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dealing with death

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hayley2000
hayley2000

it has been a little over 10 years since my father passed away from a car accident. i was only 6 at the time. i was just wondering who else has suffered a tragic death and how they are able to live their lives on a daily basis as i constantly consider death as a way to deal and have even attempted to kill myself

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  • phyllis11904
    phyllis11904 hayley2000

    Posted

    Hi Hayley. I noticed you didn't mention your mother. Have you talked to her about your feelings. If you can't talk to her, have you talked to any friends or a school counsellor? Please talk to someone and keep using this forum. You have your whole life ahead of you and your father would want you to be happy and live your life to the fullest. 

    • hayley2000
      hayley2000 phyllis11904

      Posted

      i did not mention my mother because she thinks that i need to be stronger (like her) and this just makes me feel worse about myself. thank you. i am finding this site supportive.
    • phyllis11904
      phyllis11904 hayley2000

      Posted

      Your mother may find acting strong works for her, but you were a very young child when you lost your father. Would you feel comfortable talking to your school counsellor about your feelings? Your mother may think she should be strong for you and not realize you still need to process the loss of your father. She may also be afraid that she might break down if you talk about your dad and losing him so tragically. This site is a safe place to find support.  Keep in touch and take care.
    • hayley2000
      hayley2000 phyllis11904

      Posted

      maybe, i would like to talk to a school counsellor but unfortunately at my school they are only designed to get us through school ans nothing else. i know she may think that but it really hurts me when she tells me i can't cry over my dads death and that i have to be stronger

  • phyllis11904
    phyllis11904 hayley2000

    Posted

    Do you have any other family members you can talk to about your feeling or any friends you trust? Let me know how you're doing and keep in touch. Take care.

    • hayley2000
      hayley2000 phyllis11904

      Posted

      unfortunately i have a really smal family and i do not have the best relationship with most of them and do not feel comfortable talking to any of them. thank you, at the moment i am okay, i have decided to start a small crafts business and my dad always hoped that i would have a chance to have a succesful life. i will definitey keep intouch. thank you
    • phyllis11904
      phyllis11904 hayley2000

      Posted

      That sounds like a positive step, Hayley. Your dad would be happy you are doing something you enjoy. What kind of crafts do you do? I hope you'll enjoy your new venture. I look forward to hearing from you with updates. Take care.

    • hayley2000
      hayley2000 phyllis11904

      Posted

      it is a good thing, i am in the crochet business and it seems to be okay at the moment. i have partnered up with my granmother and we are doing it together. thank you for being there to support me. i never knew there was this kind of support out there for me
    • phyllis11904
      phyllis11904 hayley2000

      Posted

      I'm happy for you Hayley. Your grandmother should be support for you, and this joint venture should strengthen the bond. Keep in touch. Take care.

    • hayley2000
      hayley2000 phyllis11904

      Posted

      i am really hoping that it will help bring us closer together too. i will thank you so much
    • phyllis11904
      phyllis11904 hayley2000

      Posted

      Good to hear from you Hayley. You sound a lot happier and more positive. I used to crochet years ago, but I'm sure you are much better then I was. I liked it much better than knitting. Take care. 

    • hayley2000
      hayley2000 phyllis11904

      Posted

      i am a lot happier at the moment because life is going the way i know my father wanted it. it may have taken me a long time to get to that point that i know he would be truly proud. i am not the best at crochet but i am getting better. i cannot kniw to save my life
    • phyllis11904
      phyllis11904 hayley2000

      Posted

      I'm very happy to hear  that Hayley. I used to enjoy crocheting. I hope your enjoying spending Tim with your grandmother too. I'm sure your dad would be proud and happy that you have found your way. Keep in touch and take care.

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