Depression is pushing my boyfriend away.
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This is the first time I have really spoken about my depression, or really accepted that there is something wrong with me.
I have everything that I could have ever possibly dreamed of, a home, a loving boyfriend, good friends etc and yet I am still so unhappy. Sometimes I can go a few weeks maybe even a month feeling okay and then the depression hits. It's not like there is a trigger to this, often it is the most trival things that get me down and keep me feeling low for weeks on end.
I desperately want to open to my boyfriend about it, and have briefly tried but he just doesnt understand. His words to me were 'You have everything, what on earth have you got to be unhappy about?' And he is right, that is why I have never been able to talk to anyone about this because it seems such a pathetic thing to tell people about because I dont have a reason for being this unhappy. My boyfriend needs answers for my unhappiness and I just cant give him any answers. That fustrates him and I end up pushing him further away.
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gen07717 molly79614
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Try reading up on the subject too. I found Depressive Illness, The Curse of The Strong by Tim Cantopher very helpful.
Lastly, talk to trusted friends and family, the more support you can get the better. So many people suffer with this awful illness, you'll be surprised how many other people that you know have also or know someone who has suffered x
molly79614 gen07717
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I know I need to see a Doctor about this as it is all getting too much to deal with on my own.
Thank you for your reply, it is nice to know that I am not the only one that is going through this.
gen07717 molly79614
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UK-Ven-medicate molly79614
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You have a lot of positive to focus on from what you have put, just these blips that need controlling sooner rather than later
julie1111 molly79614
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carole28488 molly79614
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I will go for months, or even years, with no depression at all, and feeling "normal", and all of a sudden...there it is again, and it is like an elevator...I can feel my mood going down, down, down....That is why I joined this group for support. I am retired, have a very nice home, grown children and grand children. I have a sister, who has a different kind of depression. Hers will go for years without popping it's ugly head, and then...poof...she's back in it...My doctor has me on four meds, which help, but she has come out and told me that it will probably never go away, just kept under control...God bless you, and I hope you find the right meds...I hope this helps....
rshillyshally molly79614
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annie76135 molly79614
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My hubby works hard so I do not need to work which is a relief at the moment. I look after the home but this is becoming increasingly more difficult. The depression makes me feel very tired and I have headaches so doing chores around the home is a real chore. Just want to get back to feeling better. Do you work? Take care x
UK-Ven-medicate molly79614
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Your boyfriend probably is worried its him causing the unhappiness ( at a pure guess ) and is frustrated cause he can't find out whether it is or not.
Could you unhappiness be your missing something you wanted in life ? Could it be an underlying illness making you feel fatigued ? I am just try to think what it could be so that you can at least sort things.
Maybe look at the "signs of depression" together on a website so that he can understand its not as simple as knowing. Also involving him may give him some reassurance you want his help to understand why and steer him away from worry.
xxx
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sasha_49884 molly79614
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No idea if this is still OK to talk on but if it is how did you cope? My fiance of 9 years is going through what you went through and pushing me away saying he doesn't know what he wants including me and that he is unhappy but t doesn't know why. X