Divorce and Seperation - Depression

Hello 

mine got worse after the event, i was a basket case, but after treatment and time, i was in a much netter place than before the relationship even ended! In the long term, the breakup was nexessary, but it was really difficult. I was blubbing in the GP surgery, telling anyone i met etc

not sure if this helps, but the poor relationship was probably much worse in the long term for my mental health than the depression i suffered at the end of it.

I do think Depression can get really bad after a stressful relationship as i have seen this but i have also seen getting with the right partner can relieve depression and even cure it as long as the relationship stays good ,Bit of a tricky one

At the moment I am feeling worse more emotional.. But told it just takes times. 4 weeks later still the same. Sorry doesn't answer your question directly x

Yes Jimmy it is very strange but atleast if we accept it wasnt right for us and move on then we have good hope its better than trying to hang on to something that isnt there as relationships need to be love 50/50 to work as an inbalance one not loving the other or not conneting will tip the happy scales

Yes Baby steps again no need to rush as its your future happines a check list is always good and if they dont meet it best to move on afterall if you want to make good food you always use the finest ingredients ,same with relationships its hard to change people and you wouldnt want someone to change you if i would have adopted this years ago i would have saved myself a lot of pain but hey its never too late

eVENING jIMMY, been there for a few months. My partner of 22 years walked out last year. Then I had an occupation order served on me so I had to vacate the house, and also a non-mol order which means I cannot contact my ex (Christine), or even visit my old home. ( I am now homeless)....with the stress of a break-up, losing my home etc. I tried to overdose ( didnt work!!!), and now am bouncing in and out of depressive episodes.......the main worry is a lack of a coherent future and being on my own after all that time. I have contact with the mental health team, who are pretty good, and have tried antidepressant medication, but it made me worse. I need to shake off this depressive mood and focus.

Hope that made sense, m8, cheers, Howard in the midlands.

I'm trying to chose my words very carefully as I do not wish or intend to offend anyone or would ever wish to do so. 

I have been on both sides of the fence I've had 2 breakdowns with anxiety and agoraphobia and been on anti d's for over 24 years my family were my motivation to get better. 

My husband is having some sort of breakdown as a result of workplace bullying he is on a path of self destruct, job gone, moved out, relationship with me was good before D hit and now self medicating with acohol and with an alcoholic woman. 

Sadly I have had no choice but to file for Divorce due to the drinking not the OW. 

I have told our kids Dad is very ill and I have encouraged contact with Dad, they know Dad is ill and have both reached out to him, however, he has cut our kids off, not even as much as a text to wish them happy christmas, new year, birthdays or to ask if any of us were okay after hospital admissions.

I guess for some people if the relationship is the cause of the D then I would agree people are better off apart and I can imagine that not seeing the children would be heartbreaking but with regard to my own situation we are in a very difficult position in that my husband is now totally unpredictable.   I can therefore undertand why any Mum or Dad would want to protect their kids from their partner if they weren't seeking treatment.

Jimmy I'm in your area if you want to chat?

I forgot to say although I have been unable to help my husband I have volunteered to help someone with severe D, she has been having an extra martial affair for some time.  I get daily texts from her that state one minute she loves her husband then the next she can't decide if she wants to be with him or the other guy?  Sadly all too often the existing relationship is blamed for the D and the person with D plays the push me pull me routine. 

What is very scary is she knows she is being taken advantage of by the other guy, says she sees her life playing out on a TV screen but cannot stop what she is doing.  She is under a team of medical professionals, having therapy and meds and is still no better as any suggestions made to her are dismissed as not working or not going to work.