Depression and self harm
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Hello I am new here. I have suffered BPD since I was 13, my mental health has worsened over the years. My mum died from cancer, she was my step mum, raised me from a baby. My siblings after she died, well you could say the crap hit the fan.
They told me I killed their mother, my birth mother died having me, don't know I lived with myself, I was a monster and evil and should do the family a favour and die, preferably under the wheels of a car.
My physical health has worsened, suffer from IBS which is horrific and also have a urethral prolapse owing to years of no hrt after hysterectomy at 25. Should have surgery to remove it but won't, not after my g.p humiliated me. Constantly in and out of casualty with it.
Saw another g.p last year about my depression. Told I needed counselling, nothing happened. My last psychiatrist dumped me several years ago saying he couldn't help me any more.
i cut with razors, been a self harmed since 13 but now out of control, drink two or three glasses of wine a night. A cuddle in a glass is how I see it. Tried to cut it out for one night ended up rummaging in a bin for a half drunk bottle I knew was in there.
Last year found what I thought was a forum to find friends who knew what it was like. Turned out it was people who taught me instead how to die. Ended up buying the peaceful pill handbook and discovering how to obtain Nembutal to end my life.
A few months ago a woman on the forum killed herself online. I stayed up all night trying to help her. Didn't know who or where she was, made it clear she didn't want to be saved, killed herself with Nembutal as I was online with her.
Left the forum after finding out loads of people were watching our conversation for hours and none of them did anything, none of them tried to help. I told her I would not let her die alone and stayed to the end. Tried to convince her not to do it. Still feel guilt as she posted her details at the last moment and I didn't act on them as I just didn't know what I was supposed to do, I was in shock I guess.
sorry for long post.
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patricia44773 amelai1971
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And to say you killed your mother, that is pure evil, I cannot imagine anything worse.
Please let us help you...even if it is just to listen and empathise.
Pat.xxxx
amelai1971 patricia44773
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my brother made threats to kill me, I was also abused as a child by a male relative.Not even sure if it was abuse as it never went beyond stripping me down to my underwear and stroking my legs. Maybe I'm just being dumb and over sensitive.
confronted him a few years ago, his dad said if I didn't admit I lied he wouldn't be responsible if I got hurt. I wouldn't back down but promised I wouldn't tell anyone. My doctor knows, she said I was being groomed. I didn't try to stop him though so I guess I was asking for it.
Such a mess, tired of being treated as a freak by everyone. Even doctors and nurses at hospital when you go in for physical health problems see your self harm and dismiss you as attention seeking. With my prolapse my own g.p asked if I was sticking objects in my body because he didn't know what it was at the time. He completely humiliated me saying that.
My my family say I'm a freak who doesn't deserve to be alive. If it wasn't for me they would still have a mother. I stick around because I look after an elderly family member but the darkness is creeping closer and I know I'm not going to keep it away for ever. It will consume me in the end.
seem to spend all my evenings drinking and cutting and crying.
patricia44773 amelai1971
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It's a common belief that self harming, cutting etc. is a form of attention seeking....but I totally disagree. When I was many years younger I used to cut myself (I still have the white scars on my wrists etc.) and the last thing I wanted to do was draw attention to myself, I just wanted to feel the pain I thought I deserved. Like you, I blamed myself for things that I now see were not my fault, and feeling the pain, seeing the blood was my punishment. It made me feel better.
I feel that this is what you are doing. You desperately need to get rid of the guilt you are carrying around. I cannot believe that your family are cruel enough to treat you as they do, it makes my heart ache.
I wish I could help more, I feel so helpless.
Keep talking, take all the help from the professional that you are offered and please, please stop blaming yourself.
Take care,
Pat xxx
jayne10080 amelai1971
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elizabeth20203 amelai1971
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Sending you a big hug.
Elizabeth.
hypercat amelai1971
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Of course it wasn't your fault coz you didn't stop that man from abusing you - and it was abuse you know even if he was 'only stroking your legs'. It is still abuse. You were a child so how could you stop him? He had probably done it for years and was an 'expert'. This is not your fault.
Neither is it your fault that your birth mother died having you - you didn't ask to be born. It wasn't your fault either that your step mother died, it was the cancers fault wasn't it?
If I were you I would get as far away from this toxic 'family' as possible, move away, make a new start, get your own life and leave them to theirs. I am a big believer in karma and they will get what's coming to them in time. Trust me.
From your post you are a lovely caring person who deserves a lot better than the s..t you are getting. Talk about kicking someone when they are down. If you are not around your siblings will have to kick each other instead won't they? Hopefully they will kick themselves to pieces...
Give yourself time to get your head together, get some meds and/or counselling and then get on with the rest of your life. You deserve to be happy and you will be one day. Hold on to that love.
We are all here for you so stay with us and we will help and support you any way we can. You are not alone. Bev x