Do any of you have tendencies to "overdue" certain things in your life?

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What I'm talking about are tendencies like shopping too much (this is my fault), spending too much time online, anything that is done over and above what is expected?

I'm hoping I worded this right because that determines whether or not the discussion is a success or not.

I believe I'm an over achiever in many aspects of my  life.  When I was younger, I would take care of the house inside and out.  I'd take care of the girls; work fulltime; exercise at 5:00 - 7:00 am (walk for an hour of tht time); come home from work, make dinner and get homework done; go to my swim exercise class and from there yoga then home to bed.  In between those things, I'd take my one daughter to her cello lessons and my other to her golf lessons.  Then after the girls were a bit older, to the ones orchestra practice and the other to her golf outing.  To this day, I don't know how I did it. There is a lot I left out merely because this would seemingly be a "brag fest".  

After the auto accident I was in, 2005 and 2013, my  life changed dramatically.  Everything stopped, everything.  No  more working, disabled.  I cannot walk but not like I used to.  I can barely  walk from the parking lot to the doctors office inside the building.  So, I've turned to "shopping".  I do over due this and I know I do but it's like the only thing I do have control over.  I can't do much of anything.  Cannot drive, no exercising; both girls are grown and married so no going to any "concerts" my daughter was in and no more golf outings.  

My  point is, if you are going through anything remotely similar, please share with me how you've overcome it or what it is that you do in access.

I would greatly appreciate your input!

Frustrated  

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    Also, I came down with sarcoidosis of many areas of my body and also sjogrens disease.  Both have compromised my immune system and I've become weak and tired most days.  Sjorgens has left my eyes a mess.  I can barely open them most mornings because they are swollen shut.  Anyway, this isn't a "poor me" post, it's just sharing how my life has changed. 

    Hope you all understand and know this is a good time for you to open up and share what's happening in a negative way in your life.  The great part of being on this site is that we are all anonymous and we "should" all be non-judgemental!! (that is key to asking someone to open their heart and share)

    anyway, please share with me bc it will help me find ways to rewind my brain and find ways to stop my habit.  it's not that bad but it's bad enough that ron is stressed a bit about it because it's so out of character of me to do this.

    anyway, thanks,

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    anyway, please share with me bc it will help me find ways to rewind my brain and find ways to stop my habit.  it's not that bad but it's bad enough that ron is stressed a bit about it because it's so out of character of me to do this.

    anyway, thanks,

    frustrated>

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    i spend so many weeks asleep and feeling tired that when i get a up week or two i run round like a looney doing loads of stuff .filling my boots so to speak .

    then bang back down again .crash .

    i dont think theres anything you can do if its your nature to do as soon as you get agood spell you go mental .razz

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      Tis ~

      haha, just one more example why you're important.  Laughing is one way to deflect attention away from present problems!  Thanks for that.  

      I hear you about getting the energy then bam! down again, I do that more often than not.  I like your spirit smile

      Frustrated

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      i am glad someone does . life is so tough but if you keep trying you never know what you might find out .that could change your life. 

      iv been looking in to ldn again today and iv found a couple of side effects dizzinness vivid dreams nausea and the inability to sleep  , 

      i think its proberly because it was desighned for people to come of opiates .  the small trials conducted using it on fibro patcients noted up to 30% inprovement in there over all condition with only very minor side effects that nobody found toublesome  so i am hoping to discus this with my gp on monday . but i wouldnt have even none about ldn if it wasnt for this forum .

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      sorry hun i meant ldn its a drug used in helping people of drink and opiates that has shown promise in helping people with ME and Fibro and MS with much less side effects than the drugs they now use .its over 30yrs old .

      proven safe in pregnancy , forums iv read where they have done small studies of it on fibro sufferes have shown good results .

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      I've been looking into it and basically what it does is that it works as an opiod antagonist, in other words blocking it, and the endorphins, causing the body to create more endorphins for itself.

      The inventor of it claims that it tricks the body into making more; reminds me of the hypothesis of homeopathy, which I've found works. Well Aurum muriaticum, or gold helps me to feel more cheerful.

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    Yes. I study for a degree and that's part of my plan so I can't count that, although I am obssessive about it. I play games online and that's a definite obsession and I watch programmes.

