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Hi all this is my story. I got married 2 years ago, up until then i had lived on my own for 21 years with my 2 children, my husband moved in with me shortly before the wedding, then had to move out again shortly afterwards due to his mum being ill and he had to care for his dad, then he moved back in again 2 months later., this pattern repeated itself once more. At this point i became obsessed with everything being in order. I don't want to drag this post on going into pages of symptoms and everything that stresses me out so i shall be brief. I was already starting to become pre obsessed with everything being clean and tidy, then 12 months ago i injured my back and could sit for no longer than 10 minutes, or sleep, so i was constantly on the go, finding anything to do to keep me mobile,to keep me pain free, as a result i get up early and have an overwhelming urge to clean the entire house.
I moan and complain if no one helps me, then when they offer i refuse because i NEED to do it myself, my husband helps out but i have to redo everything once he's out of the way. he's getting stressed with me.
Apart from work i hate to be away from the house because i feel that if i'm not there its getting dirty. and i rush to get home.
I have also stopped socialising as a result of the above comment.
I have overwhelming urges to clean the toilet all through the day, everything has to be wiped with antibac wipes,
I wont let anyone else hang the washing out, either on the line outside or on the airer, i have to redo it if they do.
I cannot for one minute sit down and chill out, i feel i need to be "doing something" constantly.
I went to the shop just 30 minutes ago to get my usual stack of anti bac wipes, and my usual brand was out of stock, and for the first time ever i found myself shaking!!!!
Earlier this month i was in bed ill for 5 days and found myself mentally cleaning the house, in the order i do it, my husband did it for me but i could still not settle.
Insomnia has started creeping in in the last 3 weeks, I get up very early and start cleaning, and don't feel like i deserve any me time untill a few hours work have been put in.
If anything get "rearranged" in the house different to how i place things it stresses me out and i start shouting at everyone.
Carpets have to be steamed on a daily basis, hairs and dust worry me.
The hoover has to be out several times a day, if not, i have the strongest of urges to do it, it takes over me and it's like a scratch i need to itch.
And more recently I am going away next year on holiday and leaving my 2 boys at home (they're adults) and i am starting to panic at the thought of not being at home and nothing being cleaned for 10 days, to the point i am considering bringing someone in to do it all for me whilst i'm away, (or not going at all)i'm stressing out at the thought of the toilet not being cleaned!! (my boys wont do it).
These are the main things which consume me, i don't know what to do about it, i feel ashamed and embarrassed so wont seek help, i tell myself that i don't have a probelm, and besides it's a good problem to have.
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