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jovana60512
jovana60512

Hello,

I got genital hsv from the person I trusted the most and planned future with. He was completely unbothered by the fact he has it and that he gave it to me. Before even having sex he told me he doesnt have any std, and that he visited doctor. It wasnt the truth with many more things. This person was my only partner. I was heartbroken by the fact that I loved someone so much and was blind to think clearly or see his true colours.

Now, I dont want to transmit this virus to anyone in future. I dont want nobody to go through what I did, and I am so scared. It is making me so depressed. I dont sleep well, waking up in sweat and tears. All I think about is how I was naive and that my life is now over. Can anybody help me with their experience with recurrent outbreaks or new partners? How to mentally deal with the fact having the virus for the rest of my life? I would be more than grateful If someone can reply.

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  • love70897
    love70897 jovana60512

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    I got diagnosed with genital herpes a week ago and honestly i felt like my life was over at first and i cried so much but honestly i got better and i am continuing to get better. Whatever is meant for you in life you will have regardless of herpes. The pain gets better my outbreak was terrible i could not walk or sit i could not eat but i can walk now i can sit i can eat. Do not make it such a big part of your life because its not. live as you would with the exception of being honest with your future partners and if they do not accept it they just were never meant for you and thats okay! You will have the life you deserve despite herpes. Just be positive be happy because you have it and its there you have to cope with it and be strong for yourself

    • jovana60512
      jovana60512 love70897

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      thanks for encouraging me! I really needed it! wish you all the best with your outbreak recovery

  • mark50520
    mark50520 jovana60512

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    I picked up my genital HSV2 in 2016. I didn't realise what it was until I passed it on to my girlfriend a few months later. Its a source of great regret for me and led to the end of our relationship.

    I haven't been with a settled partner since then and have been very concerned not to make the same mistake as before.

    After a lot of thought I drew some conclusions:

    If I'm not going to have sex with someone, it's none of there business so I don't discuss it.

    If sex is on the cards I will always discuss the Herpes beforehand. This is a pretty awkward conversation that I've had several times now. It's gone better than I expected no the whole. Most girls look alarmed initially but then appreciate the honesty. I've only had one prospective partner walk out on me.

    At practical level the key to not passing it on is to avoid all sex during an outbreak and be very vigilant for fresh outbreaks.

    I haven't passed it on since taking this approach

    Don't give up on your sex life, it's not over for you.

    Best of luck jovana

    • jovana60512
      jovana60512 mark50520

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      Thanks for taking your time and making me feel better about myself! I really appreciate it! Hva

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