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Did I do something wrong? OCD

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chey51702
chey51702

I struggle with OCD and obsessive thoughts, constantly trying to think of things I may have done wrong that I feel immense guilt over until I confess to my husband. I am currently trying to "confess" to other outlets get over what I am thinking so I do not have to tell my husband everything little thing I have done/thought. Although he says he doesn't want to know and forgives me, I always have the thought "but he is only forgiving me because he does not know what I did".

If you have seen my posts before it is always kind of the same thing and I am sorry. Before my husband and I started dating (2.5 years ago), I remembered a man that I had history with text me and ask if I had a boyfriend. To which I responded "not yet". I cannot remember if this was before my husband and I started dating but we were getting to know each other, or if it was before I met my husband completely.

I also remember this man texting me after my husband and I started dating but I never responded to him.

I am feeling guilt for possibly responding to this man when my husband and I were just getting to know each other (not dating), even though this could have happened before I met my husband at all.

Any advice on how to deal with this thought? Thank you.

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  • chey51702
    chey51702

    Posted

    I also wanted to add that when I responded "not yet" I think I was trying to hint to him that I was dating around and not interested. I did not plan on pursuing anything with this guy.

  • jan34534
    jan34534 chey51702

    Posted

    I think you just answered your own question. You said you did not plan on pursuing anything with the guy. And all this happened before you got serious with your husband.

    there’s absolutely nothing to feel guilty about! You did nothing wrong. You were not married or seriously dating your husband.

    if you think that this is going to make you miserable forever, then just come out and tell him. Get it over with so you can have some peace. He’s probably just going to say it’s no big deal and it’s in the past. it would be different if you had an affair but this is just a very insignificant thing that happened. Take care

    • chey51702
      chey51702 jan34534

      Posted

      Thank you so much for all your replies. You have always been great at helping me feel better.

  • jan34534
    jan34534 chey51702

    Posted

    I think you just answered your own question. You said you did not plan on pursuing anything with the guy. And all this happened before you got serious with your husband.

    there’s absolutely nothing to feel guilty about! You did nothing wrong. You were not married or seriously dating your husband.

    if you think that this is going to make you miserable forever, then just come out and tell him. Get it over with so you can have some peace. He’s probably just going to say it’s no big deal and it’s in the past. it would be different if you had an affair but this is just a very insignificant thing that happened. Take care

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