Difficulty differentiating if my feelings are wrong or if it’s just my OCD guilt. Please help.
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Hi!
So I struggle with OCD (mainly guilt, obsessive thoughts, etc). My mind races from thing to thing and I am constantly convincing myself I have done something wrong and that I have somehow indirectly cheated on my husband.
Anyway, today's obsession is I have had the thought of being disappointed when I see an attractive man being married or with a girl. Even though I have no intention, chance, or desire to cheat on my husband. Another example, is if I look up a celebrity and I find that they are not single I feel disappointed. I do not know what causes me to feel this way and I feel extremely guilty. My boss was talking about how her son is in medical school and she really wants him to find a girlfriend. I love and adore my husband. He is so understanding with all of this. Do I just have a main character complex and want everyone to be in love with me? What makes it worse is that I texted my friend about this for reassurance and she says that although she does the same thing, she doesn't feel the disappointment. Is this just a normal girl thing or is this something I need to talk to my husband about? My compulsion is talking to him so Idk what to do.
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cheyenne49274
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I'd also like to add that my husband just said most marriages have problems when you start to talk about what you think and that it doesn't matter but I can't help but make myself think it matters
sasical72 cheyenne49274
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My daughter has OCD and has these kind of thoughts, her therapist gave her tips. Do you have a therapist who can help?
On a different note, I'm an adult woman with no OCD and I have a crush on a singer and I'm not upset because he has a boyfriend, but I do have thoughts along the line of I will never be able to be with him and I know it's childish to get upset but I do. These kind of thoughts are quite normal and really NOT something I feel I need to share with my husband. We all hav e thoughts and fantasies. It's 100% normal.
cheyenne49274 sasical72
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Thank you so much for your reply. I did have a therapist but we recently just moved to a new state. I was doing really well but I am a teacher and I am currently on Thanksgiving break. Time off really messes with me. I feel like I have taken so many steps backwards with the time off and just want to get back to work. I am currently looking for a new medicine provider and might consider finding another therapist. Thank you so much for your help.