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depressed after break up

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julie85700
julie85700

a year ago my partner asked me to move abroad with him so i gave up my flat my car my job i dont have savings and he said he would look after me forever,  then his alcoholic brother moved in and it all went down hill i got asked to leave so now im back in uk trying to start over i have no home so sofa surfing and im so depressed i just want to die

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  • warren_31361
    warren_31361 julie85700

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    I'm so depressed Julie I have never been alone and feel lonely after loosing my ex and my brother everything has gone wrong for me now Christmas approaching I just font want to be here why do people hurt people so much finding out my partner was sleeping with another guy broke my heart never thought she would do this I've been suicidal for long time my brother passed away 4 years ago now and still struggle like it was yesterday I live alone now and hate it feel lonely and depressed

    • Patient
      Patient warren_31361

      Posted

      Hi warren 31361

      We note from a recent post which you have made to our forum that you may be experiencing thoughts around self-harm. If we have misinterpreted your comments then we apologies for contacting you directly. But if you are having such thoughts then please note that you are not alone in this, and there are people out there that can help.

      If you are having these suicidal thoughts then we strongly recommend you speak to someone who may be able to help. The Samaritans offer a safe space where you can talk openly about what you are going through. They can help you explore your options, understand your problems better, or just be there to listen.

      Their contact details are on our patient information leaflet here: https://patient.info/health/dealing-with-suicidal-thoughts, which also offers lots of other advice on how you can access the help you may need.

      If you are having such thoughts then please do reach out to the team at the Samaritans (or the other people detailed in our leaflet) who will understand what you're going through and will be able to help.

      Kindest regards

      Patient

  • warren_31361
    warren_31361 julie85700

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    Julie I'm so sorry to hear u going thru so much yourself I dont understand why people are so horrible I feel your pain u give up everything to be with person and they treat u like this I have never been alone always with Lady so finding it very hard to cope as I like company and all the cuddles and stuff when u in relationship I miss it so much but mostly my kids tore there hearts out taking them away from family home have u applied with council to see if they will help u Julie if there anything can do I'm always here

    • julie85700
      julie85700 warren_31361

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      I just feel like i had the wind knocked out of me i hate being alone all i wanted was him to love me like i loved him and he just threw me away like i was rubbish.  Now i must start all over as took all my belonging overseas.  Just very sad been to doctors he put me on anti depressants so hopefully they help
  • borderriever
    borderriever julie85700

    Posted

    Julie

    There are several things you need to do if possible. Approach Letting Agencies and the Council to get on housing registers. Citizens Advice may also be able to help, they may be able to advise on Temporary Housing this will give you time to catch your Breath and help take the immediate sting out of house hunting

    BOB

    Register with a GP if not already and make an appointment to see them and explain your low mood.

    • julie85700
      julie85700 borderriever

      Posted

      been to the council office they said i could go to the shelter if i wish they just dont care
    • borderriever
      borderriever julie85700

      Posted

      Julie

      Yes people at Council can be a real pain. Have you tried Housing Associations  or Letting Agencies.

      I was like you many years ago and I was caught  out with nowhere to live. I was lucky I went into a Housing Association flat with my then Girlfriend and it took about twelve months before we managed to get something we wanted. 

      It was quite bad I had been on a Council Housing List for nearly five years, been single they just seemed not to want to know, all is just so nasty it was a further two years, they came back to me and asked if I still wanted to be on their list. 

      Good Luck

      BOB

  • warren_31361
    warren_31361 julie85700

    Posted

    Council are hard work they are trying to evict me from my 3 bed house as got bit behind with rent told them situation was in but u right they dont care I hope u get sorted Julie I feel your pain always here if u need chat
  • julie85700
    julie85700

    Posted

    thank you just chatting to you make me see the light at the end of the tunnel and im here if you need to chat
  • Yuki50
    Yuki50 julie85700

    Posted

    Julie Hi. Well there a reason for all that is going on . It’s sucks when your going though it, but believe me , your going to come out of it stronger. Sounds like you have some nice friends that let you  couch surf. Ya dead broke doesn’t help either, but try finding a job, and not in the field you where in. Try something totally different. I don’t know your age, but hook up with some survivors that are in the same spot your in for support. If the UK has any kind of free service’s. Also don’t let the past kept you from living. Ok it’s over, we’ll move on, go start living, your gonna be surprised at how much your missing out on, and don’t look back. Your in the UK. Make the most out of it. Keep going.
    • Yuki50
      Yuki50

      Posted

      Julie the best  revenge on him, is going and makings a happy life for yourself!!!! Go for it! Don’t look back, and no regret ‘s. his loss, Now go live!!!! Keep us posted we are all  rooting for you . 
    • julie85700
      julie85700 Yuki50

      Posted

      your so kind with your words i think thats more that i ever got off him 
  • Adldiane
    Adldiane julie85700

    Posted

    Hi Julie I am so..sorry that you are suffering so! I can't imagine how you feel having your feet pulled out from under you like that. Is there any way that you can get your old job back by explaining that things just didn't work out? I do believe that you will get back on your feet it just may take some time. Please keep us posted. Diane

    • julie85700
      julie85700 Adldiane

      Posted

      Thank you i busy looking for a job but its hard when they see tears in your eyes.  I will get up again he wont beat me and karma will get him in the end lol
    • Adldiane
      Adldiane julie85700

      Posted

      Of course you will get a job!! And that old karma is something else. But the best way to get back at someone is to do well!! Live well! And be happy again. Their are good things coming!! Diane
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