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Depression - how to fight it?

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johnmoulin
johnmoulin

Hello,

This will be a pretty long message so I someone will take the patience to read it. My girlfriend's mom has been diagnosed with depression about one year ago. It's probably one of the toughest cases you heard of as the women closed herself in her room, covered the windows with blankets and continues to say that she can't do anything, that she doesn't desire to live anymore and she also had two suicidal attempts.

She was taken to the hospital multiple times but they just gobbled pills down her neck without doing any therapy or someone talking to her. During this year she stayed in different hospitals for about 3 months but no one has done anything else but give her more and more pills. I feel therapy would have helped much more. Anyway, during this time she became addicted to the medicine and asks for more and more and even more. Nobody knows what to do anymore. We're afraid that if we take her to the doctor again we'll just have the same luck as before. She barely eats and she's always locked in her room and we're afraid that we won't find her among us soon.

Now, my question is: what do you think is the best way to approach this issue without going to a doctor?

Thank you!

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  • Dannie1989
    Dannie1989

    Posted

    Hi john, I'm afraid i only have the one bit of advice really and that's just to let you know that you can access therapy without a doctor and there are many to choose from, there's CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) , hypnotherapy, psychologists and so many more you could look into many of which can prescribe the right medication if needed. Don't give up hoe, this woman obviously needs help from loved ones and professionals to help her get back on track and lead a happy, normal life.

    Hope the situation gets better soon.

    Danielle

  • claire75245
    claire75245

    Posted

    Hi there Johnmoulin,

    This is a very serious situation, do you know what the root cause of the depression is? May i ask how old this lovely lady is? treating depression with medication can have its benefits, but in this case it has failed. I think she needs a referral to your local mental heath team. I also wonder if she could access this website, and talk to others who have experienced this illness. Please be careful because with the best will in the world you could be out of your depth sweetheart. You need support urgently. Does she live with you? You could visit your GP and ask advice, making it clear the advice is to support her.

    Here if you need to talk John xx

  • johnmoulin
    johnmoulin

    Posted

    Hello,

    Thanks for your help and answers. The problem is that I live in Romania, a country pretty limited in options and, as you can see, the involvement of the people that should take care of persons with problems such as my girlfriend's mom. So CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) , hypnotherapy are solutions which we can barely get our hands on.

    From what I understand this situation started with the moment when her mother died. She started blaming herself that she wasn't close to her during her last years and from that point began falling deeper and deeper until she got to this point where she also refuses to talk to anyone and when she does say a word or two, that's "I need my pills". I do not live with her but I see my girlfriend which I live together with is consuming herself every day over this matter.

    Regards,

    John

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