Do I have an alcohol abuse problem?
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I am really struggling to identify if i have a problem, or if this is in the realm of normal. I don't like fishing for medical terms and self diagnosis, but I just don't know what to do anymore.
I am mid twenties, I definitely can say for sure I am not dependant on alcohol, but alcohol is causing a problem in my life. I will regularly have a glass of wine after work at home with my dinner, this is fine and I limit it to only 1 glass, perhaps once or twice a week. I do not crave or need alcohol to function. The problem is when I go out with friends or my partner at the weekend, the chances are i will get drunk, I don't know when to stop and when I do get drunk 9/10 occasions I will act out like a different person. I have done this several times over the years, had arguments with friends and partners and nothing seems to change. I don't know what happens, one minute I am fine having a good time. the next I am grumpy, moody, become argumentative, confrontational, stressy causing blazing rows and insulting people i care about. On occasions, I have even frightened myself, not knowing how I got home, or just generally acting in an atrocious manner.
The next day is always the same, I am humiliated, embarrassed & apologetic.
I guess the reason I have come here is because after my most recent stunt, it has occured to me my apologies have zero value now and that really affects me.
I have done so much reading and I just cant understand If I fall into a category of alcohol abuse or not and I am helpless as to what to do. Do I need to be someone who has to totally abstain from drinking, or is there a way I can control it?
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old_maid hummtasty
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Sorry to hear that you have been having problems with drink. I am not a doctor but have gone through the same as you. After years of being like you, I now am seeking help from a support group. Because alcohol is causing you to notice that there may be a problem then there probably is one. Alcoholics do not wake up one day and become one. They get there progressively by not identifying the problem. If I could change my love I certainly would. Like you, I started off occassionaly having a drink at parties only but got drunk everytime. Over Christmas last year I was drink before I even got there. It was just after new year I started to do something about it. Good luck.
pistal666 hummtasty
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Yup, You are abusing the Alcohol at the Weekends. It is already become a huge Problem, and you even said it yourself "The next day is always the same, I am humiliated", I would wanna fix that, simple way is to control the Drink before it gets you. x
Robin2015 hummtasty
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alex01280 hummtasty
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You have a problem drinking in social settings and need a way to fix this.
One simple way would be to stop drinking alcohol when you are socialising. Easier said than done for most people.
?If you can't do that then you'll need to find a way to control your drinking when you are in social settings. Do you have any ideas how you could do this?
?If not, then you might want to consider that feeling humiliated and embarrassed is too big a price to pay and that you should limit your drinking to meal times.
?All the best!