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allissa91226
allissa91226

Ive suffered from anxiety for years now. Im 25. Rewind to about a year ago (im a cosmetologist) i was looking at my license which expires in may of 2019. When i saw that date i had a rush of panic. "What if i die before then" or "i wont be alive then" which totally freajed me out. I forgot about it and moved on. Flash forward to March 2017. I had a baby. It was a tramatic labor and delivery for me which ended in c section, and almost needed a transfusion and an infection. Since then ive developed a huge fear of death. Im so afraid im going to die soon. I then remembered that date mentioned above and my anxiety that i got when i saw it. So since March ive been afraid that im goung to die by that date. Can anyone help me? Is it my anxiety or is God trying to tell me im going to die by that date? (I am a Christian/Catholic). Please anyone give me some insite. Im not ready to die and tired of living in fear of the future. Uts making me not want to make plans (vacas,projects, etc)

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  • AllianceMike
    AllianceMike allissa91226

    Posted

    Alissa,

       It is your anxiety talking. You noted that you are a Christian. I am as well and I am here to tell you that God tells us, in the bible, that he wants us to live long, abundant lives. God is not the author of fear. Pray about this and tell God about your fear and ask him to touch you with His healing hand. He will smile

    • allissa91226
      allissa91226 AllianceMike

      Posted

      Thank you so much for your reply. My gut says its my anxiety. I mean why would God want me to live in fear for the next 2 years? I dont believe he would. But as always my anxiety takes over my head and logic.
    • AllianceMike
      AllianceMike allissa91226

      Posted

      You are more than welcome!! Fear comes from the enemy (the devil) and God has given us domain over him. Claim your healing from Gad and walk in it!!
  • jan34534
    jan34534 allissa91226

    Posted

    God is not telling you that you are going to die.   Those kind of thoughts are common with Anxiety. The mind tends to go to the negative. 

    What happened is that fear has taken over your thoughts. 

    All the what ifs indicate fear of the future and are not based on reality. They are thoughts only. Those thoughts are separate from you, not part of you. 

    I have had the same thoughts and they feel awful!!

    you need to manage the anxiety in order to reduce or eliminate the negative thoughts.

    Please don't do what I did for over 20 years which is worry about the future. I deeply regret it because I could have been enjoying that time and nothing bad ever happened!!  What I learned was to appreciate EVERY single day with my family and do things I enjoy!  "What if " thinking adds No benefits to your life so it's robbing you of TIME.  Today is the day to LIVE, and once it's gone, we can't get it back!  

    Your baby will grow up before your eyes......will you miss out on enjoying the stages?

    No one can predict the future but odds are GREATLY in your favor that you will have a long healthy life. Everyone has some kind of problem.  You and millions of others, including me, have to deal with anxiety.  For others,its something else.

    You got through the delivery. God got you through it, so HE MUST want you here. He wants you to love and enjoy your baby! Now it's your turn to show Him your appreciation by trusting Him and living your life to the fullest!!

    My anxiety began in my 20s.  I'm in my 50s now and still here!  I felt just like you! 

    Here is what helped.....

    spoke with a counselor 

    listen to meditations on you tube for anxiety, depression, etc

    keep active and do things for others.....keeps mind off worrying 

    socialize

    exercise

    eat healthy...avoid sugars!

    Laugh, smile!  

    FEAR stands for false evidence appearing real (our negative thoughts are false evidence)

    Get copy of Book Mindfulness.  Teaches how to overcome this! Great read!

    i decided my life had to change so worrying about the future was a waste of my life.

    if anything comes up with my health, I will deal with it at that time!!   There is too much life to live, family to enjoy, flowers to smell.    Every day is a Blessing from God! 🌸🌸

  • lisalisa67
    lisalisa67 allissa91226

    Posted

    This is extremly common to fear death. No matter what i say that wont change a thing for you.

    I promise you God isn't telling you you are dying. Believe me thats not what is transpiring.  Your real answer is live now. Stop what your doing... its fear. Your christain/catholic right? So listen up live in the now and try and place your faith in that.ok. The future isnt yours to question of fear thats not faith, and that is not God. Thats fear and lack of trust in the process of life. That allowing your fear, irrational fear to be the boss.  

    You viewed your experience all wrong. You didnt learn the needed lesson at all. You see ot oppositie of what it was. You did NOT need the transfusion. Nope you didnt. What a blessing that was.  Whomever made that call or noted that to you was incorrect. Human incorrect. That was not God that was a Doctor, a human. So that human scared you. Not God. Understand that? You had a c section, thats massively common and your beautiful child was born. That is a blessing! You have been blessed. Thats the way to see this. I dont know how or why you twisted it up so severely and made it a negative but thats what you did 

    so this isnt God at all. This is you who had a scare from a human Dr. who should have been way more intelligent and professional at that moment and what words he used.

    so all is well allissa. You have been blessed in many ways but fail to see the reality of it. 

