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Diagnosed with genital herpes. Both myself and my bf have been terribly ill since. Help!!

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mel9471
mel9471

Have been with my bf for 14 mnths. Around 6 mnths ago both of us had an outbreak within 2 days of one another. It was diagnosed and confirmed as Genital herpes. In the past 6/8 weeks I have had around 6 outbreaks. Sometimes with very small sores..some with loads. However , each time, we have both felt so sick. Really horrible! We have both been vomitting etc. We are so upset and worried. I have an appointment with my gp tmrw night. Meantime, can anyone tell me is this normal?! X

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  • eugene70527
    eugene70527 mel9471

    Posted

    I had only one sore within two days after given a blow job. It started what looked like a rash with tiny read spots then developed into a ulcer and then formed a yellow scab. I think there was some clear draina. When water would go onto the scab it would literally fall off and expose pink newly formed skin. It took about 2 1/2 weeks to fully heal over, but still pink looking. I am not sure if this is related, but did feel very weird and malaise a few nights. My lower back hurt radiating into left posterior thigh and sharp pain in knee. Also experienced blister like feeling under both feet with extreme burning sensation. I use to walk and jog some on threadmill about 500 calories every other day, but cannot even walk due it aggrevated the pain x10. If I don't walk much the pain is tolerable and has not gone away since exposure. I wonder if the virus has different variants or strands? I've read virus mutate and I would not be surprised we got the updated more virulent sickening virus. It takes all the fun out of sex. 
  • eugene70527
    eugene70527 mel9471

    Posted

    Does this all mean one of you had herpes prior to relationship? From what I've read initial outbreak is the worse and then Diminishes over time. One of you could of had herpes without any signs or symptoms, but now you both have it, which means recent exposure.  Have anyone of you been having sex with someone else? 
    • mel9471
      mel9471 eugene70527

      Posted

      Hi Eugene. Thanks for replying. In the 14 mnths we have been together, we have both been totally faithful. This is what has us so confused. For us both to have an outbreak at exactly the same time n neither of us had done before? I understand we can be carrying the virus n not know..but for it to show in both at same time? Other than that first OB, my bf has had no other sores. I have had many and we are both just terribly ill. No appetite, diarrea, achy body n my bf now has weird chest ache. Everything Im reading says the first OB is the worst but this is continuing to be as severe.

      I am already off my work due to stress/depression..n now this. 

      I also keep fit n love my walking n gym etc. It must be horrible for u having that affected x

  • eugene70527
    eugene70527 mel9471

    Posted

    How or what type of testing was done to confirm it was herpes? Was any cultures done of sores? Did any testing done show antibodies against herpes virus? Could it be possible one of you had recent herpes exposure had sex and gave it to you or you gave it to him? When I was exposed it only took two days to show up. How can you be so sure your boyfriend didnot have sex with someone else? Were you with him all the time? Who broke out first? There are to many red flags coming up! It seems you don't want to consider any possibilies, possibly due to your depression. Stress and depression weakens your immune system and will make your signs and symptoms or outbreaks worse. I suffer from major depression and any little issue or problem is amplified 11 times. Stress will make you feel things like aches you never though possible like chest pain or general body ache. 
    • nelly123
      nelly123 eugene70527

      Posted

      Hi Eugene, 

      You obviously haven't done much research because quite a few ppl have herpes but don't know cos they never get no signs or symptoms. Do does not mean that this guy has cheated nor her.

    • mel9471
      mel9471 eugene70527

      Posted

      Hey Eugene. I am more than open to any possibilites to be honest.I suppose any person in a loving relationship never knows 100% if their partner has strayed. I am as sure as I can be that he hasnt been with anyone else.

      I have suffered over the yrs from thrush. I have now questioned if maybe it wasnt always thrush. However never had blisters or sores. So presuming that the breakout at xmas time was the first of herpes. My bf had one tiny spot on the end of his penis. He had thought it was just a spot. We had sex and within 2 days I was in agony..itching etc. Thinking it was thrush, I bought the usual thrush treatments. After another day ir two the symptons got worse.I went to the STI clinic were they said the blisters had already burst but they took a swab anyway. A week later I called them n was told it was Herpes. I was told it should never be as bad again. However..the symptoms have just got worse and in the past 6/8 wks we are now both ill. He has not had any sores apart from that one spot. We r both completely stumped. He had also never had any sores/spots previous. X

    • mel9471
      mel9471 nelly123

      Posted

      Hey Nelly. Thanks for ur reply.We r just both so confused and worried. We just look n feel so ill just now. Dark circles under our eyes..no appetite..etc etc.

      I suppose we r just looking for answers. Also if after such severe and recurrent episodes, we need to be on medication long term? I was handed an antiviral med n told to try n use it in the first few days of the outbreak. However..easier said than done when one episode is running into the next! X

    • eugene70527
      eugene70527 nelly123

      Posted

      If a person has no signs and symptoms after exposure they will most likely not have any 1-2 years later.  Now Mel9471 contracted herpes and had signs and symptoms 2 days later. Her BF had something on his penis prior to her having sex. Would that pimple or bump not be considered a sign? When did her BF contract herpes? Someone had to have it for Mel to have contract herpes. Wasn't her BF tested too? If he had antibodies then it's from past exposure and not recent! I know most people don't show signs and symptoms after exposure and that's why it's transmitted a lot. In my opinion if a person knew they had herpes they would most like take necessary precautions. A person who has no signs or symptoms can transmit herpes just the same via viral shedding and skin to skin contact. Now if you say no one had herpes prior and it just fell from the the sky , then you are delusional !
    • mel9471
      mel9471 eugene70527

      Posted

      Hey Eugene. I guess no one is saying it fell from the sky..or that nethier my bf or I had it prior to this relationship. What I am saying here is my bf has never had any symptoms, inc sores or spots before..and that it is poss that what I have thought was thrush over the yrs, was infact possibly herpes. 

      Believe me when I say I have loads of unanswered questions. What stunned me was how all of a sudden it started with us both almost exactly to the day.

    • nelly123
      nelly123 eugene70527

      Posted

      What mel is saying Eugene is that they don't know who had it previously, my flat mate had a random outbreak yet she hadn't been with a guy for a year and a half so yes signs and symptoms can stay hidden, remember it effects everyone differently. As you said you can transfer it to someone else just by viral shedding so again one wouldn't know they had it without the physical appearance of a sore. I know when I have a sore I get feverish but that's it, have u been back to the doctor mel, maybe he could shed some light on this severity and out u on a course of meds
    • mel9471
      mel9471 nelly123

      Posted

      Thanks Nelly. Have a docs appointment tmrw night but reckon Im gonna go first thing to the STI drop in clinic. I feel they are gonna be able to help more.U know what..I suppose as much as it would be good to know who gave who it. However..bottom line us we bith now have it. Its now a case of us trying to manage it. We r just so amazed at how we r both suffering with the same severity!
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