Dealing with having HSV2
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So I'm not sure if I'm the only one but since my sores have been gone and the itching has come to an end, am I the only one who actually forgets that I have herpes?! It will randomly pop up into my head and I'll remember but the desperation as gone away mostly. I just go on about my day like nothing is wrong. I'm still outgoing happy and fun.
I'm not entirely sure if it's because I have an accepting boyfriend to this? I mean it does help entirely.
We finally had sex since my first outbreak which was July 28th and he has been patient. More than I thought he would've been. But my only problem is we did use a condom the first time but he doesn't like them. We arent a "new new" couple. We have dated before and are back together and I don't care if he gave it to me or not. I'm afraid of passing it to him if he doesn't have it already but he insist on not caring. He says it gives him more of a reason to love me and it would make our relationship a tad bit more easier. Should I not worry about it anymore since he's FULLY aware he may get it?!
Thank you everyone xx 
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Livelife Itslife
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Hey I'm in the exact same position
Most of the time I don't think about it at all, I'm actually dating someone who definitely doesn't have it and who is so super accepting
He's amazing
I know he doesn't like using condoms but I insist it seems like I care more about him getting it than he does
I even tried calling the relationship off before we had sex due to fear of him getting it and his response was 'is this because I don't have it' and I said 'yes' and he said 'then I promise you I will find a girl who has it and sleep with her just so you'll be with me'
He is never creeped out (or he doesn't show me) he ALWAYS wants to have sex and is very accepting that I want to use condoms but I can tell they are a nuiscance to him
I say give it some time
Give it a year and if he is still with you and is accepting then why not go without
By then as well because it's been a year he virus will be a lot more dormant less outbreaks blablabla
There's nothing wrong with condoms
Couples who have nothing choose to use them because they are the best and easiest birth control on the planet
So just keep up what you're doing and if the love is definitely still there in a year
ease yourself off them x
Itslife Livelife
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That's the thing I want to use them and he insist on not using them. Like he wants it. He even said I hope I do have it. He refuses to use a condom with us. It's kinda funny because he's so straight forward with it. He's like well we will know in a couple weeks if I have it. With not a care in the world. I tell him he's crazy everyday.
Everyone said you have your first outbreak 2-4 weeks after being infected..... I've been with him well over that period of time which confuses me on who I actually got it from. I mean yes it could've been Dormant for a while so who knows that this point. I'm just happy he's accepting of it.
But see I will NEVER let him go down on me. I couldn't let him just incase he gets it orally! I would be upset. I'm so nervous about him going down on me. He accepts the fact that I don't want him to anymore.
Livelife Itslife
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I do feel sometimes though it would be so much easier if my partner just got it or had it before because I hate constantly being scared
I do let him go down on me though because honestly I'd much rather him get it orally especially hsv2 because it would rarely recur
FelizCastus Itslife
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Perhaps he doesn't care because he knows or assumes he already has it and was the one to give it to you. If not, I'm surprised by his and some other guys carefree attitude to getting herpes.
Itslife FelizCastus
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Before me and him first dated him and his ex broke up and started a rumor that he had herpes. But he's never ever had a outbreak and we've dated 3 years ago. And if he did why hasn't any of his other girlfriends had outbreaks? This is where I get confused because it can lay dormant inside you for however long.
I've told him the risk, I'm doing my job right? He's well aware of it and knows it. He's seen the sores I had and seen that they are gone. We've looked up pictures of shedding (together) this way we both are aware of it. We are VERY open with each other after breaking the news. The weirdest thing I it actually made us closer.
FelizCastus Itslife
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It's still possible for him to have it . Why doesn't he just get tested?
Itslife FelizCastus
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He wants to but aren't blood test so inaccurate? Then he would have to get retested in three months. Or wait till he ever has a outbreak?
That's what we're debating at this time. But at the same time I like him not knowing because if he does come up negative I don't want things to change. Even though I'm sure things wouldn't, just over thinking everything like usual.
FelizCastus Itslife
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If he tests for IgG now and already has it, and if it's been less than a month since your first outbreak, then he is your source. If negative, then he's not, and up to him to test again later or not. I would have him test under a month personally, precisely for this reason.
Itslife FelizCastus
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I started feeling tingly down there July 28th and sores appeared the next day.
Is it mean to say I hope he has it lol this way I don't have to worry as much I know that's mean though.