    Please do not "play" psycic  because clearly your judgement is skewed.

    i said all that from my heart, in truth, in the reality of what was because you took a blessing and darkened it all up with fear and then decieded this was real and now you have some fear based vision of God telling you you are dieing when all he did was heal you and give you a beautiful child.

    in terms  of the anxiety disorder maybe place a lot more of your hope and faith into all this and now start to trust the process of life. It has worked out very well for you to date. A good therapist can work with you and the anxiety and assess you if you need medication as well. Anxiety disorders are rough. This might be more ptsd as you were traumatized by some dr. Who jumped the gun and spoke aloud his incorrect thoughts.

    Almost doesnt mean a thing. It is or it isnt. 

    I hope that helped you. I just want you to really see what occurred as it really was. The truth of it. To helo you dismantle your skewed thoughts on it, 

    Please just thank God for all the blessings. This had nothing to do with a bad thing here. This is a to be grateful moment.

    i took in on face value rather then go into the whole ancoety thing because i want you in the now and when you look back for your thoughts to be hrateful and thankful and filled with dark thoughts and fears. Thats the root of this so my aim was to dismantle it. All meant from the heart in kindness amd to reprganize the reality of what really occurred.

     

    • allissa91226
      allissa91226 lisalisa67

      Posted

      I understand that labor and delivery eneded up being okay and im still gere. The big poimt that im trying to overcome is the fear of dying by may 2019. (The first part of my story) thats the part that is freaking me put the most. Can you reread and tell me what you think about that? Thanks!
    • lisalisa67
      lisalisa67 allissa91226

      Posted

      It would never be presented to you in that manner. That was not a premonition. That was you have anxiety. I dont know you nor your life to decipher what that license means to you and if you even like your job, maybe you felt overwhelmed. Maybe you dont like what you do and the thought of dealing with a  reneweal disturbs you,maybe looking into the future scares you a lot.  maybe that date in the past was stressful. So many reasons why you could have had that rush looking at your license. You, YOU rationalized it out as a premonition for your death, thats the story you decided was it, based in nothing but fear. god is about divine love not hate, not fear, not even death..not as you understand it.  So no it was not a premonition, any thoughts that eminate from fear, terror and a very very low place and vibration are called intrusive thoughts. Fear based negative thinking, but you chose to believe it, based on your fear at that moment. Theres a reason you brought up your religion, and theres a reason you brought up the anxiety you experienced during the birth of your child. You again felt that all was Part of the same story somehoe. Do you understand that? Intrusive thoughts once you bow down to them and believe them, are difficult to squash. I dint think you can unthink it now so you have to drown the intrusive thiught in a pool of positive thiughts and affirmation and trust amd faith into the process of life.

      maybe its just a fantastic sidetracker away from why you are so anxious. Rather then explore what is occurring you found a sidetracker. Or some twisted rationale to be all good with believing in an inteusive thiught. Us humans are fools with this stuff. We think we are so intelligent haha we define intelligence in the first place..doesnt mean its fact. Its what we define as truth. We arent that bright at all. We are animals in nature. But many have come to deel they are above it all. Some highhly intelligent being. We arent. We are just maybe smarter then other animals. Thats it. Means very little, anyway what you did maybe is Like health anxiety (more hypochondria stuff)  is similiar to that. Somehow less painful to pour all this negative, low vinrating energy into "something" like its the cause of all this it isnt.

      i wish i could convince but fear is proably the steongest emotion ither then hope and faith. And ince you no longer trust the process of life self preservation instinct will be to seek out the negative. Its sad for you. You need to find solace and refuge in all this. You need to find what resonates with you to rebuild yourself mind, body and soul. 

      What i am wondering is if you have something called post partum depression. If you have not been assessed for that maybe thats your best bet now. It happens to people. Many have onset of all this after having a baby, Im not literate or very knowledgable about it at all and its details but therapy and drs are well aware of it and can treat it. 

    • lisalisa67
      lisalisa67

      Posted

      Sorry many tyoos but i hope that helped you a little bit. 
    • allissa91226
      allissa91226 lisalisa67

      Posted

      Thank you so much. Yes that helped tremendously. Thank you for taking the time to reply all of that. I really really appreciate it more than you may know!!
  • Aspinan
    Aspinan allissa91226

    Posted

    Hi there, I had a similar anxiety way back in the 80's when I thought and feared the world was going to end in April 1984, I used to get in a real state thinking about it but hey it didn't happen. The same will be with you, it's anxiety that's causing you to think these things and believe them.

    Have you spoken to your GP about it, if not I'd suggest you make a double appointment and go see him/her, you would probably benefit from some CBT and counselling, in the mean time all I can say is your not going to die in May 2019.

    • allissa91226
      allissa91226 Aspinan

      Posted

      Wow. I am glad to know im not alone in this. Thank you so much for sharing
  • jan34534
    jan34534 allissa91226

    Posted

    Your license plate has nothing to do with your life. Please remember that.

    a counselor would be able to help you sort this out.

    your anxiety and fear is taking you over! 

    When that date comes and goes, you will still be here!!   

    God doesn't use dates like that to end someone's earthly life. 

    • allissa91226
      allissa91226 jan34534

      Posted

      Youre right. He wouldn't do that. He wouldn't want me to know when ill die or want me to live in fear until then

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