Do I have gonorrhea?

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I am a 56 yo married man. Last month I had a couple of sexual encounters with other men. Deep kissing. Also oral sex both ways. I sucked penis and had my penis sucked. I did not ever have cum in my mouth but I think I tasted precum once.

I have no symptoms of anything at all.

Since the encounters I have had oral sex with my wife where she has sucked me. I have not ejaculated in her mouth.

Recently she has had a small amount of whitish discharge. No smell. She is post menopause and suffers from vaginal dryness and I have read that discharge can be normal here.

I am very worried I have given her gonorrhea. I am getting tested next week.

What are my chances or probability?

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    Hi The incubation period is 2 to 6 days, so yes time to get to your local sexual health/GUM clinic and get tested, but are you showing any signs of it like dripping penis green, discharge, in not I don't think you have it, but do go get tested.

    As your married I would stop playing around, to many risks as your finding out. OK

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      Hi Howhard, thank you.

      I have no symptoms whatsoever.

      And yes, I am learning a very difficult lesson.

      My main point is that if someone with throat gonorrhea sucks my penis, how likely is transfer of infection?

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      Hi W This is from medicinenet. I think it covers what your looking for in the way of info.

      Specifically, oral gonorrhea (also termed pharyngeal gonorrhea) is defined as an STD infection of the pharynx with Gram-negative coccal-shaped (round) bacteria named Neisseria gonorrhoeae. Infection is acquired through direct contact with white/yellowish pus-like fluid (also termed discharge or exudates) containing N. gonorrhoeae bacteria from one sex partner. This discharge is caused by N. gonorrhoeae bacterium inflaming the local tissue. It mixes with a person's vaginal fluids, seminal fluids, or mucus membranes near the anus and rectum that come in contact with another person's oral mucus membranes. The exudate may not always be easy to see. The bacterial infection then establishes itself in the pharynx and may be asymptomatic (cause no symptoms), but can cause symptoms of sore throat and discomfort when swallowing food. The affected throat resembles a strep throat with redness and occasionally may have some white spots or whitish/yellow discharge. People who perform fellatio (oral contact with a penis) are more likely to get oral gonorrhea than those who do cunnilingus (oral contact with the vagina, clitoris). Men who have sex with other men are the most likely to develop oral gonorrhea (about 10% to 25%).

      Although oral gonorrhea can be cured by the body (ranges from about a week to three months), not all people will be able to self-cure and this could lead to spread of the disease throughout the body (disseminated gonorrhea).

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    Well Way  I don't think so but what Howard said is the best for you to do.  Go get checked to make sure.  And please don't put yourself in this spot again.  It's not fare to your wife  Ken  

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      Thank you Kenneth.

      I have learnt a very difficult lesson.

      Having thought it through very carefully, it seems that my risk comes from having my penis sucked by someone with throat gonorrhea.

      What I don't understand is that if this is a lower risk, why is gonorrhea more prevalent in MSM?

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