    It's basically things to take my mind off how ill and in pain I feel, but I think I was always an obsessive person before ME.

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      obsessive i most defently have been all my life ,everything in its place a place for everything even things on my dressing table as a teen had to be lined up and leval . same with my clothes all hangers have to face the same way in my wardrope can t share with anyone cant stand it all skirts together etc  . same with sleeve lenghts . 

      house work was done every day everything skirtings doors and frames nets washed every week everything had to be done daily it was all about control  i had to have order in my life . it was scary with out it , i am still the same which makes my illness worse because i dont have the energy to cope by doing it all any more 

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      Lined up and level yes! I have to get some kind of order in the chaos. Even playing games I have to do them in a certain order. I'm obsessive about things that don't matter to the point of obsession! lol
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      me to hun. all items  have to face  the same way in my cupboards 

      and those horrid sticky labels that used to priced gunned on everything had to be all removed took me ages to get them of my shopping .back in the 80s and 90s thank god most places dont use them anymore .

      even the soap on the magnectic holder has to point the right  way .it makes me so tired ,esp when you live with others who dont get it.

       

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      I've been playing online games as well but with my eyesight so poor from sjogrens, I cannot stay on very long,  so, that helps from becoming an obsession.

      I do also believe I've been and obsessive for a long time, if not forever.  I can see a pattern towards this from very early  on and when I try  to correct the problem, I find something else to obsess over.  Geesh, this is exhausting!  I've got to find a way to "train" the brain to say NO when it comes to shopping.  

      *sigh*

      Thank you ALL for your input!

      I feel better but sorry  that you're going through this too.

      Warm regards and stay well,

      Frustrated

    • Posted

      I did a topic a while ago about OCD and ME and quite a lot of people replied saying they have both, interesting eh!
    • Posted

      I'm always having to ask what abbriviations mean! Lol It's another name for Chronic Fatigue Syndrome.
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      I do the same thing.  I guess many  assume everyone knows what medical terms are abbreviated!  

      smile thankie,

      Frustrated

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      Yes, the trouble is this is how you spell ME - myalgic encephalomyelitis! I can never remember it and I just had to look it up. I had this disease for 10 years, you'd think I'd know how to spell it by now! lol cheesygrin

      I can't even say it! eek

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      I mean I've had it for 10 years, not I had it, it's still here like an unwelcome guest!
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      awww, I'm sorry you are dealing with this.  I'll keep you close to my heart and say prayers for you.

      Hugs

      Frustrated

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      Thank you, that means a lot to me! What are you suffering from if you don't mind me asking?

      Hugsies Georgia razz

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      have to jump in here as well 

      because they have deleated the conversation on the gmo foods so i didnt get your reply .talk about keeping us in the dark and feeding us bull 

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      Yes how are we supposed to compare notes and learn about things that help us and don't help us if we don't have freedom of speech.

      It was probably because you mentioned a company; I think they should allow us to talk about GM foods because it's a general topic and not either promoting or criticising anyone in particular? And foods affect our health so it's relevant to our illnesses and what to eat and what to avoid if we want to get better.

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      as you i didnt post a link just suggested you read the article which is on the net for anyone to see and read . that god we are in the eu they have stated 

      that gm foods have to be listed but not so in the USA so they eat because they cant avoid it .

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      To be honest I've never seen a GM food label on my foods, perhaps because I haven't been looking out for it but thanks to you I will from now on and I won't buy buy those foods again! 
    • Posted

      in uk and in europe it has to tell you if theres gm crops in it 

      my brother has found away to make bread with buckwheat flour and add

      even more nutrition to it by adding sprouted buck wheat which he does him self from the seeds

       ,as you no can buy sprouted buck wheat flour

      but its extreamly expensive . 

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      I used to bake bread with buckwheat flour but I'm too exhausted now. It's a vicous cycle, the harder I try and the more energy I use up trying to look after myself the more exhausted I am but the less I try the iller I am.

      I can't find an answer.

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      i know my brother is a batchlor so although suffers with depression due to aspergers he has all the time to do what he wants 

      i am like you i would like to try this sort of stuff 

      but the thought of doing , it alone exshusts me 

      i seem to be going through a really bad fatigue fase at the moment 

      just cant shake it of .

