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I am completely alone. I have shut out all of my friends and family, I just don't know how to socialize anymore. I don't know how to pretend to be happy. I'm wasting away and it's disgusting.  It's disgusting that I have genital herpes, my attitude about having it is disgusting, I'm just disgusting.  This diagnosis is eating me alive and I'm afaid. I'm afraid I'll never be happy again . 

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  • Lellie
    Lellie Guest

    Posted

    Please don't feel like this, I don't have any fantastic pearls of wisdom other than to say there really is no need, GH isn't disgusting, it's annoying and unpleasant but it certainly doesn't make you disgusting, it's not worth loosing your family and friends over and it certainly isn't worth the effort that it takes to make yourself feel the way you are.....

    Use these pages to build your confidence back up, your far from alone here but you really are torturung yourself for no reason!

    Take care!x

    • Guest
      Guest Lellie

      Posted

      I didn't have confidence to begin with. Now I am barely a person. I've lost myself
    • Lellie
      Lellie Guest

      Posted

      I think you've just hit bottom and you just need to start fighting back....

      I am guessing you had some preconceived ideas about 'what type' of person got GH.....I did too, my diagnosis made me realise that was rubbish, everyone and anyone can get it, that's the first thing you need to remember!  That and you do not need to tell anyone if you don't want too(except future partners) it's your health and your business, no one else's! 

      Take this opportunity to start looking into how to build up your immune system and health, that'll give you something to concentrate on till you feel stronger!x

  • Guest
    Guest Guest

    Posted

    It is a big shock to your life and everything else but its not worth giving up everything and everyone you love. My family doesnt even know I have GH and they dont need to, it doesnt affect them at all. If you can figure out what triggers outbreaks its not super hard to keep them to a minimum, use meds if you have to.

    You arent disgusting at all. about 1 in 6 people has Herpes, thats almost as many people as have diabetes. Everyone you see or know that has cold sores- thats a form of herpes yet no one says anything bad about that, its just a part of life. GH is now just a part of your life, you can still have sex, still have kids, still work, still do everything you did before. 

    Its not disgusting that you have herpes, its just another virus that attacks nerves. It only feels disgusting because of where its located. Imagine having a sore on your arm, thats not gross simply because its a body part we are used to talking about. As a culture we dont talk about genitals and therefore sicknesses associated with it must be bad.

    You arent alone believe me, read the forums, private message some people (I would be happy to talk to you if you would like) do a bit of research and see how it will affect you personally in your life. 

    • Guest
      Guest Guest

      Posted

      I understand my family and friends do not need to know but I can't spend any time with them if I'm crying most of the time. I just can'tbe happy. II've done plenty of research and I've taken people's advice from on here but nothing helps. I went all last week eating healthy and the only thing I felt on Friday was hungry. I know I can still lead a normal life but it's going to be ten times harder finding someone who will accept me. Yes if they love me they'll accept it, but how do I let someone that close. I'm embarrassed that I let this happen. And it IS disgusting.  I went on vacation and slept with four different people. That is disgusting.  

    • Guest
      Guest Guest

      Posted

      You're right, it's not worth giving up my life, but how do you not let it? How do you not let it completely take over. I mean I already have to eat different
    • Guest
      Guest Guest

      Posted

      Differently. I know it's not the end of the world i know this. I can live a completely normal life but idk how to. I'm so tired of everything already and it's ok nly been a flipping week. I know I don't have to tell my family and friends. I don't plan on it. I just dk how I'm going to get over the embarrassment of telling someone I'm interested in that i have herpes. And i AM disgusting. I totally deserve tbis. I went on vacation and slept w I think four different guys. Yea. That's pretty gross
    • Lellie
      Lellie Guest

      Posted

      Hey, that's not that bad, don't beat yourself up, we all behave in ways we shouldn't sometimes, I got GH in a situation I should never have been in and I'm defo not proud of myself but torturing myself about it will only make things worse, stress me out and in turn make my symptoms worse...

      Just decide now how you want to live and behave and do it, your diet and stuff might change but only for the better.....embrace it and make yourself healthy!

      If your in the middle of your first outbreak you'll feel 10x worse, when it clears up and you feel healthier it'll all seem better and easier to cope with!

    • Guest
      Guest Lellie

      Posted

      I agree, I will be a healthier person in the long run because I HAVE to change my diet but again, I HAVE to change diet and that sucks. Maybe I like eating like a cow. I love boiled peanuts(yes, I'm from the south) and I have read somewhere that I shouldn't eat them because it could cause a breakout. Too much argenine... or something idk. But yea idk it still justsucks. Like my life Iin general really really sucks and that's unfortunate.  It was going so well

    • Lellie
      Lellie Guest

      Posted

      You don't have to change your diet if you don't want to.....carry on as normal and see how you go, you could be lucky and not have too many outbreaks or be like me and use the medication quite happily, some people on here have had to change their diet because they get so many outbreaks or to reduce the severity or because they don't want to take the drugs....you do what's right for you, if you want to eat peanuts then eat them and just monitor how they effect you, everyone is different, don't presume the worst case scenario just yet....
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