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Depression and hip op

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marilyn_92910
marilyn_92910

Has anyone suffered with feeling very low 2 weeks after hip op my first hip op I didn't feel tearful but this one has made me feel tearful if I feel like it on Monday I will make appt with Dr

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  • Kikeena
    Kikeena marilyn_92910

    Posted

    I think the anaesthetics make  people more teary than normal. It seems to affect me that way anyway.
  • renee01952
    renee01952 marilyn_92910

    Posted

    Hi marilyn and lovely people ,

    You already know that I had (like many of us here) 2 THR surgeries within 6 months - since then I have been on an emotional roller coaster - For me this was and still is such a confrontational time - I am sad and cry, but not really knowing why --  it is something deep, dull - loss of part of my body, the new hardware? since I am not sure , my mind  finds something else to grieve about: the loss of my child, my mother passed away 5 years ago, divorce, leaving L.A. etc - 

    Things I thought I dealt with and closed the book ... 

    There is something else and I hope I won't make it worse - these surgeries confronted me with my own mortality - I suddenly feel so old (67) -

    It is and will be a stormy, rainy Sunday here in my knack of the woods -

    Make peace with where you are - you are now here and it is perfect ...

    if not you would be somewhere else.

    warm big hug

    renee 

    • shirley17649
      shirley17649 renee01952

      Posted

      Hello renee,

      Have just read this thread again and there is so much depth to it I feel I must comment. You have just summed up exactly how I am feeling.

      I too am getting old (68) and feeling my own mortality. My in-laws both passed away this year, leaving my husband irritable and depressed.

      I am also facing my own mortality - I am next in age and could well be the next to die. (Husband in poor health but 8 years younger)

      Our daughters were born by IVF and have only just been told. They are still coming to terms with the fact I am not their biological mother.

      "You are now here and it is perfect" - That is so true - there is nowhere else I would rather be and it is the life I chose for mysel of my own free will.

      Thanks renee - you have lost a child and I cannot imagine how painful that must have been But that and other losses have made you the strong person you are today. Your wisdom is being passed on to otherswink

      We are in the midst of a terrific gale here  but we will weather the storm just as you and I will too.

      I have to be strong for my girls and husband who look to me for leadership. My Scorpio determination needs to come to the fore and I must put away my self-pity and invalid mentality.

      Hugs renee and keep safe and well.

      Shirley

       

    • marilyn_92910
      marilyn_92910 renee01952

      Posted

      It will be 2 years on 25/1/16 when we lost lizzie suddenly, I don't how your child passed away, but with Liz, Graham found her in bed and when pm was done it revealed chronic liver disease because of bein a alcoholic, and as you say part of your body like amputation taken away and replaced artificially today I feel a lot better been out for a lovely meal with Graham warm hugs to you xx
    • cathie38426
      cathie38426 marilyn_92910

      Posted

      Hi Marilyn,

      ..and the walls come tumbling down.. It is 34 years since

      our 18 year old son died from hospital negligence, but I too

      realised how prone I was to post operation 'downs' and how

      sharp the memories. I know how you are feeling, I cry as well,

      It is important to cry, having a hip operation makes us emotional.

      I am glad your meal out helped.

      love Cathie

    • cathie38426
      cathie38426 renee01952

      Posted

      hi Renee,

      You also are a bereaved parent like Marilyn and me,

      you are right, you did deal with everything, but we do

      not forget. What takes us by surprise is that our strong

      walls are not as strong as we thought they were. 

      We are not as strong as we thought we were..but we

      are strong enough, cos we've survived without bitterness.

      It will soon be the shortest day, then Spring is on its way.

      loveCathie

    • Kikeena
      Kikeena cathie38426

      Posted

      Dear Cathie, Renee, Shirley and Marilyn

      Your posts have left me in tears. To loose children, unimaginable. My children are in a place of my heart reserved for no one else and tense periods with them leave me crying and grieving like no other issue in my life, including pain and disability.

      My daughter is going to the UK for 5 years for her husband to do a phD and I am devastated. I'll visit annually, but oh, the grief in the anticipation. I can't imagine what it would be like to be permanently without a child.

      Renee, you said you grieve your body part, as I did my knee 10 years ago. A child is also a body part and to be separated from a child and another body part feels fundamentally wrong. No getting around it. They should both be with us. Loss leads to memories of loss, and we fear loss in the future. I very much fear for my mobility over the next 10 years. I'm 59 now, but so many of my joints have problems.

      Thank you my dear hippie friends. There are none other like you.

      Keena

    • cathie38426
      cathie38426 Kikeena

      Posted

      I did not mean to make you cry, I just wanted the others

      to know they are not alone.

      My daughter was in Australia for more than 3 years, her

      daughter was born there, we visited for long holidays. You

      will probably be doing the same, the 60s are the travelling 

      years.. 5 years is a long phD, he must be doing research as well.

      Take your new body parts travelling!

      love Cathie

    • Kikeena
      Kikeena cathie38426

      Posted

      Thanks Cathie. I am dreading them going but will visit every year. And you came to Australia too! It's a loooong way from Europe. Or the US.

      Go gently

      Keena

  • Rocketman_SG6UK
    Rocketman_SG6UK marilyn_92910

    Posted

    One thing I am doing to help my mental state is to keep a blog of what I do every day in a spreadsheet.

    My headings are :-

    Day number since operation

    Date

    Distance I walk outdoors

    How many minutes I ride on my exercise bike

    Other details - like where I walk, appointments, milestones.

    I find that looking back at where I have come from, it gives me a real boost.

    Best wishes

    Graham

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