Depressed boyfriend left me

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Hey guys, could you suggest anything?

We only were together for a short period. On the first date he told me he was on antidepressants but he was on a good form. First weeks we had a great time and he was telling me how I made him happy, etc. He started calling me his girlfriend.

A few weeks in he was changing his meds and was quieter than usually (financial worries) but things between us seemed  ok.

I’m a little feisty and last time I saw him I caused an argument out of he blue:I was enquiring why he liked so much his hot girl friend’s pics on insta (I don’t think there was anything going on because she lives in another country so that’s my insecurity more that anything). He didn’t engage in the argument just left my flat, but I think that triggered something in him. He apologised for acting the way he acted and I said sorry as well. But he never responded to my text I sent the next day and when I texted again 3 days later he responded that he wasn’t ok, cared only about himself and didn’t care when I had concerns about the  girl. I apologised that I was silly and that I will be there for him but he said he didn’t want me to be there for him and that he needed to be alone and he needed to focus on himself and that he didn’t care.  Since then we’ve had no contact and it’s been a week.

I miss him. Not sure if its a good idea to break the silence. Would you advise me anything? Should I just wait and see if he comes to me?

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    It all depends on him. I was married for 20yr when my wife had an affair and ended or marriage. Until I was over her I could not move on . Maybe this is the case with him. I dont know if this helps at all but that's the way I was when I tried to get back out there.

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      Thank you for your comment. I wouldn’t thought of this. He previously said she was a good friend for the last 6 years and nothing more than that. But I will never know
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      That's exactly what happend to me . I loved me wife even after she had the affair and it took me a lot to move on I still have bad days. But i try to keep in mind i did nothing wrong. Unfortunately sometime we think we are ready to move on and deep down we aren't. Best of luck to you.

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    Kingi

    It can be a problem if you do not know what His Mental Health Condition was caused by and if His past girl friend instigated His problem. It may be He is still licking His wounds and when He opened up memories and commented on them it may have knocked him back and pushed Him down memory lane.

    We know very little if  nothing regards His past and you will be unable to relate to His needs and expectations, The same will apply to him if his past is still very raw.

    You need to understand in some instances you will find, His needs will be built around himself,  and any negative thoughts He may have especially if the girl had broke their Relationship, He relives those memories

    It may also be His problems may have rooted from way back in His teens and family life.

    Sad to say you may need, to get mixed up in past events this can be a real problem no-one wants to live a partners past. However leave it to him to call you back Although it may be you will have to let go  sad to say, The relationship will be problematic and you will be flogging a dead horse until he puts everything into perspective and His attention turns towards a new Partner

    BOB

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      Thank you for your comment. Again, I would have not thought of this. It seemed like he was ready for a relationship but at that time same his mental state had deteriorated. Thanks again for taking the time to respond.
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