Depression and relationship doubts

There is no such thing as a perfect relationship and if you are thinking along these terms then nothing can match up with this expectation. I hope your ad's kick in fo ryou soon.  x

Hi there.

Sorry to read that you've been feeling depressed. 

There are many antidepressants (AD) out there and they all work in slightly different ways. Sometimes a patient needs to try a few different types before finding one that suits them. It generally takes four weeks on a new AD to notice at least some improvement, although I have heard of some people only responding a full eight weeks later but that is not too common. Perhaps give it another seven days and if nothing has improved then return to your doctor and let them know you're still suffering and discuss your options and take their advice from there.

It might be helpful to try and ascertain if it is perhaps your current circumstances that have triggered this depression, or if it has come on out of the blue and isn't connected to your environment.  Did you lose interest towards your partner before starting the antidepressants, or did your feelings seem to change towards your her only after you started them?  Can you pinpoint anything at all that happened that could've caused you to fall into a deep depression?

Have you thought about other reasons why someone could suddenly experience a depression, like a vitamin or mineral deficiency (especially B12 and D3), the side effects of any other meds you may be taking or have stopped taking, hitting your head and being concussed and so on - did your doc ask these questions, or run a blood test before offering you ADs?

As hypercat has said, there is no such thing as a 'perfect relationship' and to have expectations of such is always going to bring disappointment.  Your girl is a woman with all the complexities that come with the human condition.  You may be experiencing the end of what they call the 'honeymoon period', where the rose tinted glasses come off and you begin to see each other more rationally - as 'normal' people with a past, and faults with potential improvements to be made.  At that point, partners either split or the hold hands and jump off the mountain together.  Have you been with this lady for very long? 

Hi there, you are feeling this way because of your depression. The doubts about how you feel about your girlfriend right now, again are bought about because of your depression. This is not a true reading of how you feel about this girl. Depression changes the way you think and feel, don't trust it! Try not to question these things at this time. Concentrate on feeling better. I can guarantee once you are feeling better, your love for this girl will prevail. Good luck hun, Donna x

Hi Chase - hang in there mate. Don't throw her away, let the meds do their work. If they don't work, don't despair, dosage might need tweaking or another sort of med used.