Digging my Hole Deeper
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Hi all,
hope you are all managing it well today. I've been quite positive lately but i've put my foot in it at work and feeling really anxious today.
I'm a PA and as some of you wil know, it involves taking minutes and sending them out after meetings, arranging further meetings and agendas. Well I have a meeting in my diary tomorrow. that I arranged. quite a few people attending and it is a follow up to a meeting about 6 weeks ago. After the last meeting I typed the minutes but that was as far as it got. There was a bit of confusion over who was going to be heading the meetings in future so I didn't know who to send them to for checking. Since then nothing much has happened with them and they haven't been sent to anyone. I haven't done anything like this since before I went off on sick leave about a year ago. I feel so anxious about it as I'm going to have to come clean to my boss who I'm afraid will go off on one at me. Its always been in the back of my mind to do something about the minutes but for some reason I never got around to it and now i've put myself in this horrible situation. Doing things like this was why I suffered from anxiety and depression last year and it feels horrible. Can anyone give me any advice?
my main problem is acting on things. I always delay everything. I say to people 'i forgot' but I very rarely do. I know what needs doing but can never bring myself to do them. Why do I do this to myself?
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pat53692
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I used to be fine at work. Getting everything done on time exactly how they want. Last year I had a bit of bullying from somone I was a PA to and I started to question everything I was doing for them. Nothing was good enough until I found that I needed to be told exactly what they wanted to the letter before I would even attempt it. After that I couldn't take it any more becasue I was being criticised for taking my time and just broke down in work after being moaned at about something little. I was off for 3 months. Since I've been back at work this is the first time I've done this and I haven't felt that anxious in about a year.
I know there are people with worse issues than what I go through at work, even I think my issues are trivial and I apologise if I've annoyed anyone for causing my own grief and posting about it, but the thing about depression is it can make something seem huge when it isn't and I guess I felt I needed help. I've calmed down a bit now. It is on its way to being sorted and I just want to be home and relax. I actually have an interview tomorrow for another job so I might not be in this one for much longer anyway.
Thanks
teresa4
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I think your GP hit the nail on the head with that, teresa. a good way of putting it. I think you'll heal in time. It's just a bad relationship that you've got out of.
My problem with work has just got me into more trouble to be honest. I'm on something like a report which has targets I need to meet. If I dont then I go to the next stage. I'm on stage 3 out of 4. If I dont pass stage 4 then I'm out.
I've tried with this job for so long I think i've lost the will to even try to perform at my best. I've always said if I'm happy I feel like I can do anything, problem is i'm not completely happy in the job and feel like I cant give everything.
Confidence is a major thing for me. If I have it then I'm great, I just find it too easy to lose confidence, especially after last year. I've always been the same though. My dad wasn't exactly supportive of anything when I was a kid, still isn't in fact. He wasn't just strict with me, he made me feel useless and made me repeat it back to him when ever he told me I was. Since then I think whenever I come across someone remotely strict with me I find it impossible to do everything they ask of me. If I do anything wrong then I believe its my fault straight away and lose confidence. I'm nowhere near as bad as I used to be. The thought of talking to somone I didn't know used to make me break out in a sweat and panic. I can generally manage my life quite well now, but every now and then I come across somone who makes me feel like he did. Not very good when it's my boss.
Belive it or not, I'm not actually a moody as this reply sounds. I just read it back to myself. Hope you're doing well Teresa. I'll let you know how everything goes.
teresa4
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I think its disgusting how you were treated by your dad,I wonder what his own upbringing was like,not that that is an excuse.
At least you have us to talk to and I dont think your first post was defensive.
Let me know how things go.
pat53692
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