Do I or don't I that is the question???

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Do I or don't I that is my question my op date is imminent for bypass surgery however so many people are saying I'm fine how I am, I'm 15st 7lb, size 22.  I have been planning for this for the last 18 months, now I'm not sure.  My husband is happy the way I am and is a fantastic cook and looks forward to us enjoying meals.  We have a very full social calendar both of these will be effected.  Do I go through it just to be a few sizes small.  My general health is fine, no medication taken, but that would also change.  I'm in a pickle what to do!!

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    I have thought about this kind of thing, but I know I'm not happy with my size 20..

    And social gatherings can still be enjoyed i just won't over eat at them and if I don't have the op and keep eating large amounts I'll be bigger in a few years living this fat un happy unhealthy life just enjoying foods and gaining more !!! I'm looking at it as eat to survive not eat to gain ! X

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      I have never waivered until now.  I started on list last August and have had so many knock backs, then the op was cancelled in December, just feels like someone is trying to tell me something!
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    Hi Christine, I was like you couldn't make my mind up, but I have decided to go for a gastric band, I'm book to go in on the 1st March , feeling a little nervous, but I need to feel better in myself, only you can make the decision ,and not to please anyone else 😊😊 hope you find what you want.
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    Hi Christine,

    I was a similar size to you and had a band fitted last march. I don't regret it but don't expect miracles!! its a very slow process - I have lost over 2 stone since the op and would like another stone to go but I am being patient.  If you love your food then it will be a problem as there are so many things I can no longer eat.  But I feel so much healthier and more confident.  Overall its beena  very positive experience.... I recovered very quickly from the op too and the aftercare from healthier weight has been excellent.

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      Hi Nichola

      At the moment I think I am going to opt out. I am in quite good health and take no medication, if I go ahead I will be taking tablets for the rest of my life.  Also, I don't know if I can justify going under the knife for vanity because thats all it is, I don't need it.  The other people I have seen at the clinic have all been a lot larger and I can understand them doing it.  The other thing is that once the weight has gone you have all the excess skin to deal with, another operation. I have started a diet club in my home consisting of family and friends, hopefully we will succeed together.

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      chirstine is considering having RNY surgery not a band so her experience will differ from your own in as much as her wgt loss will be very rapid initially - much more so than with a band - also the foods which she cannot eat will also differ to those of a bandster
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      if you are in any way undecided then I think you have made the right choice as it is a massive decision to make and not one to be taken lightly ( no pun intended) - if vanity is indeed th e only reason for wanting wgt loss surgery and not for wanting to improve your health then it is very drastic step to have bits of you cut out - just my opinion - many people do have it though to improve their quality of life and health status and that is great - i think you have to do something like this for yourself - you have to ignore what other people think and whether your husband regards your size as ok cos these other people do not know what you feel like inside - not everyone who has wgt  loss surgery goes on to have plastic surgery - decent underwear can work wonders!!!! good luck with your sliming club and if it does not work you can always reconsider but if you were to have the op and then decidd it was not for you there is no going back so i def think you have done the right thing  
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    Good luck with whatever you choose to do.  I was in denial about how large I was but I used to avoid having my picture taken at all times and avoid any social events.  Having the band fitted was a very positive move for me and yes it is vanity to an extent but i also had yype 2 diabetes which has now been reversed.  I have tried so many different diets in the past and been unsuccessful with all of them....I had it done because I feared that my weight would continue going up and the risks associated with surgery increase with weight....i hope your diet club works for you but feel free to chat if you need x
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      Hi Nicola,

      i hope hope you don't mind me responding...but I just feel really encouraged by your band success. I have six stones to lose...too much to lose with a band?

      would really value some advice.

      many thanks in advance X X x

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      i lost just oer 6 stones with a band and i know many people who havelost a lot more -its more to do with what type of eater you are - if you graze and pick and snack then the band might not be the best thing for you cos the band will not stop you from doing this - also if you have a sweet tooth once again the band might not be the best type of wgt loss surgery - if you eat big meals then the band might well be good for you cos the band will s top you from doing this however the band will not make good food choices for you - this i s something you have to do with your willpower - the best person to advise would be a bariatric consultant who would look at your eating habits, life style, heath status and make an informed decision however it is good to do some research yourself and you might get more help from a support group on online group which specialises in wgt loss surgery - WLSinfo would be a good place to start or you could enquire at your local bariatric hosp to see if they have any such groups - goo d lcuk
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      Thanks for such a great reply X x

      I will definitely follow your advice X x

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    Thank you all for your responses, I will be giving it a lot of thought and will not decide until the moment the appointment comes through.  Will let you know one way or another. Thanks again.
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