Did he cheat he tested Positive for HSV1
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last week my fiance got really sick high temp threw up the whole package. A day later he told be his Penis was wicked itchy ans it had like little bumps on it. 2 days later the foreskin was extremely swollen and felt like a hard ball (he's circumcised) and the head was extremely swollen to the point where the nurses could find the hole where he pees . it only opened when he went pee then closed back up. i over heard his phone call today from the nurse that he tested positive for HSV1 . I read it is the cold sore type of herpes and is transmitted orally to the genitals. Please tell there there was some other way besides getting oral sex from another woman. i need to know how this happened. I also read the incubation period is 2 - 20 days. So what are my options here? Any and All medical advice would be greatly appreciated! please just be honest
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susan17426 mel978
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a Coldsore would have had to be present on the mouth for it to be transferred if you know youve never had one before then there may be a sign of infidelity i would talk with him because from here on he could spread it even if he has to symptoms or sores present and give it to you which would be HSV 2 from genital contact. i would tell him to start antivirals
mel978 susan17426
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ive never had a cold sore in my life to be honest and weve havent been active in that way for 6 months because the medication he is on makes him have low testosterone. I read hsv1 and hsv2 have a 2-20 day dormant period before the first breakout and thats exactly the time frame he went out to watch the football game with a friend. im devastated embarrassed angry and broken hearted. he wont talk to me about any possibilities. What a slap in face .
susan17426 mel978
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I feel your frustration all he has to do is be honest with you and men have a hard time doing that. i would tell him that this is serious and he needs to talk with you cause all hes showing now is that hes 100% guilty. DO NOT SETTLE FOR HIS LIES, if he refuses to talk, leave.
Coral1234 mel978
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hi,
firstly hsv1 doesn't turn into HSV2 when it's on the genitals. you can have hsv1 genitally, or orally. they are the same virus essentially. although hsv1 outbreaks are less frequent
secondly it doesn't mean he has been unfaithful. some people have it lay dormant for years and something can bring it out - stress, illness etc. he could have got it from an ex. you could have hsv1 genitally and have had an outbreak so minor you didn't notice therefore he caught it and had a bad outbreak... the reasons it could have happened are endless.
to be honest and I don't know your husband but... surely if he had cheated he would have got himself checked out secretly,.as if I was him and I had cheated and my penis started swelling up the way it did.... I'd wanna get that checked out in secret and then deal with the disclosure after... what I'm saying is is he really that stupid?! I doubt it. I suspect its an existing issue thats just surfaced. I recently read an article (can't find it now annoyingly) about a woman, a widow who hadn't had sex in 10+ years and out of no where got a genital herpes diagnosis. it can happen! I wouldn't stress, I'd speak to him but be understanding as it really doesn't mean he has cheated. and if he has... Well that's a different story.
check out the herpes virus association- you can email them. they are amazing. and they really help you understand the virus.
mel978 Coral1234
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thank you for all your information! i dont have it i was tested and when he first gor swollen like that he thought it was from the chafing he had 2 weeks before. i read hsv1 can be transmitted from someone with a cold sore or orally so im wondering if maybe he met someone at the bar the last time he went out. the articles said there is a 2-20 day dormant window for hsv1 and 2 . so that time fram literally to the date is the night he went out with his friends. we havent had intercourse in over 6 months he has a low sex drive because of the medication he is on and idk we just have drifted apart. if he did i just need him to ve honest with me and he wont talk to me about it he just gets mad and yells even if i dont ask about another woman if i just ask what does he think happened? i feel so stupid and devastated. i need to know where this came from ... how come in the past 7 years hes never had an out break before? everything i read says hsv1 is transmitted orally by kissing or toothbrush all that stuff. i cant sleep. my heart is broken.
susan17426 mel978
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Also. HSV 1 is the MAIN form of Herpes, it all start off but someone giving someone oral with an open sore giving them HSV 1 Genitally and that person infecting someone which cause HSV 2. I saw someone comment something was total incorrect, and thought id clear it up. Good luck hun!
Emilyaa mel978
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You also need to remember that it can lay dormant for years. Many people contract herpes but then never have any symptoms/outbreaks. He may not have cheated, potentially caught have caught it years before he met you but only just had an outbreak now due to stress etc