Depression - guilt over relationship
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Hi all, I hope you are well. I've struggled badly with depression for the last 15 months, 6 of which I was absent from work due to it though I have been back since March and not missed a day.
For me, the root seems to be a relationship problem - I feel terrible guilt that I do not love my 'girlfriend' in the way I once did, I see it more as friendship now, but even then, I find it so hard to talk to her as I feel shame and guilt, as she has invested so much love and time in wanting to get me better. It took me about 4 months into the depression, though, to admit the problem, as I wanted it to be 'something else' and not my change of feelings to her.
I am struggling really badly with the guilt, but despite me being so honest with her now about things, she keeps saying spending time together and 'trying to work through it' will help. I'm at my wits end, I'm 38 and feel like this was my last chance for happiness. I just don't know what else to do.
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inna88111 jason15970
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But just to be fair, I am marred for 15 Years. And every relationship is changing with the time. No need to feel guilty about. Friendship is a better one of 2 possible ways. Another one is to feel nothing or hate. Sometimes it is more important to be with someone you trust, than to be in love. Being thankfull to someone for taking care of you is just another shape of love. You can repay her with taking care of her. And shi will feel your love. Becouse this is how long term relationships works. Appreciate each other.
jason15970 inna88111
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Hi inna, many thanks for your words, and sorry for taking so long to respond! I am still very much in a state of feeling 'stuck', sadly, but trying hard each way - any more advice is welcome!