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Dealing with OTHERS emotions suddenly harder to handle??

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anxietysite123
anxietysite123

I'm not sure what is going on with me, or if I'm just getting back to my old self, but suddenly peoples moods and attitudes really push my buttons.. My fiance is unbelievably supportive of this issue since the beginning. He doesn't understand it, but he tries.. But he gets these mood swings where he will get mad at me and give me the silent treatment because my anxiety will make me a bit short with everyone.. I tell him never to take it personal unless I say it's him, but he always does..

Its almost like he tries to make himself out as the victim like "oh my god, she's so mean to me for no reason".. That just irritates me even more because he knows I can't control it sometimes and then he makes it go on the entire day. Literally, he will sit and pout for hours at a time when I'm completely over it.

Today he was in a little mood so I ignored it. He went to work 7 hours ago and he knew I wasn't feel well today. Hasn't talked to me, asked how I'm doing, anything.. I know I'm being a bit over dramatic because arguing with him does give me bad anxiety, but it's just so irritating. I seriously almost texted him today and told him not to come home.

Anyone else have outbursts about peoples moods that never really would've bothered you before?

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  • borderriever
    borderriever anxietysite123

    Posted

    All the time

    Been with my wife now for near on fifty years and sometimes we push eachothers buttons now, if we are in a funny mood in company we make light of it and that seems to help. If you can laugh at eachothers moods it can be a nice leveller.

    We all irritate eachother at times, Let your relationship grow by knowing eachother

    BOB

  • g.90572
    g.90572 anxietysite123

    Posted

    Pay close attention to what finally ends the standoff so you can bring it to a close earlier. What does he need to hear in terms of an apology
  • anxietysite123
    anxietysite123

    Posted

    Turns out it was a huge miscommunication but I let it all out this morning.. The way i realized how much I overreacted is I actually told him to pack his bags and leave my house..

    Yeah.. Pack his bags and leave my life because he didn't ask how i was feeling. I'm so overdramatic sometimes haha.

    I ended up texting him this morning and we went for a walk with the kids then he bought me lunch and coffee before i started working on my shop again.

  • phil76209
    phil76209 anxietysite123

    Posted

    I remember I used to sulk whenever me and my ex were not seeing eye to eye. In retrospect I feel I was over reacting and needed to get over it more quickly. But then again with me there were underlying insecurities which I harboured.

    This is partly why she's my ex now. My bad.

    • anxietysite123
      anxietysite123 phil76209

      Posted

      I got the same issues with insecurities. I'm not even sure why, but you would seriously think I've been cheated on by every person I date. In reality I just watch too many lifetime movies and have a general distrust of every male stemming from it lol

    • phil76209
      phil76209 anxietysite123

      Posted

      Ah yeah. I think TV has a lot to answer for. I too used to watch too much TV. I was shy and wouldn't naturally want to interact with the human race.

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