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Depression or Unhappiness?

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carmel83758
carmel83758

Sadly some get real depression and it is awful, taking over your life and often having severe physical symptoms but there are just as many who claim they are depressed when it is really being unhappy, lonely or whatever.

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  • amelia77466
    amelia77466 carmel83758

    Posted

    I do agree with you Carmel as my other thread suggests that I am sceptical about depression and how loosely people apply the diagnosis to themselves.  However, I don't think I have truely experienced it therefore cannot really pass judgement on this who suffer from it.  I have attended the depression recovery course with 30 other people.  And there are some attendees who are quite vocal about their condition. Ie, they hate their job, struggle to get out of bed for work, get home tired unable to do anything else, etc.  I already feel that I am being judgemental but I cannot easily tell a room full of strangers what I am going through.  I cannot tell family, friends or anyone around me.
    • carmel83758
      carmel83758 amelia77466

      Posted

      At least you went there and tried it Amelia, good for you.

      Sometimes, though, like we have said, people are too quick to say they are depressed. For example the ones who hate their job. Why did they not study hard so that they could be more picky about which job to take in the first place? I have come across a lot of people like that.

      They are often too lazy to study so that they can get a good job and then moan about how boring and badly paid their job is when it was their choice. And being bored at work and being on a low income is not depression it is unhappiness.

      It is a great shame you cannot tell people around you but I remember when I was bad with it I could not tell anyone, those who I could talk to would be impatient and say to pull yourself together etc. Then you feel worse.

  • julie1111
    julie1111 carmel83758

    Posted

    hi a very good point and a good discusion! a question i ask my self alot .. i think alot are unhappy and lonely so mix this up with deep depression, i hope u get lots of comments on this thread.. very intresting x
    • carmel83758
      carmel83758 julie1111

      Posted

      Lol. Don't want hundreds of replies though, can get too much of a good thing. Being lonely is horrible, I know what that is like, but it is not depression, it is sadness caused by loneliness. Same as when someone hates their job or their partner. I was once very unhappily married and felt awful with it but knew it was not depression and knew the answer was my my own hands, I either had to get a divorce or make the most of it, so I got a divorce.
    • julie1111
      julie1111 carmel83758

      Posted

      hi carmel. did u feel better after the devorce the thing you needed to do! im out of work and the loneliness gets to me alot lately im starting to think its my life thats causing me to be unhappy not depression x
    • carmel83758
      carmel83758 julie1111

      Posted

      Hi Julie, Yes I felt a lot better after the divorce, it was not easy as had no money, no family or friends to support me, nowhere to go, but I sorted it out because it was important to do that. My life is very different now, that was about thirty years ago. I work from home and am either working online writing to clients or on the phone with them or in a staff meeting or something and it helps to pass the day and means I
    • carmel83758
      carmel83758 julie1111

      Posted

      part two! am helping people and earning a living etc but it is very lonely cause none of them are people I have any connection or a relationship with, they are either speaking to me because I am helping them or paying their wages.

      I am always busy with lots of things to do but how nice it would be to have someone care who makes me a cup of tea or sends me a birthday card or invites me to dinner or rings me for a chat. That would make me much happier.

      While I am stuck at home not well it would make a huge difference.

    • julie1111
      julie1111 carmel83758

      Posted

      uve done really well, i have had a terrible time i live alone in a area im trying to get use to! been here a over a year but dont know anyone here, lost my job 9 months ago through something that happen to me and the support at work was no good! i was a cook worked hard to acheive this and did well then another cook came in and was lazy due to her weight i could see through her. made me ill as i was doing her job also! i get very down as im lonely i have booked my self in for some groups to get me out but have to wait as its a waiting list..i often ask my self am i unhappy which my life is or am i depressed..x
    • julie1111
      julie1111 carmel83758

      Posted

      what do u do rea work! sounds intresting.. i know what u mean for someone to make us a brew would be lovely or a meal..be bliss
    • carmel83758
      carmel83758 julie1111

      Posted

      I studied and studied for years so that I could make sure I did something interesting workwise, being stuck in a boring job all day would not be for me and it can be avoided.

      But I was thinking more of how nice it would be when you feel down to have someone cook the supper or hold your hand or just talk to you, maybe tidy up the house when you feel too ill, go to hospital with you etc but when you feel ok it is nice too to have someone to go out with, someone to invite over for a laugh and a coffee etc. The television is rather limited as company.

    • julie1111
      julie1111 carmel83758

      Posted

      im in the same boat. not knowing were to turn to for work i dont want a job were im unhappy! any tips would be good. god yes be lovely to meet friends so i could go out with them or a coffee and a laugh, 
    • carmel83758
      carmel83758 julie1111

      Posted

      Sorry you feel this way Julie, I know how it is. Workwise look at your qualifications and skills and what you can make of them.Think a lot of people do jobs they hate because theywould rather do that than study and learn and become qualified and skilled. Maybe getting more qualifications and learning new things would help as you would then be able to earn more and have more choice of jobs. Some people work online but that doesnt pay much, but maybe better than nothing and keeps you busy.
    • julie1111
      julie1111 carmel83758

      Posted

      hi carmel . id love to work online i do work better on my own...last place i worked i was a cook in a large nursing home the staff were clicky and bitchy i couldnt fit in as im not like that. i was also a care worker before a cook for 13years they way care workers are treated is terrible! and low wages! love to work from home on line wouldnt know were to start! i agree with what u say people stay in unhappy jobs now adays which effects there health
    • carmel83758
      carmel83758 julie1111

      Posted

      Well if someone stays in a bad relationship or job it is their choice, at least they had the option to change things.

      Why not try the work from home sites.

    • julie1111
      julie1111 carmel83758

      Posted

      how would i start to work on home sites, your right its there choice i seen so many unhappy people in my last job
    • carmel83758
      carmel83758 julie1111

      Posted

      Don't see how it is possible. You would have to set up a home catering business which could cost a great deal to set up and then advertise, plus an expensive website etc you would also need a special large kitchen with lots of equipment, and health certificates and proof you can cook very well. Don't think it is easy to make money out of what you enjoy, more likely to be out of what you can do than what gives you pleasure, and if you cant pay to set up a business etc then you hve to work for someone else and earn a lot less. The thing is that lots of people do not have qualifications and "skills" so they have to make do with boring badly paid work.
    • julie1111
      julie1111 carmel83758

      Posted

      seems that is what i will have to do im a qualified care worker and worked as a cook for 2 years! maybe i should go into something else so hard
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