the tea here. Wonderful resources and people here!!
    • alyssa_17553
      alyssa_17553 mary_lou60460

      Posted

      Thank you so much for replying to me.... will this ever pass? Will I ever be normal again, and feel like I can be with my husband again? And go to the washroom again? Will I ever just feel normal again? 
    • alyssa_17553
      alyssa_17553 mary_lou60460

      Posted

      Do you feel completely normal now? With no issues? I’m sorry... I’m just so scared.  I’m and will I always be contagious? I feel like I’m a walking disease.. 
    • mary_lou60460
      mary_lou60460 alyssa_17553

      Posted

      Yes, you will feel normal once again. Read as much as you can, it might seem scary but it's better to know things. It takes time to sink in.

      Yes you can be with your husband but you definitely don't want to have sex during an outbreak. If you aren't sure your husband has herpes also, it's best to use condoms, but they don't prevent the transmission 100%.

    • alyssa_17553
      alyssa_17553 mary_lou60460

      Posted

      Thank you again so so much for replying to me again.... I would absolutely not have intercourse during a break out. But with no breakouts am I okay? We want to try for a baby... I know that this at the end of the day is just a horrible skin condition. But I feel so dirty. I have no idea how I got this or for how long I’ve had it. You said coconut oil works? It won’t burn right? Yesterday I used desitin... it really burned after about half an hour. 
    • mary_lou60460
      mary_lou60460 alyssa_17553

      Posted

      Yes you can have intercourse but you can still transmit the disease even if you arent having an outbreak. No alyssa, i felt the same way as you did when i found out, i was in total shock, im 53yrs old, never in a million years expected this. I think you should talk to your ObGyn as far as having children, many women who have herpes have babies, but they must have a c section. Yes try coconut oil, or even olive oil. Witch hazel dabbed on the ulcers helps too.
    • alyssa_17553
      alyssa_17553 mary_lou60460

      Posted

      You have been a miracle to be able to talk to... how often do you get break outs? How was your very first one? And, how can I clean myself down there? It hurts so much to open up and clean.... and are you dealing with the situation better? Emotionally? 
    • mary_lou60460
      mary_lou60460 alyssa_17553

      Posted

      I'm glad I can help. I contracted herpes this past January. The first outbreak is the worst I was told. The pain was unbarable. My outbreak lasted about a month. After I was healed from the ulcers I had more problems with urinating and having bowel movements. I had another outbreak in beginning of March, was itching, tingling, discharge, I called the doctor and got medicine right away. I didn't see any blisters but maybe I missed it. I only had symptoms like 10 days. I've had a huge amount of stress in my life these past weeks, I'm grateful no out break.

      I used water with baking soda to clean myself. Also used the pads with witch hazel in them. Pat yourself after you pee. Same after a shower, no rubbing, use a blow dryer to dry yourself. Then I'd apply coconut oil from front to back. I experienced alot of pain at night, using an ice pack between your legs wrapped in a towel helps alot.

    • mary_lou60460
      mary_lou60460

      Posted

      As for how I'm dealing with it now, I've come to terms with it. I have it, it's not going away, so I'm not letting it define who I am. The dirty, nasty, shameful feeling goes away. Has your husband been supportive?

    • ann72750
      ann72750 alyssa_17553

      Posted

      Hey Alyssa! Firstly, reading your post nearly had me in tears because it’s exactly how I felt. I’m 34 and was diagnosed 8 years ago. I had an HORRENDOUS outbreak and I was broken hearted because I’d only ever had two partners, both long term relationships. I’ll never forget the physical and emotional pain, I felt so dirty :-( 

      I just really wanted to post to let you know that 8 years on, I never had anymore outbreaks. I randomly get this in my nose aswell and it’s awful, but nothing was as bad as the pain when I got it down there. You will feel normal again, I see your post is 3 months old now so you probably feel a lot better. But with regards trying for a baby, that’s the main reason I’m posting. I gave birth last year to my beautiful baby girl and had a completely normal vaginal birth. I told my doctor in advance that I had it and we just monitored to ensure I didn’t show any symptoms beforehand. I spent YEARS terrified I wouldn’t be able to have kids, and here I am, symptom free with a beautiful baby girl. So please don’t let it take over your life. I did, and for nothing! It all worked out :-) I hope you are much better now x

  • qiang51336
    qiang51336 alyssa_17553

    Posted

    Girls, I am on the same boat with you. I was diagnosed HSV2 after two months of this unprotected sex. I was desperate and could not tell anyone about this. My life was ruined, I changed to another person and have no interest on anything. Life goes on, I have to accept it, and I have to be there for my family.
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