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Upset567
Upset567

Me and my fiance were fighting in September 2016 I asked him to go, he went to this girls house that he's known for a long time, they were drinking and he says he slept on the couch. This girl has HSV2. We got back together I believe he did not do anything with her but I decided to get checked anyway. I have 0 symptoms so they did blood work. Test came back positive I am devastated it has been 3 days and I feel like I wanna die, like nobody will want me and my life is over. Idk much about this virus, can you spread it by coughing, sneezing, toilet seats, wash clothes? I am scared to death I will pass it to my kids. I have always had clear discharge and talked to obgyn about it before I knew I was positive for herpes and he said it is normal bc I must have been ovulating. Please give me some answers on how it can be spread and if u can get it without having sexual contact.

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  • Takenc
    Takenc Upset567

    Posted

    You really haven't had any symptoms?

    • Upset567
      Upset567 Takenc

      Posted

      I have had nothing. I think I may have had a little itch like a yeast infection itch but that's it nothing else. I have cried for three days straight. I didn't deserve this I never once cheated or anything

  • Skull2345
    Skull2345 Upset567

    Posted

    I got diagnosed on Monday with HSV2 I had some spots over Christmas which triggered me to get checked but I have not slept with anyone since May last year and didn't have any of the flu symptoms others have had. Since I got told I had a cry on the phone when I got my results and asked what I need to do to make sure my daughter is safe. The nurse advised just to use separate towels which we always have any way. I'm gutted I've been told this news and I've been single for nearly 4 years now so finding someone before this news was hard enough now I have this extra barrier. But I've had a positive week and put things in perspective that people are diagnosed with far worse life threatening things and it's give me a boost to change my lifestyle and start making changes to makes sure I fight off any outbreaks. The forums on here have helped me a lot and hope what I have said may help you. Remember take care of your self your stronger then you think.

    • Upset567
      Upset567 Skull2345

      Posted

      Thank you, right now I just can't stop the whirlwind of emotions. I need to know if my kids should not share a drink with me? Or should they have different soap? I'm just lost and hurt. I also don't know if I should believe him, I mean is there any other way of getting it besides sex?

    • steven78649
      steven78649 Skull2345

      Posted

      Hi, what did your spots look like , were they like cold sites ?
    • steven78649
      steven78649

      Posted

      I meant sores. or were they blisters ?
  • kayla34219
    kayla34219 Upset567

    Posted

    So sorry to hear this.

    But dont worry. Everyone goes through these same thoughts and emotions when finding out you have this.

    I found out i am HSV-2 positive a month ago. And i freaked and i thought the same thing too.

    But dont worry this virus dosnt spread that easily.

    The virus can only live on the the surface for less than three seconds. So no you cannot give it to someone through toliet seats.

    This only means you have to be extra careful while having intercourse.

    There is medicine that you can take to reduce breakouts and viral shedding.

    You should really research this virus. And talk to ur doctor.

    Also if you are having a hard time handling this. You should google how to cope with having herpes. There are really great articles that helped me.

    Keep your head up. You will be okay!!!!!

    • Upset567
      Upset567 kayla34219

      Posted

      Thank you. Do u know if I sneeze or cough can my kids get it or if they drink after me? I tried to research it but they all say different things. My Dr won't give me anything she said til I had an outbreak. I'm afraid to tell my obgyn

    • Upset567
      Upset567

      Posted

      I mean I am afraid to tell my family dr
  • FelizCastus
    FelizCastus Upset567

    Posted

    Genital herpes is acquired through skin to skin contact. You cannot catch it via toilets or things like that. Although sharing a damp towel that has just been used on an infected person with active lesions or shedding could potentially spread it, the risk is small and many variables need to be in place for infection to happen, making it rather unlikely. The general consensus is that genital herpes spreads via skin to skin contact.
    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus

      Posted

      Which blood test did you have done and what exactly were your results? The IgM antibody test is unreliable and inaccurate for herpes, so should not be done. The IgG test is the one to do, but a low positive in someone with no symptoms ever could be potentially false. You may need to ask for your lab report to find out the details.
    • Upset567
      Upset567 FelizCastus

      Posted

      Thank u I have no clue what blood test they did bc all she said is u tested positive for hsv1 and HSV 2. I knew I would test positive for hsv1 bc she told me if I have had chickenpox it would come back positive. I don't know the exacts.

    • FelizCastus
      FelizCastus Upset567

      Posted

      Chickenpox has no impact on the results, as it is a different virus (albeit from the same general family), so that part is false. The only potential cross-reaction is between HSV1 and HSV2, and even then, only with certain test kits/brands, and only in some but not all cases. I would ask for a copy of your results.
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