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      Me too Tian, in my head I really want to do things around the house but my body is so limited. It's as though I've been trapped in an iron suit for 10 years!

      Is that how you feel? Trapped in a body that won't work properly?

      Know what, I really hope some medical professionals are reading forums like these. Or am I dreaming that they'd bother. Yes!

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      i feel my body is in prison and my brain keeps trying to escape 

      iv always been so outside person so busy busy 

      just always needed to be doing now its a reall big struggle 

      and its made harder by people who dont believe it is a reall problem 

      and that we are all swinging the lead

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      why would we ,we are so desperate to be like our old selfs some of us spend a fortune trying differant things to get better why would we 

      if we wernt ill and just swinging the lead.

      i had to go up stairs twice today because id forgotten something 

      the second time i thought i was going to die i felt so awful i could feel the pulse banging in my neck and my temples and my heart was thumping

      first time iv actuly felt scared with this condition 

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      Yes I used to be an outside running around type person and I can't stand this!
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      I have to go to sleep a lot, sometimes several times a day and I always wake up in a state of fear and utter dread. It take about 20 minutes to calm down a bit.
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      Georgia, don't feel bad, I do that too.  It's our body repairing itself, I'm guessing but it sounds good smile  That state of fear and dread, that's an awful way to wake up I've done that many times and think it's the next day....just all confussssllled 

      cheesygrin

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      i really fight to stay awake but it dosent work ,and when i wake up its always with a start and a bit of panic .
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      its so unfair really is ,esp when people think we are just lazy 

      and our poor frustrated minds are trapped in side a great useless lump of a body that just wont work arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh

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      That's the great thing about us together talking about it; we believe each other! razz
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      I think that's the first time I've ever told anyone about waking up in fear and dread and you and Tis get it too. I felt as though I was the only one! 
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      no iv done it most of my life ,comes from childhood.

      i hate falling asleep in the day because i dont know were i am or who i am

      for a second or two .when i wake up

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      That's it exactly; waking up in a state of utter confusion and questioning where am I, what am I so afraid of, am I alright or not, what do I have to do, etc, etc, then it's the calming process talking to oneself saying it's alright I'm at home, need to take my herbs, go to the toilet, this, that, and I'll be alright soon.
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      The trouble is that it can last from 20 minutes to an hour feeling like that and sometimes it's most of the day.
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      ITS A BIT LIKE WAKING SUDDENLY FROM A NIGHTMARE 

      i remember when i was pregnant with my eldest 

      i became very anemic and no one was listening to me again

      i was so tired i was a sleep all day and evening and went to bedabout 10pm one night i woke up about 9pm and i had actuly lost my memory 

      i didnt no my name, where i was ,or why i was pregnant could remember a thing for about 15 mins now that was really scary .dont out that at 8months pregnant i needed 4pints of blood i was so anemic .

      quacks the lot of them doctors!

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      Yes on the nightmarish feeling! Like something's terribly wrong and I don't know what until I remember that it's the ME and that the fear will go soon.

      Your losing your memory so badly sounds awful! eek I haven't taken Gingko biloba for a while but it's good for the memory and energy so I'll have to order some.

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      i tried it made me hot and upset my stomach i shall have to think about omega 3 as thats what the brain needs as its pretty much made up with

      this oil ,people short in it are the ones who tend to devlope dementia

       

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      Crikey! I'm glad I eat a lot of fish, have good oils in my diet and take oil suppements then. It's not fun talking to my friend Alison when she doesn't have a clue what she's saying and is a little crazy through early onset dementia. It's heart breaking. cry
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      it certainly most be check your omega 6 intake that is not good for you its been put in so many foods due to it being plant based a little is ok but to much will undo your good work .eek
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      i dont no if you eat nuts  if you do soak them in water first starts the digestive progress of , macadma nuts are the most health they have a higher omega 3 and much lower omega 6 . but are expensive . 

      iv noticed that tescos have a dairy free chilled range now razz

      and in newcastle they have  made a range of cheeses using

      cashew nuts its being launched soon . sorry if iv told you allr eady 

      the old brain fog 

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      No I haven't heard you mention nut cheese before, interesting! Sounds good. razz
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      i found it on line its a company in up this way in newcastle 

      thats launched it if i can find it again i pass it on

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