Depressed

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I am 18 days out Rtha, and I have been s emotional, just crying at being so depressed and stuck. Also had a family

Memeber I thought I was really close with disappoint me

And it's a major

Blow to me

As well

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    I am sorry to hear, I know I battle the depression on and off, when I go out in the sun it helps,  Dr's orders. Pain meds don't help if you are on them, I had to change the ones I was on.  Sorry someone has disappointed you, sending you good mojo and a hug.  Hope you feel better. 

    Annette

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    Aww Vettech....it's ok. I know how you feel. I know it's hard not being able to do the things you used to right now but try & be a patient. I know it's easier said than done. I was crying everyday! I'm 25 days out from my second surgery. I am non weight bearing for past 3 weeks and have 3 more weeks to go! It's hard not being able to do much. And either im in a wheelchair or bed or hop around the house using my walker. I'm sending hugs and well wishes your way. 🌹🌷🌼🌸💐🌻🌾. This surgery is tough for some but know you are not alone. I hope all resolves between you and this family member. I think sometimes ppl may not fully understand us after this surgery. It's not easy, I'm glad you are here so you can feel the love & support from everyone here. Also good tips & advice as we all have been through this and we all have our unique stories to tell. Hang in there it wil get better as you begin to heal and feel better. Prayers for God's peace & comfort. Hugs, 🤗🤗 LD

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      Very nice message Linda.

      I hope you are starting to feel a bit more upbeat and optimistic about your journey (unintended detour and all). It cannot have been easy. I was not permitted full weight-bearing on my first hip until 6 weeks and I found that challenging. I can only imagine how frustrating and .... limiting that must feel. But you are past the halfway mark 😊😇😉

      Big hugs,

      L

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      Thank you Linda! Yes I'm beginning to start to feel better. It is frustrating at times but you're right I'm half way there! Feels like the weeks are moving a lil faster. This weekend was a lil long but that's ok. Having my hubby here is nice! Hope all is well with you too!! Hugs, 🤗🤗 LD

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      Aw linda you poor love, i'm 27 days and i feel I turned a massive corner yesterday. My poor muscles are knitting back together and I feel stronger, Your day will come love just keep on keeping on. Last week passed in a soggy mess but this week I feel better.

      Sending massive healing hugs to you xxxx

      Kim

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      Thank you Kim! So glad to hear you are feeling better and stronger!! It's always great to hear when someone is on that road to recovery and back to their lives!! God is good! Blessings that all continues to go well!! Hugs, 🤗🤗. LD

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    I think it's normal to be down after major surgery.  We have gone through a massive thing and are probably a bit in shock.

    hope you are feeling better about things soon.  We are all here to listen and support.

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    I remember only to well the depression stage of this journey (about 3 weeks for me).I was teary-eyed and blurry-eyed most of the time - tired and feeling further behind than most everyone else and certainly much less progress and healing than I expected going in. But then it seems that there is a certain level of vagueness about the recovery stage by our surgeons.

    Hang in there Vettech - it will get better soon. I really saw a huge qualitative improvement at about 4 weeks. The pain was easing so I could do more and take less medications. Doing more meant somewhat better sleep and loner outings with friends and family. All of this helped with mood and motivation. I hope this wil be your experience as well and that recovery will really take off for you.

    And if not, see your local to ask for something to help.

    Wishing you a more rapid but smooth recovery.

    Hugs,

    Linda

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    We will listen any time all of us

    Your emotions come n go all day

    Have an appointment when and if u go to school

    Thus was big surgery for u so young

    Try to make a plan of a bunch of things u wanna do while your home

    Clean a closet

    Kearn new games

    Read

    Get playlists ready

    And nap it really helps sort stuff out

    Keep us updated wishing u a few nice hours tues🌞👍🙋🙋

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    Hey there. Don't fret. Only being given 18 days out, please try to get some sort of distraction. I had a very depressing, dark evening 8 days out. Make sure you have lots of support, and PLEASE, MAKE SURE YOU ARE TAKING YOUR PAIN MEDS EVERY 5 HOURS. That was MY problem. I thought I could do it on my own. Yeah, right. Also, like I said earlier, get some sort of distraction. Do you like BBC television? Netflix is awesome, and has many shows! I watched the entries series of Doc Martin, as well as just finished Monarch of the Glen. Don't beat yourselfup. You just went through major surgery, and you need time to heal. Call your doctor if your depression gets worse! I feel for you, but honestly, it WILL get better, I promise. I am now 5 months out, and I think I overdid it at the gym last week, so pulled something in my leg. Bummer. Do your PT too, as this will keep your mind occupied. Keep moving forward, as again, it will get better!

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    Oh, dear how awful, please try not to get so upset concentrate on getting over your hip replacement I had mine done not quite three weeks ago, on my own as best friend died suddenly last December, yes it's tough but if you are determined enough you will come through it all.  I have had to rely on friends, carer coming in once a day and Internet shopping on line.  Keep your chin up.  Yes it's crack of dawn here do not get a lot of sleep as not used to sleeping on my back.  Hugs Ann

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      Ann I hate this sleeping on my back too!! 😫😖. Can't sleep, hearing and watching hubby fast asleep as he's sleeping on his side! 😒 Oh how I wish I could sleep on my side!! Someday, someday....😞

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    Hello sweetheart, 

    this is the beauty of this forum, our circle of friends -- to be able to talk about this and share the emotions without being judged - sometimes you just feel like crap - and the feel guilty about it, because you are actually doing really well .. all the things you need to feel grateful for, and trust me, you are ....

    I don't know about you, but most of the times I cannot even put words to these feelings - it just washes over me, comes in waves ...

    I know this feeling of disappointment ...  a dear friend once told me : Expectations are buildingblocks for disappointments - 

    take a deep breath darling - know that you are precious and all is well -

    as the saying goes: This too shall pass     (BUT WHEN???cry)

    big warm hug

    renee

     

    • Posted

      Yes, this too shall pass. In the beginning, it seems like forever, but then you get back into life, and it will begin to move again!
  • Posted

    Your body has been through so much and we all get a little depressed at times.   

    As for a person disappointing you, they are scared some people cannot handle sickness, or seeing someone not 100%.  

    Believe me had a fair share of people ignoring me over the last few years due to husband illness...  and funny when they need something their ugly heads reappear... 

    Chin up, speak to Dr it maybe the pain meds that are getting you down 

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