depression, anxiety and breakup :(

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hello everyone,

i'm 20 years old and i think i'm going through the lowest point of my life. I suffer from anxiety and depression, i'm on medication called Escitalopram / Lexapro and i think it's starting to work again, i'm not sure. But i'm really struggling with depression, everyday i struggle to get out of bed, do work, i have no energy and i just feel completely numb, i haven't felt any emotions in a while, i just feel pure numbness or sadness.

My boyfriend and i mutually broke up 3 days ago after being together for 3 and a half years and it still feels so surreal, like it hits me in random moments and it just feels so strange not talking everyday and i miss him so much. We ended things because my mental health was getting in the way of our relationship and he tried ever so hard to be there for me and help me get through this but it was unfortunately affecting him negatively and we just knew that we needed to break up to work on ourselves independently and to try and figure ourselves out and who we are.

I don't know why exactly i'm writing on here or what i'm looking for, i guess i need some reassurance idk, i just hope that we both made the right decision and i want to know that i will be better and heal and do well in life

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    hi kindteamer, this sounds awful to deal with! i don't know how you're taking this so eell. am sure your break-up hasn't really done you any favours! put you first. care about you for a bit. you sound unwell, you need support. apart from medication has your doctor mentioned mental health services and their support? admit defeat, it's got too tough and you need support. i hope you get some. good luck and bless you!

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    Hey Kindreamer!

    I can totally relate with what you went through, give a major part of your youth to someone to one day realize it was all for nothing. If the relationship starts changing you and one day you can't even recognize yourself, so trust me you did yourself a huge favor. Sweetheart, you are only 20 years, you need not to worry about making the wrong decision. Just focus on yourself and prioritize your family, they are the ones that we tend to forget are the ones that stick by us through it all. I was also in a four year relationship that ended abruptly and what helped me through it was my own family and my emotional support animals. I have a cat and a dog and getting that unconditional love from them has been my saving grace.

    My advice to you, it isn't the end of the world. Focus on yourself, paint, sing, dance. Give love to your own family and get yourself a pet and see how they brighten up your life in this hard time.

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    I think you and him should of remained together, and worked out things together. Loved ones need to support each other, and work on things together and for each other.

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